How Do You Keep From Comparing Yourself?

I totally relate. Work on myself. Stay off of social media that encourages that. Fill my life with people, places and things that make me feel good about who and where I am. It takes conscious effort but if I work at it, it works! Feel free to send a friend request!

Try focusing on your positives instead of trying to compare yourself to others. You are a beautiful girl and need to focus on being the best that you can be. There is nothing wrong with trying to improve but trying to be or look like someone else is not a good way to go.

I think, for women especially, "comparison" is socially-ingrained from a very young age.

So, it really will take PLENTY of MENTAL PRACTICE to move through the "comparison" phase into the "focus on me" phase. Like most things, it takes practice.

Try "fake-it-until-you-make-it". Or, try meditation....both of these things help me move the focus back to my own goals when I'm struggling through comparing myself to others!

Everyone has such great advice! I love it!

It's hard. Instead of comparing myself to others, I try to compare myself to how I used to be.

I have no answer to this...I think we all have this issue, more so for women, but I have found that surrounding yourself with ugly friends does wonders...LOL...just kidding!

LOL!!

Lots of great advice here already, and yes, it can be tough. I'll add that I sometimes treat it like window shopping. "Oh, I'd like to have those legs... the shoulders, not so much... oh, I wonder what it took to get arms like that, maybe I could get closer by adding chins to my routine... wow, nice hair, but I like how easy mine is to put up..." It seems to put you in a position of choosing what you would like for yourself, instead of envying what you don't have. Sounds weird, but it works.

I generally don’t compare myself to others. I may however see someone whom I admire and I try to think of ways to emulate the qualities about them that I find appealing. I may even voice my admiration for them and ask them how they accomplish such a quality. The example I can think of is people who have grown up in poverty and acquired a PhD.

I don’t buy into the modern media beauty myth, so most of what society considers desirable physical attribute isn’t really relevant to my existence. I’d guess about 90% of all the comparison fodder is spawned from the beauty myth, so by eliminating it from my life, I have eliminated most of the reason for comparison.

I also revisit my moral compass frequently and analyze whether or not I am being consistent to it. Values that are highly important to me (environmentalism, humanitarianism, authenticity, loyalty, etc…) don’t really have anything to do with some other person’s boob perkiness. It’s so far from my own moral compass that it’s just totally irrelevant to my life altogether. It would be silly of me to use something so extraneous as a measuring stick for my own goals.

I wasn’t always this way though. You asked HOW we overcome comparing ourselves to others. I made a choice to do so. I came to a conclusion that the mainstream society I live in is damaging and toxic to the majority of people who have been integrated or indoctrinated into it. I made the deliberate decision to disconnect from a large portion of it. I seek out knowledge and education. I started analyzing why we do the things we do and if the reason was inconsistent with my beliefs, I quit doing it. I avoid a great deal of media. I avoid a great deal of pop culture. Frankly, I avoid a great deal of people.