I knew something was wrong with my wifes diet plan.

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Ok heres the deal. I keep track and log in my wifes info on her eating. Every time she attempted it she got frustrated and walked away. I was the one that set up her account. Today after reading about the 1200 cal concern i felt compelled to look at hers. -2 a week and she was at 1800+ cal. Ok something wrong so i did a check on the info i set her up with. OMG i set her height at 5' 7" instead of 5' 1". I feel like such an *kitten*. However even with my mistake she has still be able to drop -8 lbs in 1 month. But think about what i have done, setting the bar down is not an easy thing to do after being use to eating 500 calories more. Shes at work right now so she doesn't know. Not sure how to err break this error i made to her.
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  • hzliiz
    hzliiz Posts: 166 Member
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    I'm confused...regardless of her height if she has lost 8 lbs in a month why wouldn't she continue doing what she's been doing?
  • AndiGirl70
    AndiGirl70 Posts: 542 Member
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    You just be completely honest and tell you made her a "giant" by mistake. lol You can leave it as is, you can ask her to go cold turkey and stop eating the 500 extra, or you can wean 125 calories off her total each week for the next month. Losing 8lbs is still awesome though!
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
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    I'm confused...regardless of her height if she has lost 8 lbs in a month why wouldn't she continue doing what she's been doing?

    This.
    If she is losing on 1800, why cut it? Wait until she stops losing (for a few weeks, not just one or two) then drop it down a bit. No need to start out at the very bottom if its working at a higher and more managable level.

    I don't understand how it was wrong if it was working.
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
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    I'm confused...regardless of her height if she has lost 8 lbs in a month why wouldn't she continue doing what she's been doing?

    This.
    If she is losing on 1800, why cut it? Wait until she stops losing (for a few weeks, not just one or two) then drop it down a bit. No need to start out at the very bottom if its working at a higher and more managable level.

    I don't understand how it was wrong if it was working.

    ^ Another for this. Two pounds a week and you think that she needs to go immediately lower? MFP, like all calorie counters, provides an ESTIMATE. It's not a magic number and if what she's doing is working, leave her alone. If anything consider a few more calories for her, but that obviously depends on her goals and where she is starting from.
  • karlahere
    karlahere Posts: 79 Member
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    If it ain't broke, don't fix. it. By the way, how sweet of you to take care of your wife like this. NOW DELETE THIS THREAD BEFORE SHE SEES IT. :D
  • libertygirlfla
    libertygirlfla Posts: 184 Member
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    I'm confused...regardless of her height if she has lost 8 lbs in a month why wouldn't she continue doing what she's been doing?


    ^^^^^^^That's a fantastic rate of loss. Don't change anything until or unless she stops losing. Two lbs a week is perfect!
  • chantwizzle83
    chantwizzle83 Posts: 82 Member
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    Ya, 2 lbs a week is the most you should be losing. Anything more and theres something wrong.
  • Zaniejane
    Zaniejane Posts: 329 Member
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    Ok heres the deal. I keep track and log in my wifes info on her eating. Every time she attempted it she got frustrated and walked away. I was the one that set up her account. Today after reading about the 1200 cal concern i felt compelled to look at hers. -2 a week and she was at 1800+ cal. Ok something wrong so i did a check on the info i set her up with. OMG i set her height at 5' 7" instead of 5' 1". I feel like such an *kitten*. However even with my mistake she has still be able to drop -8 lbs in 1 month. But think about what i have done, setting the bar down is not an easy thing to do after being use to eating 500 calories more. Shes at work right now so she doesn't know. Not sure how to err break this error i made to her.

    Don't change a thing!! It's working.
    ( smh at know-it-all men)
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
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    Ok heres the deal. I keep track and log in my wifes info on her eating. Every time she attempted it she got frustrated and walked away. I was the one that set up her account. Today after reading about the 1200 cal concern i felt compelled to look at hers. -2 a week and she was at 1800+ cal. Ok something wrong so i did a check on the info i set her up with. OMG i set her height at 5' 7" instead of 5' 1". I feel like such an *kitten*. However even with my mistake she has still be able to drop -8 lbs in 1 month. But think about what i have done, setting the bar down is not an easy thing to do after being use to eating 500 calories more. Shes at work right now so she doesn't know. Not sure how to err break this error i made to her.

