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I would love to help, but I'm to lazy to read all that. Good luck!

Marriage counseling trumps internet strangers any day.

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All of this could have been avoided if you were honest with him in the first place and told him you really weren't into it. It's sweet that you wanted to fulfill his fantasy but at what cost? Healthy fantasies are for the benefit of both parties, not just one. Sounds to me like he just wanted his cake, regardless of the impact it would have on your relationship. Good luck getting past this mess.

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Only you.. lol!

Sending fr to all the ladies who actually read all that.

Oh and would bang your hubby

First, you and your husband both need to break off what ever kind of sexual relationship you have with this other woman, stay friends if its possible if not than move on. Second you and your husband need to seek counseling together. I see this ending badly.

No.

No.

If this is serious, please get help. Not here, from a marriage counselor. Your HUSBAND has feelings for another woman and wants a girlfriend? Surely you know this is a problem.

Some people want an open relationship. If you don't, get help. He's having one.

I like the advice that my boyfriend (of 2 years) has told me, and I've heard him tell many other people when the topic of threesomes comes up:

If you agree to have a threesome, especially with another female, let the FEMALE in the relationship decide, NOT the male. Then she can find someone she's comfortable with and not feel intimidated or jealous by her boyfriend/husband choosing someone for her.

It actually makes SO MUCH SENSE when he told me this. We're both sexually open, and want to have a threesome with another girl sometime (I never have...with another girl that is ) but I know it won't happen unless I'm the one that finds the appropriate person. That, and taking a long process of finding another person and agreeing to meet up for some fun time in a week or so gives TOO MUCH time for overthinking and overreacting - when it happens unexpectedly, the jealous is a lot less.

Honestly you are not going to be able to be friends. And I think you need to figure out what you want in your marriage. Because I think your husbsnd WANTS the threesome fulltime otherwise he would have left the topic alone a while ago. Sorry but your marriagehas issues. I might think that you need professional help. Good luck. Sorry.

Oh honey.. I'm so sorry you are going through this tough time.
You got yourselves into a bit of a pickle.
A threesome works ONLY if the couple doesn't develop emotional feelings towards the third party. 3 people in a relationship is tough work and nearly impossible.
I would suggest you put your thoughts in order and then talk with both of them. At the same time.
You deserve to be happy as do they BUT that does not mean that what you feel or think is any less valid.

Seek professional help. There's going to be trust issues among others that will need to be addressed.

Best of luck.

OMGeezy, your marriage is doomed. You're married, you did it more than once to appease him, and he still isn't happy. Not to be mean, but you seem like the kind of person that will let him walk all over you and you'll never leave him. He still wants to dip his wick in a variety of poon while keeping you by his side. I bet if you told him you'd want a three-some with another dude, he'd have a fit.

If a guy I was dating brought up wanting to do a three-some, I'd make it clear that it wasn't my thing. I wouldn't try to be cool and say that I think it would be fun. I'd also probably dump him because that's a big red flag for me. I sure as crap wouldn't marry him or have his chud children.