Depressed. Having trouble making myself do anything...

i'm so sorry that you are going through this right now. I know you may be embarrassed, but I'm sure support from those closest to you right now could be really great. I would encourage you to reach out to someone you trust to talk to. The only advice I can really give is to be okay with going through the grief process....you are truly going to grieve over this loss. He may want to come back after his "break" and it's important that you evaluate you expectations from him and if you are okay with someone who is willing to do that. Something I tell my teenage daughter when she is upset over a break up is "why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? that's not really being fair to yourself." obviously, this statement is very complicated since you have a daughter together. It's okay to cry and feel sad. When you don't want to eat, eat anyway. Don't expect to have the same energy in your work outs that you had before. My suggestion would be to do things that are active and make you feel good. Maybe walk to a park and have a picnic dinner with your daughter? Do some stretching and meditating rather than hitting the gym hard. Take everything one day at a time. More than anything, don't let yourself go into a spiral of what you could have done. We only have control over our own choices and when you wonder what you could have done we often fantasize that it would have made everything different. Often times what we do doesn't matter and that person may have made the same awful decision regardless. Message me if you need to talk. I know we don't know each other, but I can be a listening ear if needed.

You haven't done anything wrong at all and I am sorry to say this but sometimes men are jerks and do this type of thing because they can't handle the pressure. You deserve better than that and maybe you could do what I did when my ex fiancée cheated on me. See it as a way to learn and believe everything happens for a reason. That is the only way I get by when things go topsy turvy but obviously it will be harder for you as you both had a child together and that makes this situation even worse. Everyone on here will be here to talk if you need them including me And if you are struggling to workout and eat properly just try and take a break from concentrating on it for a few weeks. Get yourself together and spend time with your friends and family and hopefully they can get you happy again. It will be hard but I promise it will get easier

Oh gosh! I went through Depression, bad marriage (he just fell out of love with me), I have 2 (now) teenagers, job losses, etc... I Totally Understand! My Depression was so bad it lingered on for years. I know this sounds "cliche" but it does take time. Just try and focus on you! You should come first on your list (my therapist told me this). YES, FIRST! It will get better but for now.... It Is Okay to Cry! Crying is therapeutic.