Am I being rude?

Go and eat a little but still eat. Its not very fun going out to lunch with someone and they just sit there and dont eat and watch you eat because they are on a diet. I would absolutely love to go out with my friend for lunch but she doesnt like to eat much.

Go, it's his bday, and pick the healthiest thing there.

Eat something good and healthy before you go, then have a salad or a light side dish off the menu and eat slowly! You should definitely go, you are blessed to have a brother who wants to be able to have you join his celebration!

Don't be a ****... go to dinner with your brother and only eat half.

Go. Split an entree or appetizer with someone. Enjoy the time with your brother. If you can't split the food, take most of it home. It's one day, one meal.

My opinion: When a diet starts interfering with your ability to live your life, celebrate with your family, etc, then it's gone too far.

Does this mean you have to celebrate with food? No; at least, not every time. But it's your brother's birthday, and it sounds like he specifically wants you to celebrate with him (trust me, this is a big deal! Some people would do anything to have a relationship with siblings where they want to be around each other!), and he's specifically requested that restaurant. So go.

You don't have to go overboard. Order something on the smaller side and ask for a box; box up half before you start to eat and you've already cut the calorie "damage" in half. Eat slowly and enjoy your time with him, and if you don't finish, that's fine. And what you take home can be 2 meals later, or you can give it to someone who would appreciate being though of like that. And if it makes you feel better, eat at a bit more of a deficit the rest of the week so you are still and a decent overall loss.

Go along and just get a glass of water and enjoy the conversation. You don't have to eat, and it isn't "rude" of you to not order something. If he understands how important this is to you, he'll be okay with it or, as you said, he'll just make other plans to go to this place with someone else.

What matters is what YOU find important. If I enacted the "it's just one day" concept every time something like this came up, "just one day" would turn into "quite a few days" across the month, or the year, and because I need structure and limitations and the avoidance of indulgence due to impulse control issues and compulsive/binge-eating disorder, I don't do that kind of thing.

I don't buy that you'll be missing out or that you'll regret not going if you truly don't want to go, but I do think there is a big difference between completely blowing off your brother and actually making an effort to join your two lifestyles together.

Maybe you can compromise and find another place that has the same soup but you can also eat at. Maybe, as I suggested, you can go and just have a drink. Maybe you can make other plans to spend time with him.

It's his birthday, yes, and you should celebrate with him in some way and show him that you acknowledge your relationship, but that doesn't mean that you have to sacrifice your efforts, even for just one meal, if you don't feel comfortable doing so.

Dump your brother, stay thin! Not srs.........