Feeling like too much of a failure to start over.

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  • joyincincy
    joyincincy Posts: 228 Member
    I like this quote it has helped me through some of those same feelings. "Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm - Winston Churchill" Maybe it will help you too.:flowerforyou:

    LOVE IT!
  • happysherri
    happysherri Posts: 1,360 Member
    There's no where to go but up... or down in this case. :tongue: When you fall do you just sit there, NO, dust yourself off and get up and try again. And you may fall again, but if you surround yourself by positive people you will have help along the way!

    You can do this.
  • whisker84
    whisker84 Posts: 22
    From your title: "Feeling like too much of a failure to start over."

    What's the alternative to starting over? Giving up? Dying? I'll restart a million times before allowing the alternative.
  • Bownzi
    Bownzi Posts: 423 Member
    YOU can do this... nobody is a failure unless they want to be...you are still here....You can do this just get back on the horse and get going... we are all here to help... all of us have fallen off but we get back up rdust ourselves off and tackle the biggest challenges...YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!
  • holly1283
    holly1283 Posts: 741 Member
    I'm where you are now. Mine is due to thyroid issues but that is just an excuse to not be diligent. I'm writing because I have major depression issues as well and one thing that makes it worse is diet soda. I don't know if it is the aspartame or not. I only drank one a day but those days were worse. If you drink diet soda do an experiment to see if that make your depression or lack of will power worse. You have come to the right place. You can do this, too!:wink:
  • Patzycakes
    Patzycakes Posts: 175 Member
    Sometimes a bad day can last a year. You are not starting over. You already have all the knowledge and experience to get you where you need to go.
  • missdibs1
    missdibs1 Posts: 1,092 Member
    Sometimes a bad day can last a year. You are not starting over. You already have all the knowledge and experience to get you where you need to go.

    So true!

    OP please also realize, It takes time to adjust/progress! I restarted post surgery 2 weeks ago, yesterday my scale finally started to shift. Keep moving you will see!
  • missdibs1
    missdibs1 Posts: 1,092 Member
    99% of people fail before they succeed.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness industry for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    THIS!!!
  • St_Paul
    St_Paul Posts: 32 Member
    You're not the only one this has happened too. The good news is you've proven to yourself you could do it once, SO you can do it again. AND this time you'll know your pitfalls. I'd say you're in a good position to change! Good luck!
  • Carnivorekat
    Carnivorekat Posts: 370 Member
    You only fail when you stop trying - I have lost weight and put it back on and yoyo'd all my life, but I know that if I stopped trying I would be the size of a house by now - so I can only keep trying as one day it will all fall into place and it will work for me
  • stephiehampshire
    stephiehampshire Posts: 160
    I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated, and I feel like such a failure. I need some serious support here. I desperately want to get back on track but I just can't get over the mental hurdle of feeling like I'm too far gone. :(

    I can completely relate to your story, and I have to say you are being so incredibly brave by your post that I think you should be proud of yourself for making such a positive step forward

    I was the same, I have a relaxed approach to MFP and I lost the weight slowly, I went from 165lbs to 140lbs

    Then I stopped using MFP as my life got too busy for me to focus on calorie counting, I had some issues at home that made me turn to food for comfort and then I got made redundant from my job where I have been for 7 years so I started drinking as well as comfort eating. I went up to 170lbs my heaviest in my life

    None of my clothes fitted me, I had to buy new interview clothes in a size 14 (I have always been a 10 - 12) and I was devastated,

    Then I decided that enough was enough and I needed some control back in my life and I needed to stop making excuses to myself

    My current weigh is 160lbs so I still have a journey ahead of me, but having been on here for just over 2 weeks I have noticed a big difference already. I go cycling for an hour every night and I come home feeling really positive and happy, I have noticed my body starting to tone up, I feel better on the inside as I only drink at weekends and I am sticking to my food plan

    I have also added quiet a few new people on here who are posting positive messages on my updates every day and this is really keeping me going

    You have made the hardest move by posting your message, the next steps are the easiest and with time when you get that first 1lb that comes off it will get easier

    x
  • endoftheside
    endoftheside Posts: 568 Member
    You didn't fail at weight loss, you failed at maintenance, so now you know and can take steps to prevent it from getting too out of control once you are back at maintenance. There is no DONE for people who cannot effortlessly maintain a normal weight, there will always be at least a little work involved. Set a range that your weight can vary in, weigh on a regular basis (perhaps weekly), and take action if you get outside of your range. You don't gain back all your weight overnight, and you can't just think oh I got this and completely ignore what you are eating until you've gained everything back plus another 10-20 pounds. When people talk about permanent lifestyle changes, monitoring maintenance needs to be part of it.

    The preceding paragraph is a conversation I have had with myself from the very beginning of weight loss this time, because I never want to be in that spot again.

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