Sulky Sabatogeing Spouse

TeamEdwardJenn
TeamEdwardJenn Posts: 400 Member
in Motivation and Support
Its so hard to keep yourself positive and not let the little things get you down , but its even worse when you have to be positive for a spouse who wont stay positive and wants to look at that glass half full..As a wife i can only do soo much for him and his weighloss journey because as harsh as it is i need to worry about ME ..Im just worried his self sabatogeing ways are going to lead to my down fall...He knows what things will make me fail and ive known people to do that because they are suceeding....ugh on a good note tho just by cutting back to 1500 calories or so ive dropped a few pounds ,,,,Now to add sweat and see where it goes from here...Thirsty Thursday guzzle down some H2O

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  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    Divorce.
  • karlahere
    karlahere Posts: 79 Member
    Hmm, from what I understood (correct me if I'm wrong, please!) you're trying to get your hubby on board the weight loss train with you, and you feel awful when you see him sabotaging your plans.

    It's really nice of you to worry about him, but if he's bringing you down, maybe you should drop him off the diet/plan/exercise and just focus on taking care of yourself. It's super hard to motivate oneself; motivating both of you, doubly so.

    By the way, what are the things he does that you think are sabotaging your efforts?
  • AccioHotBod
    AccioHotBod Posts: 44 Member
    I think you should focus on yourself and don't force your husband to join you.Just because you're ready to change your diet, doesn't mean he is/should be ready.
  • My0WNinspiration
    My0WNinspiration Posts: 1,146 Member
    Don't blame others for your lack of discipline
  • thepetiterunner
    thepetiterunner Posts: 1,238 Member
    You may no be able to control the actions of others (your hubby's), but you sure as heck can control your reactions.

    Make good choices regardless of what he does. You are accountable only for yourself. Take responsibility for your decisions. Unless he's literally sitting on your chest and force feeding you something or physically preventing you from exercising by tying you up in the basement, it's still your CHOICE. So choose wisely.
  • Alisontheice
    Alisontheice Posts: 9,611 Member
    Just do it for you.

    My husband doesn't sabotage me but doesn't understand my exercising and as he thinks almost killing myself. He wants to and needs to lose weight but he doesn't want to do the hard work.

    So I just do it for myself. A that I can feel confident and look good for me. So ignore the non support and love yourself. (Oh wow that sounds really rah rah motivational speaker ish....)
  • TeamEdwardJenn
    TeamEdwardJenn Posts: 400 Member
    Thanks for all the helpful words :)

    His sabtogeing ways would be things like; asking if i want Ice cream ,saying he doesnt feel like cooking so where doing take out ..Really just making it hard to eat better

    WE both started equally and i dident push him into it , i just know how much he wants to do well and i hate seeing him falter , and yet i do know i need to worry about me

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