Is your spouse threatened by your weight loss??

For the most part my husband has been ok with it except he's tired of hearing me talk about it. I really and truely think he has no concept of how many calories is in anything or how to eat healthy. So when I say I only have 500 calories left for supper and can't eat the macaroni and cheese he thinks that's silly because in his head there is no way mac and cheese has 300 calories a serving. I've been trying to educate him on different foods but he's just not into it right now.

My husband had never said a word about my accomplishments here, and still, 76 pounds later, never has in a round about way. I finally confronted him, in tears, after 40 pounds off. He said. "I loved you just the way you were, and we both know how many times you have tried to loose weight and failed. If I tell you that you look good now, and you gain it back, you will think I no longer think you look good." I guess that makes since. coming from a man. I went out and bought my first non-obese pair of jeans 2 day's ago, a 17 L.E.I, that my daughter picked out. Compliments from everyone, but him. UGH! His round about way of complimenting is "your smaller then your daughter now". As for the food thing, we went through that at first. He would say, I couldn't buy for me, and not for you, or, I know your hungry and there's nothing healthy in there to eat and you have to eat something. Now it's, "well, I know your not going to eat there, or I know you won't eat that." LOL! Keep up your good work, and he will come around!

That's funny, tired of hearing you talk about it. I am a big facebook addict. My family and friends are all there. I had a friend, of 20 years take me off of her facebook list. She said "I'm tired of hearing you talk about loosing weight. You're not the first, nor will you be the last, fat woman to loose weight." Well, she isn't the skinnest, I think she was jealous! LOL!

I'm glad to say my boyfriend isn't like that. I was about to jump into the shower without working out today and my boyfriend just said to me "aren't you going to do the Shred today? I thought you were starting level 2?". His little bit of encouragement was enough to get me to work out when I really didn't want to

My guy also wants to lose weight (50lbs), I wondered if he would be supportive as anytime I ever said "Do u really think I can do this?" his answer would always be something like "Time will tell" .... nothing encouraging at all.. but I think he realized I needed that encouragement. He very much supports me on here now, and what I'm doing. I have a goal to lose 20lbs by Christmas and he tells me he thinks that I will pass my goal.. Once he saw me start losing the weight, its like he went completely the opposite and really saw it was making me happy and that I COULD do it.. He also has made the mistake of offering me junk that he is eating himself. I just ask him "REALLY?!?" and then laugh.. I think when he offers me junk, he just has a moment and forgets that I can't eat that stuff. Not that he isn't supporting me, but just that he's so used to both of us eating that stuff.. That he doesn't think of it when he offers. Unless your hubby starts constantly pushing this bad food on you, I'd say maybe he just forgets in that moment. Good luck and I think you are doing a great job!!! And WTG on the willpower to not eat the pizza roll!!!

It may also be his way of saying that you're not changing what HE eats! Just hang in there...but definitely sit down and talk to him when you are not upset and feeling threatened. Use a lot of "it makes me feel like" and " it make me think you feel" not "you are" when you describe your take on the situation and that will keep him from getting defensive.