Heartbroken, and trying to stay on track

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  • Stump_Likker
    Stump_Likker Posts: 2,059 Member
    Such powerful advice from all of you. Thank you. I decided to dust myself off, get out in the sun today, as it's beautiful where I am, and meet some new people. I was invited on a whim, and while I wanted to stay home and feel sorry for myself, i decided... get up and move your *kitten*. So I'm going :)

    :drinker:
  • Italiano7
    Italiano7 Posts: 382 Member
    First of all forget that *kitten*. He clearly has issues with himself, he's not happy with himself. Focus on yourself from here on. In due time you will forget about him and reach your goals. Good Luck!! feel free to add me.
  • stahlhaus
    stahlhaus Posts: 23 Member
    So sad how some people need others to feel bad so they can feel good. But you can't control what another person says or does, but you CAN choose whether to be in relationship with that type of person (most of the time)..

    A person who puts others down is a weak person, but only has power if others allow it. There's a quote attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt that says, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." I don't say this to make you feel bad, but to help you see where you have some control.

    I applaud you getting out and about. Pay attention to how others value you (whether good or bad), and decide "Do I feel better in their presence or worse?" I think we (especially as women) spend so much time considering how others think of us that we forget to evaluate whether WE like THEM! You deserve to be treated well and when you get that self-love firmly rooted, you will be surprised how that will start attracting the right type of men. Best wishes on your new journey to loving and VALUING yourself!

    Signed, Been There--Done That!!
  • bubblygoldfish
    bubblygoldfish Posts: 213 Member
    I agree with everyone, you do not need someone toxic in your life. You are strong. Trust God to lead you in enriching your life. He will provide you an opportunity for love when you are ready. Just be open to it. Be the person you want to be, today, that is your choice.
  • JanaCanada
    JanaCanada Posts: 917 Member
    A Christian AND a Torontonian? Add me..I am both, too! :flowerforyou:

    PS...Dump the dipsh!t. He doesn't deserve you. xo :smile:

    P.P.S. Yeah, Christians swear sometimes. :laugh:
  • kfavulous
    kfavulous Posts: 106 Member
    I left my husband after two years of marriage for various reasons...
    He lost 102lbs so far... I've lost 10 - and I was the one who left heartbroken!

    So... it happens. But lose the weight for YOU and get healthy for YOU.
  • sunfirelynn
    sunfirelynn Posts: 186 Member
    If he cant be supportive and cuts you up, I would dump him. You dont need that, your a pretty lady you could find a man that would treat you much better.
  • lenkearney
    lenkearney Posts: 116 Member
    suggest you take your exercise in a martial arts class- next time someone tries to cut you down- you will remember you can take THEM down.

    and you will meet some men who understand honor...

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