I JUST have to rant

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  • beckywilliams1967
    beckywilliams1967 Posts: 58 Member
    I was beginning to think I was the only person with toxic siblings! I have younger twin sisters who have been so vile over the last few months I have cut off all contact with them. I feel so much better now, I really though it was my fault but realise now that its down to their terrible behaviour. Thanks everyone :-)
  • lindustum
    lindustum Posts: 212 Member
    Her life, her choice.
    Exactly... So why not be the bigger person, sort out the dress, and plaster a smile on your face at the wedding....
    I still say don't engage in acts that you don't care for with people you don't care for out of some silly family based guilt complex.

    I think these are the two options really. If you feel that putting up with it exerts too much pressure on you/takes too much energy, opt for #2. If you feel you can spare the energy to put up with these people, opt for #1. Both things are true: you shouldn't be a coward, but you shouldn't be a slave to their games either. If it were me to choose, I would consider factors such as- are there going to be people at the wedding I will enjoy chatting to? Can I make my time worthwhile, despite my disagreements? etc.
  • Hildy_J
    Hildy_J Posts: 1,050 Member
    I was beginning to think I was the only person with toxic siblings! I have younger twin sisters who have been so vile over the last few months I have cut off all contact with them. I feel so much better now, I really though it was my fault but realise now that its down to their terrible behaviour. Thanks everyone :-)

    Sorry to hear you've had to deal with that - and well done for getting out. There's a lot of pressure on us to be close to our family: regardless of what kind of unsavoury characters lurk in it.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,330 Member
    ......... here, in the USA, it is common for both bridesmaids and groomsmen to take care of the cost of their attire, so I don't understand all the outrage over paying for the dress.

    ^^^^This. I never heard of the bride paying for attendants dresses or tux's. Around here, anyone who accepts a role in a wedding ceremony pays for their attire. When I was married, all my attendants bought their own dresses... if they couldn't afford it, I would think no less of them if they declined to be in the wedding. And when I was a bridesmaid, I, too, paid for my dress and shoes. I wouldn't have expected otherwise.

    With that said, I hope the OP can get the right size dress and be in the wedding.
  • daisysmamu
    daisysmamu Posts: 29 Member
    Her mistake, she should fix it - "Sorry, you ordered the wrong size. I wear size whatever, you should exchange it for that." (She didn't even ask your size before she ordered? Is this new behavior on her part, or has she always been this way?)
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
    See this is why i was the best sister ever and eloped
  • thesophierose
    thesophierose Posts: 754 Member
    Your sister... just.... no. Its her mistake. Her problem. She should fix it. It' her wedding. My God. Not yours.D:
  • kelleybean1
    kelleybean1 Posts: 312 Member
    BUT, the OP didn't go to the fitting, and waited several months to try on the dress. I don't think she can blame her sis for that. Communication seems to be a problem with this family. To the OP, why didn't you set up a date to go in and be fitted when your schedule allowed? Why didn't you at least send your size/measurements to your sister or the bridal shop? Do you talk to your sister? What's really going on here?
  • zacksnana
    zacksnana Posts: 3,230 Member
    When my daughter got married we paid for all the tuxes for groomsmen and the bridesmaid dresses. We live in the US.

    I feel no one should have to pay from their own pocket to do you the honor of being in your wedding. That's just me though.

    I would try and exchange dress. If that cannot happen i would gracefully back out rather than pay again. Stand your ground and be gracious.
  • KAS0917
    KAS0917 Posts: 172 Member
    Her mistake, she should fix it - "Sorry, you ordered the wrong size. I wear size whatever, you should exchange it for that." (She didn't even ask your size before she ordered? Is this new behavior on her part, or has she always been this way?)

    The bride shouldn't have ordered the dress, but she also shouldn't fix it. The bridesmaid should fix the problem, it's HER dress. Brides have enough to do without ordering dresses for bridesdmaids, and then figuring out how to exchange it.

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