Others jealous of your weight loss??

BlueBombers
BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
My in-laws think I have lost all this weight by taking something....like diet pills. They even questioned my dad about it yesterday. I am somewhat annoyed to be honest. Why do people always assume there is a magic pill to lose weight? Even my co-workers constantly ask me what is your secret (like what are you taking) and a lot of them say it in almost a jealous way. It's not rocket science...I eat healthy food and smaller portions, drink lots of water, and evercise about an hour at a time (3 days of high intensity cardio and 3 days of heavy weights) every week. It is so irritating that some people assume you take the easy route and they give you attitude about it too. I tell everyone now who gives me the gears that I have worked very hard to lose the weight I have (so far) and I am very proud of myself too!! I am not trying to impress anyone...I am doing this for ME.

Anyone else having the same issue as me? Why do people have to be so jealous of your hard work?

Sorry just had to vent :grumble: Thanks for listening :smile:
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  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    Nobody ever wants to hear the secret to weight loss involves doing work.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    Nobody ever wants to hear the secret to weight loss involves doing work.

    EXACTLY!!
  • KateK8LoseW8
    KateK8LoseW8 Posts: 824 Member
    I've posted about it a couple times on Facebook when I hit a big milestone, and there's been two people who ask me every time what I'm doing. I tell them I've been counting calories and exercising, but I suppose they think I must be doing something new and special in order to keep losing weight. Nope, I just didn't give up.
  • sexymuffintop
    sexymuffintop Posts: 636
    Meh, who cares what others think/say. Just ignore them....
  • healthygreek
    healthygreek Posts: 2,137 Member
    No one around me seems jealous about my gradual weightloss but when I went to visit my daughter after 6 months of not seeing her she expressed some concern. She thought I was too thin (5'2" 122 lbs.) I'm very happy with my size and I feel great and eat very well. I think she was concerned because she hadn't seen me as I was losing. After a couple of days, when she saw how much I was eating and she became accustomed to the thinner me, she said, "I'm glad to see you have gained a few pounds"!
    Funnily enough, I was exactly the same weight-she just needed a couple of days to adjust to the "new" me, lol.
    I'm sorry there are people around you that seem jealous and think you're on diet pills.
    People do think it takes a lot of strength or diet pills or starvation, but for me it just took exercise or moving more and a bit of a calorie deficit.
  • cook6609
    cook6609 Posts: 182 Member
    Don't feel to bad... My aunt (who has known me my whole like) thinks that I'm anorexic now. She thinks that I'm secretly making myself throw up my food... Even my mother is making the comment that "my face is getting to thin"... I'm still considered overweight according to the BMI charts... It just goes to show that people have no clue what "normal" looks like anymore... I'm not going to let them stop me from continuing on my path to health. Don't let them discourage you... You started this journey for you and you alone... Keep up the hard work!!!
  • tcmom72
    tcmom72 Posts: 32
    Totally feel you! I have a good friend of mine who will barely talk to me since I lost weight. She is pissed at me.
  • LearnFromTheRed
    LearnFromTheRed Posts: 294 Member
    Yes - my own mother! I think she just hates the idea that I might achieve something without her input, as she's had nothing at all to do with me running.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    Totally feel you! I have a good friend of mine who will barely talk to me since I lost weight. She is pissed at me.

    That is awful!
  • MozzarellaSheep
    MozzarellaSheep Posts: 100 Member
    My mom has always been mega jealous of my weightloss.
    We started out at the same weight, and I have lost almost 70lbs while she has probably lost 15lbs.
    She refuses to count calories.. so.. her loss!
  • fivethreeone
    fivethreeone Posts: 8,196 Member
    I think they're jealous of me with or without weight loss. So much jealousy everywhere. They're just haters,, right?
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    I think they're jealous of me with or without weight loss. So much jealousy everywhere. They're just haters,, right?

    I'm jealous of you.
  • Debbie_Ferr
    Debbie_Ferr Posts: 582 Member
    I have a good friend of mine who will barely talk to me since I lost weight. She is pissed at me.

    "Good" friend ?
  • Sondicalondi
    Sondicalondi Posts: 57 Member
    ,,,,
  • Sondicalondi
    Sondicalondi Posts: 57 Member
    I have a good friend of mine who will barely talk to me since I lost weight. She is pissed at me.

    "Good" friend ?
  • Sondicalondi
    Sondicalondi Posts: 57 Member
    Find another good friend!
  • Otterluv
    Otterluv Posts: 9,083 Member
    I think they're jealous of me with or without weight loss. So much jealousy everywhere. They're just haters,, right?

    Yep, I'm jealous of you. I have all the jealousies.


    And sock envy, lots of sock envy.
  • Phoenix_Warrior
    Phoenix_Warrior Posts: 1,633 Member
    My sister tells me she hates me every time she sees me, since I've been losing weight but when I was pregnant would call me a fatty. Let's just say we have a distant relationship.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Why do you automatically assume that they are jealous? Sounds like some are concerned and some are intrigued.

