Please help :(

A professional is going to be a lot more help than we are. I had to talk to a psychiatrist and a dietician to get my head back on straight. I recommend you do the same.

When did this start? Was there an event that happened to make you feel you had to eat to fill the gap? If you can go back to how it started maybe you find the cause and heal it. You do need someone on your side though. Is there anyone you know you can really trust? A friend, a family member? Someone who you absolutely know will not break your confidence but will genuinely want to help.

Please accept a group hug from this whole site as one way or another we all have some kind of discord with eating - otherwise why would we be here? Take care of yourself and good luck with your rediscovering of the more peaceful you.

I use to think about food constantly and I still do a lot of the time. I find it was mainly because I was bored.... try picking up a hobby. I started going to the gym. Another thing I started doing was drinking more water/green tea. It made me feel fuller and kept my hands occupied if I was bored, rather then eating. One thing you should start doing is at least try to keep unhealthy items out of your home so if you are tempted to eat at least it will be something healthy. Best of luck.

I always think the first step to recovering from binge eating is to figure out why you're doing it.

First, I'd recommend taking a hard look at your diet. Are you cutting your calories too low or cutting out major food groups? When the body is truly hungry it will find a way to get the calories and nutrients it needs.

Second, pay attention while you're binging. If you're anything like me you either tune out or spend most of a binge telling yourself to stop. See if you can switch mental gears and pay attention to what you're feeling. Are you bored? Angry? Lonely? Once you know why you're binging you can get in front of it.

I'm an anxiety eater. If I pay attention to my anxiety levels and get in front of my stress before I reach for the candy bar I'm much less likely to binge. You may have similar emotional triggers that you need to watch out for.

And remember the acronym HALT. Don't let yourself get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. These are when we're most likely to overeat.

I know this is incredibly stubborn, but I refuse to talk to anyone. I'm too ashamed. At least for now. I think if I make some changes that I can stick with, I will be able to move forward. I'm sort of an all or nothing kind of person. If I slip up even a little, I get SO discouraged and immediately want to binge. It's like if I don't have a perfect day, I should just have a terrible day. I don't know where to start. I don't even know what my trigger foods are anymore. It seems like ALL food can be a trigger food.

Maybe I need a hobby to keep my mind off of food. Who knows :-/

What about starting with a medical doctor? If you have an infant, then you've recently had a huge life change and physical changes. Could you ask your doctor for a physical, bloodwork, hormones panel, etc. Make sure all of that is okay?

I'm stubborn too, but have learned and have to keep reminding myself that there is no shame in asking for help. Its hard, and it sucks sometimes, but we gotta do what we gotta do. Good luck!:flowerforyou:

Looking at your avatar, it says it right there...what you WORK for.

It's not easy, that's why it's work. It's not an automatic thing, that's why it's WORK. I hear you say all or nothing, but really, with weight loss, it's not like that. You have to get to the point where you are sick and tired of going down the same path, eating the same foods, looking at the same "frumpy" body, and following the same pattern of stop/start/guilt/stop/start etc. You must realize that every small victory is a VICTORY and a step in the right direction.

My mentality changed when I was introduced to the concept of NSVs (non-scale victories). Because some days, that's all you'll have. But you have to actually go after them, create those moments, DO some WORK that will help you, even if it's the smallest, slightest thing in the direction of your health/weightloss goal.

A professional will tell you this same thing, and break down the issues, which is why you should strongly consider seeing one. I know exactly what it's like to say "I refuse to talk to anyone" because I didn't want to talk to doctors who were going to tell me the same thing I already knew. But you can't want success without support ("bad doctors"/friends/family/MFPals), or without wanting to WORK towards it. Some days it's a step, some days it's an accomplishment, some days it may even be pounds (and even I haven't seen any of that yet, but I know it's possible from previous journeys).

Really think it through and realize that if you want it, you have to start somewhere. And the most defeating behavior is thinking that one day's failure is a big thing. It's not, it's ONE day out of many. Tomorrow, you can WORK towards the same goal, or reflect and modify. It's in you, but you have to want it.

The last time I went to the doctor, he told me I had been away too long. He acknowledged that I already knew what to do, it was up to me. I told him, yeah, I knew, it was having the willpower, because I already had the desire. Well, now I have the willpower, the desire, and everyday is not great, but I am WORKING towards something, and I want to see results, so I'll keep working.

I hope and pray you will build a support system and confidence to get started. Everyone's journey is different, but the reality of this being a process that starts with a step is the common factor.

If you can't/won't seek external help right now why not try to eliminate one food group and see if you can stick to it.

Experimenting like this really helped me.

You don't say what you binge on (sweet or savoury) but I picked sugar to eliminate entirely for six weeks to break my binging habit. Hard line no exceptions. Because I am worth the effort. I set a date three weeks ahead. Binged my face off for three weeks but with permission! Then day one kept busy. I rewarded myself with a book from Amazon for getting through the first day. The second day it was a scarf I had my eye on, the third day I had a massage. The fourth day I didn't think about sugar!

I haven't eaten sugar since 10 June this year. Once I felt I had sugar cracked I eliminated wheat and saw more results.......

Worth a try?

I was always a binge eater, it is the only reason I gained so much weight. If you don't want to visit a professional, which would be better, have a look at shrinkyourself program. It helped me a lot.

I know this is incredibly stubborn, but I refuse to talk to anyone. I'm too ashamed. At least for now. I think if I make some changes that I can stick with, I will be able to move forward. I'm sort of an all or nothing kind of person. If I slip up even a little, I get SO discouraged and immediately want to binge. It's like if I don't have a perfect day, I should just have a terrible day. I don't know where to start. I don't even know what my trigger foods are anymore. It seems like ALL food can be a trigger food.

Maybe I need a hobby to keep my mind off of food. Who knows :-/

It IS stubborn and it's unhealthy to "refuse" to talk to someone who can help you. You need to talk to a professional and have them help you. Your type of situation is what they are trained in. GO GET HELP.

As for your post that the treadmill is boring, you're right. It is. But what's worse, being bored for 30 minutes or feeling the way you did when you wrote your original post? Or find something else to do. Walk outside. Go swim. Ride a bike. But find SOMETHING that you will stick with.

Oh yeah, and go get help from a professional. You'll be thankful you did.