lack of support? Come on really??

Nobody will care about your successes as much as you do. Please learn to accept that, or you will constantly be disappointed.

Ouch. If this were true about my marriage, I don't think I would have a very happy marriage. My husband and I go through life together and that includes our fitness/health. The other day I ran for an hour straight for the first time after 3 years of running, and the first thing I did was tell him. If anything, he was just as happy for me as I was for myself. When he achieves something, fitness related or not, I care just as much about his success as he does. I couldn't imagine it otherwise.

Completely agree. My husband may not be going for walks with me everyday(he works in a different state) but he encourages me and brings up the topic on his own. We used to have a gym membership and plan on getting one again when he gets home. I realize not all husbands want to exercise with their wives especially if they dont feel the need to do so. but every husband should be proud of their wives accomplishments. And every wife should have the support from her husband.

I agree. I don't understand why people don't share these kind of successes in a relationship.

My boyfriend doesn't eat as well as me, he eats my meals every night when I cook them but other than that he's a pig. but he encourages me to eat well and he walks, cycles, swims, surfs, skateboards with me and actively encourages me to keep going because he openly admits he wants me to look fitter but knows its not happening over night and the encouragement from him really pushes me to work harder.

Nobody will care about your successes as much as you do. Please learn to accept that, or you will constantly be disappointed.

^QFT...OP Do it for you and anything else consider a bonus.(smartest bit of advice I have read on the forums in ages about lack of support)

I am so frustrated. Just on Sunday I was talking with the Hub and we were talking about cardio and running/jogging. I shared that I was embarrassed to BC of a jiggling belly and such. He said maybe "you will someday." Well, today the trainer had me jog from one end of the yard to the other x3. I did it. In total it was 3/4 of a mile. Plus the rest of the session. It was a good day!

I shared with the Hub that I actually jogged today! His reaction an very blah "that's good." It was almost as if he didn't hear me.. I am so sick of the lack of support on his end. Hr says he likes the changes but doesn't show it and doesn't participate in the victories or working out with me when I ask..

I'm so over it..

Well done on your running!

Out of interest, are you continually going on and on about weightloss and exercise? If so, that will be why your husband is only "half there" when you start talking about it. As for getting him to join in, that will most likely, prove extremely difficult now because even if he did just go along with you because you asked him to, it wouldn't last long, unless he suddenly discovered a personal interest in the activity for himself.

Edited to say: I just read your profile and FWIW, I think you are very accomplished and have achieved a hell of a lot, do not let ANYBODY ever tell you any different. WTG OP, respect to you :flowerforyou:

Wow, I just read your profile and you are awesome! I'm sure your husband is also impressed but he's a bloke - they're different you know, you have to signal to them what the important things are and then you might get some enthusiasm You have done so well, lost heaps of weight and struggled with all sorts of problems, he must be really proud of you!

Elizabeth, it was after reading your post to the OP, made me go and look at the OP's profile and I am glad I did. Taught me a lesson in that I must not judge as I do not have all facts at my disposal.

:flowerforyou:

I went to work last week for the first time on 4 months, (I retired last year, and I'm doing the odd bank shift)
Since my last shift I've lost over two stone. Not a single person, NOT ONE of the people I've worked with for 13 years, mentioned that I looked thinner or commented on my weight loss at all.
Every week I weigh myself and come downstairs to tell my husband the result, his response is a less than resounding 'Well done", but again he never comments on my weight loss apart from that.
But you know what? it's OK. Because I'm not doing it for them, I'm doing it for me. I like feeling my clothes getting looser and looser. I like being able to go upstairs, or get out of chair with no effort at all.
So, if everyone around you ignores the new you, Sod it!
It's not important, as long as you notice and give yourself a pat on the back, then it doesn't matter about anyone else.

You've done so much amazing stuff already, he's acclimatised to your awesomeness. Well done, great achievement :-)

Congrats on your accomplishment. I can see both sides of the story here...I expect my husband to be as supportive as possible, but I also know he can't match my excitement levels when I have a victory. I'm in this for me...as you should be. Leading by example is the best influence we can possibly make with our loved ones! Hang in there and keep achieving!

I think this might be a tough topic for some guys. He might be afraid that his encouragement might be construed as you thinking that his encouragement is based on this notion that you need to lose weight. Also if he's seen failed attempts over the years, he may be thinking this is just another failed attempt.

You need to do this for you and you only---hopefully as you conquer goals and milestones, his enthusiam and encouragement will kick in.