Do people get Annoyed with you?

My grandma would always pinch my love handles and comment on how much weight I had gained. Then she would offer me homemade cookies or pie..

My grandma did this, too. In fact, she was probably the worst when I was a kid. She had baked goods and sugar EVERYWHERE, and ate it like no tomorrow, but she was so snarky on people's weight, especially mine. To this day she will point out if she thinks I am looking "Slimmer." Thanks, gram, but I'm not 12 anymore.

Sometimes when I cut the fat away.

Yes, but I don't let it bother me.

Yep... Most of my friends eat meat. I don't and haven't for over half a year now, and even when I did, I didn't often because it's always been difficult for me. Some of them, I find it hard to eat around (the more obvious and overt things which blatantly remind me that what's on their plate was at one point alive make me gag, like visible tendons or cartilage), so I just don't go to dinner with them any more, or make sure I'm seated away from them.

Lately, I was out with a few of my friends, one who I would describe as "veggie-ophobic," passed me her side salad (which had Caesar dressing on it... which includes anchovy paste... but w/e, I was already having salad, I didn't really want hers), and made a comment about how I like "rabbit food" and a couple of the others said things like "it's green, give it to Cora." Now, I know it was meant to be funny, but it gets annoying enough being stared at like I've grown an extra head out of the side of my neck when I ask for pretty much anything without meat. Servers at places like Chipotle are known to stare at me and go "no meat? Are you sure?" when I say "No meat, just double veggies, please" like they can't believe I wouldn't want meat.

I don't sit there and lecture them about why I don't eat meat. If they choose to stop eating it, I'm supportive, and if they choose not to, that's up to them. I tell them if they ask, and I have a habit of asking for extra of things which have good iron and protein content because I am anemic, so the "lack of protein" arguments don't work on me - especially considering I have long hair and my nails grow just fine, which are indications that my protein levels are just fine. I'm fine to have the "why I don't eat meat" conversation at virtually any time, but mocking comments do get tiresome. Also, some people seem to think that this lifestyle choice is difficult for me. It isn't. It's actually the most natural for me. As a child, I had to be bribed or forced to eat any sort of meat (yes, I was that weird child who didn't like cheeseburgers and would choose avocado with some salt on it over candy), so, in all honesty, I'm just going back to the way I've always preferred to eat, and the weight loss was just a happy coincidence at first. I'm not preachy about it. I consider it a personal choice, and it's one I'm quite content in. My getting healthier and lower cholesterol was originally a consequence of the fact that I filled the space that meat had been filling with mostly steamed green vegetables (which I legitimately like), and I've never been much of a fan of butter. After some research, I decided to consciously try to lose weight, and I've settled on my current methods, which work quite nicely for me and simplify my life, really.

My grandfather gets annoyed with me because I won't eat dishes that have been cooked with meat in, and I ask about the ingredients in everything. He tells me to just "eat around" the meat, and doesn't really understand that the juices from the chicken, pork, beef or fish are still present, so if I just pick it out, I might as well just eat it as it was cooked. I've gotten called spoiled, picky, ungrateful (I purchase, cook and clean up after all of my own food, so idk where he gets that idea. I also pay part of the electricity, water and gas bills, so my eating habits literally don't cost him a dime, ever. If anything, he saves money off of it because I often buy extra fruit and vegetables that he and my grandmother are welcome to if they want them) and that I'm "buying into Hollywood ideas," (... o_O?!! ... whatever that means) as well as getting lectures about how God says that we're supposed to eat meat. I'm not entirely sure where they're trying to go with that one since they're painfully aware that I'm not a Christian.

Ever have someone or family member encourage you to eat badly when they know you are watching what you eat and are doing the right thing for your health?

For me that has to be one of the most disrespectful things to do to a person. And when you gain weight they comment on it, but are quick to discourage you when you are serious.

ALL THE TIME.

And yet they know I'm not one to never eat a burger or chocolate cake, I eat "bad food" all the time, because taste buds, but that one time I actually prefer to order a salad, LET THE CRITICISM BEGIN!

All the time.

To an extent, my boyfriend tends to lecture me about calorie counting, but that is mainly because last time I did this (several years ago) I got rather obsessed and ended up restricting to about 500 calories a day, so I think he is just scared that will happen again!

My grandma (when she was alive) was queen of the "you have put on weight... have some cake!" It always just made me laugh at her!

Probable, but who cares? It's my life and my body!

Recently all my family, mum, dad, brother and then husband have told me how 'fat' I am getting...not very nice when they all have a go. But as I have told them I have stopped smoking (since April) it's hard to do both.

But then when I told them I was going to start cutting down the first thing that was said was 'don't go too mad', arghhh you really just can't win sometimes.

But I do hate it when people are watching me eat and thinking about what sort of remark they can make about it......:grumble:

I should say that I get annoyed with other people, but they are times when they will try to tempt me into having something nice...

My grandmother did that too.