Jilted Girlfriend! Im so going to lose weight.

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  • NithyaBaabu
    NithyaBaabu Posts: 15
    Wow what a mongrel he is .... any who feel free to add, I am like you to into my drawing and that, good luck on your journey


    i think "mongrel" is the word i was looking for :D and i love my drawing, books and poems too :)
  • NithyaBaabu
    NithyaBaabu Posts: 15
    What a jerk! Just a little tip: Make sure you are doing this for you and the right reasons! It will make the transition a hell of a lot easier! Feel free to add for motivation and support :)

    I am not going to say 'oh I am so sorry for you' etc, you are a strong powerful woman and that guy is clearly a self centred, vain and shallow ****hole. You are brilliant and can achieve anything you want to. Lose all that weight AND DO IT FOR YOURSELF then have you seen that, episode of Friends when Monica is a teen and Chandler calls her fat so in a year she loses all that weight an pd rubs it in his face? Well. I hope you get the chance to do that.

    Again, lose the weight for you and no one else.

    Also, I don't mean to sound like I'm rubbing it in, but I was thin, got super, super big very fast, stayed big for 4 years then got back to a healthy weight. All that time my boyf, and now husband (who married me when I was still a big girl) stayed with me because he loved me for me, not my size. Never go out with anyone if you think they'd stop loving you for being big or small or whatever xxx

    What can i say? you are a lucky woman :) and thanks for all that advice
  • Beckilovespizza
    Beckilovespizza Posts: 334 Member
    What a great big meanie jur ex is! U have made the right choice to join MFP, most of us on here are very supportive and I have found the motivation of my MFP friends to be a massive contribution on my journey. Make sure u loose the weight for u and u only, the massive bonus and by product will be that u may bump into him and he will see u looking great, being confident (most likely with a lovely new bf on your arm!)

    Feel free to add me if you like! :)
  • NithyaBaabu
    NithyaBaabu Posts: 15
    I agree "skinny girls get dumped too" but.... When u r skinny (or whatever gives the confidence that u r the best u can be and a super great catch), then it doesn't sting as much. u can move forward easier knowing its his lost and not second guessing ur worth. I know for me personally- if I feel I gave the best of me and I am rejected- then the guy was an idiot for not recognizing my greatness and he just wasn't worth my time. everyone deserves love and respect no matter what number is on the scale but I think doing whatever it takes to improve urself/self-esteem the better u r able to ride lifes ups and downs. The new and improved u will attract a new and improved man - one that is worthy of u.

    Tats what i meant to say :) being dumped when your fat makes it worse because you ARE fat which id like to change :)
  • NithyaBaabu
    NithyaBaabu Posts: 15
    i wish for nothing more :)
  • MiracleMaterialGirl
    MiracleMaterialGirl Posts: 8
    "We don't devote enough scientific research to finding a cure for jerks." -- Bill Watterson
  • safeer24
    safeer24 Posts: 1
    Add me dear I'm just starting today too, I have 10-15 lbs to lose .. I'm pretty introverted too.. We can be weight loss buddies if u want
  • lucystacy71
    lucystacy71 Posts: 290 Member
    You've come to the rest place for support. Welcome to MFP!
  • NithyaBaabu
    NithyaBaabu Posts: 15
    You've come to the rest place for support. Welcome to MFP!

    thanks lucy :)
  • RachyLovesRattys
    RachyLovesRattys Posts: 143 Member
    He sounds like a complete *kitten*! Good for you taking control of your health! Might I recommend a show--My Big Fat Revenge?? It's on Oxygen and all they do is take people from situations like these, have the person who was mistreated get a full makeover (personal trainers/ brand new sexy outfits and beauty treatments) then take the people who mistreated them (usually an ex boyfriend or mean parent) and make them feel like they made the other person feel. Then, they have a huge reveal and "screw you you jerk" hash out. It's awesome to watch! My favorite episode so far was this lanky and unattractive boyfriend who loved big girls but didn't want any of his friends to know so he used to hide his girlfriend whenever he saw them in public. It was disgusting! So they set him up on a date with a model who kept saying, "where are your muscles you wimp?" and embarassing him, then pretending she wasn't on a date with him when her friends showed up, then ditched him on the date and had her friends tell him. He felt horrible! Then, his old girlfriend came out (she really was beautiful beforehand but now she was EPIC!) and was like "HOW DO YOU FEEL NOW??!!" It was awesome! Nothing is better than beautiful revenge!
  • Jackandjillwentupthehill
    Jackandjillwentupthehill Posts: 10 Member
    I'll join you! And support you! Add me if you like. I'm new here to and still trying to figure out how to share my postings and etc.
  • NithyaBaabu
    NithyaBaabu Posts: 15
    sounds like a show to me, im gonna go get it rigt away :D
  • init2fitit
    init2fitit Posts: 168 Member
    Sorry to hear that boys are jerks. I've found out the hard way as well.
    I'm sort of introverted, but as I get older I've found that my introversion is merely situational. What makes me look timid up north, is something that southerners think makes me loud and brash haha.