    It is far more likely that YOU want them to be jealous of you.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,286 Member
    Totally feel you! I have a good friend of mine who will barely talk to me since I lost weight. She is pissed at me.

    I hope you mean EX good friend.
  • sokkache
    sokkache Posts: 220 Member
    Nobody has been jealous of my weight loss, mainly because I don't really look any different from when I started, maybe a little more defined/toned. My mom told me not to get any skinnier because then all the boys would go after me. So I guess that's sort of a backhanded compliment. But I want to be skinnier and fitter so she can complain all she wants when I reach my goal weight and end up going on dates with 5 different guys(which probably won't happen btw)
  • willnevergiveup
    willnevergiveup Posts: 141 Member
    One SIL asked me if I were taking diet pills or if I'd had stomach reduction surgery. No. Another asked my husband if I had cancer. I don't. My sister thought I had an eating disorder. Absolutely not.

    Note: I weighed 227 in April and weigh 185 now. I've 5'2". I'm not exactly wasting away here. <eye roll icon>
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    Why do you automatically assume that they are jealous? Sounds like some are concerned and some are intrigued.

    It is far more likely that YOU want them to be jealous of you.

    I don't think so...I am not one to look down my nose at people and want them to look up to me and be jealous...that is not who I am. I just get annoyed that they think I am popping pills and starving myself.
  • jodi41086
    jodi41086 Posts: 240
    While training for shows I pretty much lose all my friends since I can't drink, can't really go out to eat without badgering the wait staff about how everything is prepared. I end up a loner lol, except my hubby who is right there with me. I have had friends ask "Is it really all worth it? since you don't really win anything." It gives me confidence, and being fit just feels great. I don't compare myself to others I just push myself to see what I can do. I do look up to some of the greats like Dana Lynn Bailey for motivation. Always ask yourself if you are doing it for yourself. Then it won't matter what other people think.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    While training for shows I pretty much lose all my friends since I can't drink, can't really go out to eat without badgering the wait staff about how everything is prepared. I end up a loner lol, except my hubby who is right there with me. I have had friends ask "Is it really all worth it? since you don't really win anything." It gives me confidence, and being fit just feels great. I don't compare myself to others I just push myself to see what I can do. I do look up to some of the greats like Dana Lynn Bailey for motivation. Always ask yourself if you are doing it for yourself. Then it won't matter what other people think.

    Yes, and I haven't felt as good as I do now in a really long time and that is what really matters.

    You look great BTW! Good luck :)
  • almasters90
    almasters90 Posts: 38 Member
    Same problem here :( Just be happy with yourself and let them believe what they want. No point in trying to convince them there's no magic pill if that's all they're letting themselves believe. It's also understandable that you would want them to see that you put a great deal of hard work into making yourself healthy and happy.. just think that the words underlying all of the denial is that, YOU LOOK GREAT! They also should be supporting and encouraging you. Goodwork btw and keep it up!
  • jdm_taco
    jdm_taco Posts: 999 Member
    I laugh
  • Girlrose
    Girlrose Posts: 127 Member
    My younger sister always prided herself in having a better body than me. As I started to lose weight, many people started to comment on how alike we look and a few even mistook me for her. Now, I weigh twenty pounds less than she does and she said she feels upset just seeing me sometimes. I think the jealousy some people have for weight loss is because they feel bad that they have not been able to accomplish what you have.
  • HeatherKImbell1
    HeatherKImbell1 Posts: 2 Member
    I'm half way to my goal weight and some people have been snarky about my weight loss "What do you mean you are only half way! What are you trying to be a super model or something?" (NO! But I would like to be as healthy and fit as this 40 year old Grandma can be!)
    What I have experienced is losing friends along the way because I take the time for fitness and to work on me. I will not go without my 90 minutes of exercise a day, even if it means it cuts into our time to hang out... sorry. Only one or two friends have been understanding about that (somehow if I was going to work or had family obligations it would be okay, but since it's just making it to Cross Fit class I shouldn't make the effort?)
    But... I've made new like-minded friends who share my new interest in health, nutrition and fitness... some people are just in your life for a season or a reason and when that time is up, well move on.
  • AnnElizabeth11
    AnnElizabeth11 Posts: 30
    I agree with many people's comments on here. When other's see us breaking our backs, busting our *kitten*'s, and being "health nuts" they think we're crazy. And when we tell them truthfully that it's not some magic diet pill or new weight loss rave, we're just eating healthy daily, exercising as much as we can that suits our needs, and eating what our body needs, they look at us like we're from another planet altogether. I've only lost 1/4 of my weight i want to lose, and already i've gotten compliments, yet have asked, well, how skinny do you want to be? It's like i'm not doing this to be skinny or drastically thin. I'm doing this to be a healthy more active Mom. I don't want to be a slob anymore and eat gross salty and greasy food and know in a few years down the road I could get really sick, or get diabetes or whatever right. I'm doing this to be healthier for my family so I can stay around as long as possible and be on top of my game :)

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