I need direction!

This is a "if you were me" question open to all responses! Generally looking for where to go now.

Ok, so I've been working out for 4 yrs, lost 25kgs, now 54kgs, ? % body fat. Eat around 1700 cals a day on a 40/30/30 which I tend to get near, but often have more carbs and lower fat. I have a sweet tooth and I like wine.

I have started lifting this year, just finishing NROLFW during which I have seen good strength gains considering what I started at. I now ponder where to go from here. I want to improve strength, I want to move from the skinny look to the ripped (for a Mum of 3) look. I don't know if my diet restricts that as I have quite a bit of sugar - does that matter? I hear a lot of 'abs are made in the kitchen' talk. True?

My diary is on mfp if browsing will help answer! Sorry for the waffling on..... just wondered if anyone has an idea of where I should be headed next to achieve what I want? Thanks in advance!