    But anyway, I'm here to lose about 30 pounds, so don't be afraid to send an add :)
  • ingoiolo
    ingoiolo Posts: 104 Member
    Two good things in one: lost a moron and found motivation
  • maxxhofer
    maxxhofer Posts: 1
    You should definitely get some activities which put your mind away from eating. For example running or cycling. The big advantages of doing such sports is that they trigger the lymphatics in your brain. The symphaticus is responsible for your endorphines. Those hormones make you feel satisfied and lucky. You don't have to eat sweets.
    In addition too that you should switch to a healthier diet. You don't have to starve you just switch to some healthier ingredients. I suffered from overweight too and lost weight with working out and eating healthier food. For good recipes and Ebooks about nutrition I can recommend http:/www.dietreviews.tk
  • NithyaBaabu
    NithyaBaabu Posts: 15
    Two good things in one: lost a moron and found motivation

    Lol put that way, it sure does sound good :)
  • NithyaBaabu
    NithyaBaabu Posts: 15
    You should definitely get some activities which put your mind away from eating. For example running or cycling. The big advantages of doing such sports is that they trigger the lymphatics in your brain. The symphaticus is responsible for your endorphines. Those hormones make you feel satisfied and lucky. You don't have to eat sweets.
    In addition too that you should switch to a healthier diet. You don't have to starve you just switch to some healthier ingredients. I suffered from overweight too and lost weight with working out and eating healthier food. For good recipes and Ebooks about nutrition I can recommend http:/www.dietreviews.tk

    Il sure check it out, thanks for all the advice :)
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    He didn't break up with you because of your weight. He just made it sound like that because he's a douche. Do what you gotta do but hold out for a guy that wants you for you no matter what you look like. Welcome to MFP.

    Agreed. That was just the excuse he used. You did say you were overweight when the two of you got together, right? You guys were super young when you got together and maybe you've just grown up and apart. I think he was just looking for a way out, and used your insecurities about your body as an excuse. But what a hurtful and chicken way out that was.

    Lose weight and get in shape for yourself and make sure that whatever went wrong in the last relationship doesn't happen again. (Sometimes that means just choosing the right guy, and sometimes it means working on yourself.) Good luck! :flowerforyou:
  • patrickfish7
    patrickfish7 Posts: 190 Member
    Sounds like you are WAY better out of it. If he really cared, he would have helped you.

    My wife and I got married in 2006 and then both proceeded to put 90 lbs on between us. Not much you may say but for our frames, quite a bit. While I've lost far more, she has always had a weakness for sugary things (which as we know can be fairly bad). But she's doing well and I think the support is way more powerful than any kind of training knowledge, nutritional values etc. Sure it helps to know what you are doing as I have done for a while. But for somebody who has never really known, its highly valuable to have the support.

    If he didn't support you, use that as your motivation for change. I see so many people out there who are like 'I'm going to show them I'm better'. I'm sure you will.
  • redwitchrocks
    redwitchrocks Posts: 11 Member
    you go girl, you are better off without him. I'm doing this for me and no-one else!!!! I don't tend to weigh myself and I'm going by my clothese which are fitting soooo much better. I am on most days - feel free to add!!
  • bridgie101
    bridgie101 Posts: 817 Member
    hello everyone,
    im a 20 year old girl and ive been over weight for almost 12 years but it just didnt matter untill my boyfriend of four years dumped me becaue of my weight and stretch marks. it was the biggest wake up call ever. about time too.
    ive cried for days but the crying stops now. i want to focus all this negative energy into losing weight. the next time he sees me im so going to make his jaw drop. NO, i DO NOT want him back. i would never want to have to do anything with a guy that shallow. i just want to show him what hes missing. I just want him to realise "Im gone and im not coming back."
    And right now i just need some friends to motivate and support me. im kind of an introvert and love to spend my time drawing or writing or reading, which means i go out rarely and do not have too many friends. Sometime my eating patterns can be erratic and if you have any problems with it, please do not send me a friend request or judge unnecesarily. This is a sudden change for me and id like to take it at my own pace and style. And others who can relate and will support me with no judgement, please do send me a FR or just leave a comment, I will add you :) i promise to be a good source of support and encouragement in return for yours :)

    Good lass! You go for it. :D Knock 'em all sideways.
  • NithyaBaabu
    NithyaBaabu Posts: 15
    Sounds like you are WAY better out of it. If he really cared, he would have helped you.

    My wife and I got married in 2006 and then both proceeded to put 90 lbs on between us. Not much you may say but for our frames, quite a bit. While I've lost far more, she has always had a weakness for sugary things (which as we know can be fairly bad). But she's doing well and I think the support is way more powerful than any kind of training knowledge, nutritional values etc. Sure it helps to know what you are doing as I have done for a while. But for somebody who has never really known, its highly valuable to have the support.

    If he didn't support you, use that as your motivation for change. I see so many people out there who are like 'I'm going to show them I'm better'. I'm sure you will.

    thankyou so much :)

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