I'm Trying Everything to Lose Weight...help!

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You have to do it for YOU!
You have to want it or it won't stick!

I'm the same way! No one wants to go to the gym with me. It isn't as fun doing it alone, takes a lot of self control & motivation.

Just dropped my first 20, having a not so great week, since a lot of my entertainment comes from food, lunch dates, no bueno.

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You've got to change your approach! Weight loss and general health cannot be achieved through a quick fix or a fad diet, they are a LIFESTYLE. Set sensible goals for yourself regarding diet and exercise, start slow and keep at it! Start by introducing healthier foods into your diet and if a workout DVD is too much at the beginning, go on walks.

I have made slow progress over the last year, but taking it slow has allowed me to make changes that are here to stay.

You've got to change your approach! Weight loss and general health cannot be achieved through a quick fix or a fad diet, they are a LIFESTYLE. Set sensible goals for yourself regarding diet and exercise, start slow and keep at it! Start by introducing healthier foods into your diet and if a workout DVD is too much at the beginning, go on walks.

I have made slow progress over the last year, but taking it slow has allowed me to make changes that are here to stay.

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Keep trying!!

You've got to change your approach! Weight loss and general health cannot be achieved through a quick fix or a fad diet, they are a LIFESTYLE. Set sensible goals for yourself regarding diet and exercise, start slow and keep at it! Start by introducing healthier foods into your diet and if a workout DVD is too much at the beginning, go on walks.

I have made slow progress over the last year, but taking it slow has allowed me to make changes that are here to stay.

Everything she just said!

You need to break the bad habits you have set in your mind. It's not really rocket science but it's hard if your mind is giving you a million excuses to NOT DO IT.

First thing I would say is self motivate. Google pictures like 'Bodybuilding Motivation' or other stuff around fitness and motivation and post one pic a day to your facebook wall. (Ignore the name like bodybuilding it's the pictures/motivational words/pictures you want to be looking at)

I will assume you have bad eating habits as well given the excuses you are telling yourself. This is something else you need to break the best way is to set out a plan of what you're going to eat each day for a month and stick to it. Make it strict but healthy while allowing yourself a cheat meal at the end of the week.

You really have to want it bad enough to go earn it.

Leg's hurting, go gym and lift some light weights. If you are female don't worry about getting huge it's not gonna happen but weights will help you get toned and give you strength. You might find lifting weights easier than doing cardio but a better workout overall for your body. If your leg is better do 40-60 mins walking a day take one day off.

I do know where you are coming from with excuses I have had 7 years worth of it since I last tried to lose weight. I've lost 60lb in total in like 4 months. I'm working out daily, eating well. Eating within my goals and setting a standard for how I want to live.You don't need a gym buddy you need yourself, a headset and some music and you need your mind trained on the prize on the goal you're aiming for.

Good luck.

You don't need a gym buddy you need yourself, a headset and some music and you need your mind trained on the prize on the goal you're aiming for.

^^^THIS^^^
In the end you just need YOU and WILLPOWER! You need the WANT that it takes to get to where you are trying to go. You can do it!

Motivation has to come from within. Encouragement comes from others. But others cannot *motivate* you.

Have you tried scheduling your workouts? Treat them like they are immovable appointments.

Make a "reward jar" - put a dollar in it every time you work out and set a goal (ie workout at least 20 days during the month of August, or lose 5 pounds, or run 50 miles in the month, or complete all 60 days of Insanity, or whatever). When you reach your goal, you take the money out of the jar and do something fun related to fitness with it (my rewards of choice are a new workout outfit, or a pedicure, or maybe an upgrade for my bike, or order a new workout program). You get the idea. Just NEVER reward yourself with food.

If you don't feel like working out (unless you are actually sick), start your workout and promise yourself that if, after 10 minutes, you STILL don't feel like working out, you can stop. 90% of the time, you'll finish the workout.

FIND workout buddies. they do NOT need to be local. I run fitness groups on Facebook all the time, and none of us are in the same location, but we check in with each other daily.

Another important factor is to find your "soulmate" workout. If you don't enjoy it, you won't do it (although make sure you give yourself a little time trying something out before you say you don't like it - I HATED running at first, but now I can honestly say that even if I don't particularly want to get started, once I'm out there, I do enjoy it - and I LOVE how I feel after). And your soulmate workout could be anything - swimming, running, biking, zumba, going to the gym, Insanity, P90X, etc. But you have to find what you really enjoy. :happy:

Have you tried this new thing called Calorie Deficit? It really works!

I've tried so many tips, tricks, and fads to try to lose weight. My biggest issue is my patience, or lack thereof. I have no "gym buddies" because they moved away, so my accountabilibuddies are gone, and I've gotten lazy. I've still managed to keep off the 20lbs I lost a couple years ago, but I'm itching to lose more. I'm using work as my excuse to not going to the gym. So, I got Insanity, and did that for a few days. Then my knee was bothering me (I had surgery a couple years ago), so I used that as an excuse.

Basically, if there's an excuse to NOT workout, I find it. I need people to help me be motivated and stay driven in losing weight and being healthy. This process is so taxing and lonely where I am, that I just don't see the reason to even stick with it.

Aww that's such a cute word. Why don't you buy an angry bird stuffed animal or go get a stuffed toy at build a bear with a frowny face. Then iron on "accountabilibuddy" on one of those tiny build a bear T shirts and put it on him. Then take a pic with your cell phone an put it as your desktop background, your phone screen, and print one out for your fridge. Print out stickers at fedex kinkos and put your accountabillibuddy on all your pre-packed healthy lunch brown bags for work. Finally, leave your IRL accountabilibuddy on your bed so he's the last thing you see on your bed before you go to sleep at night so you won't be tempted to get up for midnight snacks.

If you decide to get a build a bear one ask them when they are sewing his heart and talker things in to cut off the little embroidery that forms his smile if you can't find a frowny one. He should look like he's judging you at all times.

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...then you don't want it bad enough.

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Maybe sign up for a fitness class? Whether it's yoga or spinning or zumba or crossfit, sometimes having a teacher there who expects you to show up (and if you're prepaid for a series of classes then you better show up, says your wallet) can be helpful. Maybe use Meetup.com to help you find some like-minded workout buddies in your area
Hope some of this helps a little bit?

Also make small goals like 5_10 lbs at a time, tell yourself to just di something for 10 mins a day even a walk. I find if I do this I almost always do way more. Like yesterday my 10 min walk turned intp 105 min walk.but if I would have set out to do 105 mins I would have made up excuses. I do the same thing with the gym. I make jyself go for 15 mins but once I am there I always stay longer.it sounds like you are doing the all or nothing approach that I did most of my life, it just doesnt work. Alsoyou could see if there r some people on mfp that live near u that could meet at the gym or go walking.I hope this helps

...then you don't want it bad enough.

period.
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Yup. No one can change you, but you.

Exactly. You have to WANT to do it. I complained about my weight for years, wanted to lose it, but didn't do anything to lose it. I had a light bulb moment April 2012 and decided enough was enough. No more excuses, no more being lazy, no more bullsh*tting myself. I'm worth more than that. So until you have your own moment like that, it's not going to happen. Not trying to be negative, just saying until you actually really want it, and you want to change, it won't happen. No one can do it for you.

Don't give up! Really you have only just begun. I find my accountability right here by logging in every day. I will support you however I can. Its a long journey back to being healthy but I know it will be worth it! Find your motivation right here. Friend me.