    Don't change a thing!! It's working.
    ( smh at know-it-all men)

    I probably think this post is about me . . . lol :angry:
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,268 Member
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    Ok heres the deal. I keep track and log in my wifes info on her eating. Every time she attempted it she got frustrated and walked away. I was the one that set up her account. Today after reading about the 1200 cal concern i felt compelled to look at hers. -2 a week and she was at 1800+ cal. Ok something wrong so i did a check on the info i set her up with. OMG i set her height at 5' 7" instead of 5' 1". I feel like such an *kitten*. However even with my mistake she has still be able to drop -8 lbs in 1 month. But think about what i have done, setting the bar down is not an easy thing to do after being use to eating 500 calories more. Shes at work right now so she doesn't know. Not sure how to err break this error i made to her.

    Don't change a thing!! It's working.
    ( smh at know-it-all men)

    ^^^This except if she doesn't take control and do it herself she wont maintain this....SHE has to want it bad enough not to get frustrated and walk away...you can make it easier for her by setting up her meals and her food for her but beyond that time to walk away from logging her food...
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    I'm confused...regardless of her height if she has lost 8 lbs in a month why wouldn't she continue doing what she's been doing?
    Exactly. As long as it's working, why drop it? She doesn't have to starve.
  • Marina809
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    I wouldn't change anything if it's working but I would tell her of your mistake just in case it stops working. That way she'll be prepared if she has to take on a bigger deficit. If this was her first month it's likely much of that 8 pounds was water weight so next month may not be as successful. Yeah, play it out at 1800 but definitely tell her now so that you don't have to tell her after another month of her being used to eating that much.
  • Gianna44
    Gianna44 Posts: 124
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    I'm 5'2" and if I could lose 2 lbs/ week at 1800 and you took 600 away I would be unhappy and ungrateful, if you know what I mean.

    If her weight loss begins to stall I would bring it down, but shouldn't we be eating the most calories we can in order to maintain a healthy rate of loss, since the calories will be decreasing as we lose?
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
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    MFP's program presumes eating back exercise calories, and it is pretty terrible with that 1200 calorie thing. When your wife gets closer to her goal weight, maybe lower it, but right now, don't.

    Your wife is 100+ pounds overweight, and she doesn't need to be eating 1200 calories to lose. You're in shape and have probably been through a couple bulk/cut cycles and know what it takes to lose at your body weight. Why would it be any different for her?

    Setting aside the issue that she needs to figure this all out for herself and that she is more likely to fail with you taking care of absolutely everything, keep her at the 1800 calorie level because it's working. She will very likely lose on that amount for a very long time. Don't change anything until she stalls. And by stall, I mean when her rate of loss is zero.
  • onwarddownward
    onwarddownward Posts: 1,683 Member
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    My question is, why isn't she doing this herself?
  • Otterluv
    Otterluv Posts: 9,083 Member
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    Leave it as is. Really, you want to be able to eat the maximum amount while still losing weight.
  • MsPudding
    MsPudding Posts: 562 Member
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    Ok heres the deal. I keep track and log in my wifes info on her eating. Every time she attempted it she got frustrated and walked away.


    Setting up her account, keeping track of her and logging her eating IMO goes way beyond support and well into spoon feeding territory. She needs to be accountable for herself and to herself or whatever she loses under your constant direction is not going to stay off. In my opinion the best support takes the form of encouragement.

    On the setting itself - if she was losing at 1800 a day then I'd say there's nothing to fix.
  • pienthesky32
    pienthesky32 Posts: 142 Member
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    If you insist she eat 1300 calories when she's been doing fine on 1800 calories, she's going to turn very b!tchy...if not from you messing it up, then from not eating enough. Too big a deficit will affect everything, especially her mood.
  • bethishere
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    mfp gave me a calorie goal that I thought was too low. I upped it several hundred, and still lost 17 pounds my first month. I may lower it later, but for now, I'm staying where I am.
  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
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    Ok heres the deal. I keep track and log in my wifes info on her eating. Every time she attempted it she got frustrated and walked away. I was the one that set up her account. Today after reading about the 1200 cal concern i felt compelled to look at hers. -2 a week and she was at 1800+ cal. Ok something wrong so i did a check on the info i set her up with. OMG i set her height at 5' 7" instead of 5' 1". I feel like such an *kitten*. However even with my mistake she has still be able to drop -8 lbs in 1 month. But think about what i have done, setting the bar down is not an easy thing to do after being use to eating 500 calories more. Shes at work right now so she doesn't know. Not sure how to err break this error i made to her.

    Don't change a thing!! It's working.
    ( smh at know-it-all men)

    I probably think this post is about me . . . lol :angry:

    You're so vain, I bet you think this post is aboout you, don't you?