HELP... from Fat to Healthy ... HOW????

As a former whole pizza eater (and on good days probably could still down a full pizza in 1 sitting) the change comes from when you decide it does.. Willpower is everything and the day you tell yourself your sick of living like you are, and that eating as much as you do just isn't worth perhaps not being happy.. then you change.
Also not buying the food (sounds like its out of your hands) and having the temptation around helps a lot.. It all depends how much you want to change.

OK, firstly, because you love to eat, you need a solution that allows you to do just that. I love to eat too! And I'm (was? will be again?) a two pizza guy. But what I've found works for me is to find ways to make a lower calorie meal both really filling and really tasty, so that I look forward to it and enjoy even though it ends up giving me less calories than whatever I might otherwise choose.

An example of this is two marinated chicken thigh fillets (skin off), grilled in the oven, and a huge pile of steamed vegetables that I then dump the chicke on top of. All the chicken juices and marinadey goodness end up flavouring the vegetables, so they taste great, and there's a lot of them, and they're not very high in calories (and ARE high in nutrients). And then the chicken is like the icing on the cake - nice lean protein, and tasty.

At no point in that meal do I feel like i'm missing out because I'm not getting a whole pizza in me. 350g of Brussels sprouts with a hint of chicken marinade on them is pretty damn filling, too, so it's not like I'm ever empty.

The second thing is to abandon hope of a quick fix. Slow is best. You've got to sign up for a solution that doesn't have you expecting to see yourself reach your goal for months (or years). Daily fluctuations won't help you psychologically, so maybe even ditch the scales for a month at a time. If you work out your current weight and height and activity level, and aim to lose half a kg a week, MFP will tell you how many calories to aim for each day. Then it's up to you to put together a solution that hits that goal.

Nothing succeeds like success. But don't look for success right away. Just stick to the plan, believing in the fact that a slight caloric deficit will result in slow but sure fat loss. And when you do weigh or measure and you're closer to your goal, that's a big incentive to keep on keeping on. If you get disheartened because you're still not Elle McPherson (or whoever the current hot body is), you've lost sight of the fact that you're headed in the right direction, which is what counts, and that keeping going is what will get you to the best shape you can be.

I use a picture of a fitness model as my avatar, which means every time I log into MFP, I see my goal physique. My goal isn't to be like that guy; my goal is to keep movign towards being like that guy until I get to where I'm satisfied. See the subtle difference. The goal pic is just a direction to aim in, not a place to get to. While I'm headed in that direction, I'm experiencing success all along the way, not just when I "get there".

Also, forget about crazy exercise regimes with videos and a lot of moving your body. They're great, but if you're fat, just brisk walking for half an hour three times a week is a good way to start. You want to put in place something you can do, not something that you'll avoid. You said you were pretty active, so just keep doing that. Because it's disappointing how little quantity of food you actually "earn back" by doing strenuous exercise. An hour of running? ~900kcal for me. That's not even dinner. So don't try to exercise yourself thinner. Eating at a caloric deficit is where it's at, and use exercise to augment that.

When you've dropped some weight, then you can work in more fancy fitness stuff if that floats your boat. Or if lifting weights appeals to you, some people swear by that as a fat loss assistant. You won't get majorly swole by accident, so no fear there. But the basics are: eat less calories (not necessarily less food - yay!), keep track of it so you can make sure you're at a deficit, and be prepared to wait. It will happen.

^This plus when i overate i made sure i would know that i was going to have to burn it. No excuses. When you get use to realizing you need to burn off what you ate you start to eat less and eat more correctly. It's all about training you mind to realize that you should eat this much per day. If you're going to eat a whole lot more you have to work that off. It's kinda fun when you have a really awesome fitness full day and get to decide how youre going to use those calories omnomom.

Also i have about 55lbs to go so if you want a buddy in the same place as you i'd love another pal with a similar goal and issue as me So feel free to add me =D

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I love that... it's like relating spending money to hours worked to earn that money. In my case, I'd have to run up Mt. Everest everyday to keep up with my junkie food habit. :laugh:

I'm now fully addicted to fitness highs and dizziness from low blood pressure.... still a junkie, just different habits now.

As a former whole pizza eater (and on good days probably could still down a full pizza in 1 sitting) the change comes from when you decide it does.. Willpower is everything and the day you tell yourself your sick of living like you are, and that eating as much as you do just isn't worth perhaps not being happy.. then you change.
Also not buying the food (sounds like its out of your hands) and having the temptation around helps a lot.. It all depends how much you want to change.

I think this is key, willpower. Anytime I've done something it's because I'm mentally ready to do it and because I've reached that point of being sick and tired of "whatever" it is.