Ladies, do you look at dirty magazines?

I said they don't expect me to..... I never said I can't do it.

It isn't quite rude. You're 19, probably newly married, and likely this has been your only partner. It is highly unlikely that you have learned exactly what you like, sexually. And if your husband is also inexperienced, then it only makes it more unlikely. I am sorry if you feel that observation is rude, but your earlier statement opened you up to this sort of critique.

I find it to be extremely rude.

We have been together and active for three years, which has allowed for plenty of exploration. All of that, however, is for me to know, and not for others to make assumptions about. I would never make such assumptions about a person. They know about their life, not me.

Also, I find this is a little odd. Typically a person who is morally against porn and very private about sex is also very religious. But you started having sex, which I presume was before marriage, at 16? I find that an odd mixing of morality.

It isn't quite rude. You're 19, probably newly married, and likely this has been your only partner. It is highly unlikely that you have learned exactly what you like, sexually. And if your husband is also inexperienced, then it only makes it more unlikely. I am sorry if you feel that observation is rude, but your earlier statement opened you up to this sort of critique.

I find it to be extremely rude.

We have been together and active for three years, which has allowed for plenty of exploration. All of that, however, is for me to know, and not for others to make assumptions about. I would never make such assumptions about a person. They know about their life, not me.

Also, I find this is a little odd. Typically a person who is morally against porn and very private about sex is also very religious. But you started having sex, which I presume was before marriage, at 16? I find that an odd mixing of morality.

I prefer not to elaborate on my sex life, so I'll leave the discussion with a parting statement:

Some people don't need to look for "outside ideas" to have great sex. Morally, I find porn to be absolutely disgusting. The prevalence of it in our society sickens me. If I ever discover that there is something missing in my sex life, which I doubt, I'll just experiment with him with what ideas we come up with while discussing it.

there is actually porn geared towards straight women, it is harder to find but it's out there. you may be more interested in that, but then again some people just dislike all forms in general.

it's actually amazing how ok porn is when you realize that men can differentiate between porn and their actual sex lives. they can and do use porn for inspiration but I haven't run into one yet who expects me to completely unhinge my jaw or anything.

Just wait until our first date.

I said they don't expect me to..... I never said I can't do it.

I am going to buy you $20 worth of bourbon.

I prefer not to elaborate on my sex life, so I'll leave the discussion with a parting statement:

Some people don't need to look for "outside ideas" to have great sex. Morally, I find porn to be absolutely disgusting. The prevalence of it in our society sickens me. If I ever discover that there is something missing in my sex life, which I doubt, I'll just experiment with him with what ideas we come up with while discussing it.

there is actually porn geared towards straight women, it is harder to find but it's out there. you may be more interested in that, but then again some people just dislike all forms in general.

it's actually amazing how ok porn is when you realize that men can differentiate between porn and their actual sex lives. they can and do use porn for inspiration but I haven't run into one yet who expects me to completely unhinge my jaw or anything.

Just wait until our first date.

I said they don't expect me to..... I never said I can't do it.

I am going to buy you $20 worth of bourbon.

if you go for $25 you won't even have to roofie me

It isn't quite rude. You're 19, probably newly married, and likely this has been your only partner. It is highly unlikely that you have learned exactly what you like, sexually. And if your husband is also inexperienced, then it only makes it more unlikely. I am sorry if you feel that observation is rude, but your earlier statement opened you up to this sort of critique.

I find it to be extremely rude.

We have been together and active for three years, which has allowed for plenty of exploration. All of that, however, is for me to know, and not for others to make assumptions about. I would never make such assumptions about a person. They know about their life, not me.

Also, I find this is a little odd. Typically a person who is morally against porn and very private about sex is also very religious. But you started having sex, which I presume was before marriage, at 16? I find that an odd mixing of morality.

I'm not religious at all. I don't see anything explicitly wrong with premarital sex, but I do think it is admirable to wait until marriage. At the risk of sounding incredibly corny, I'll go ahead and say that the reason I decided to have sex with him before we were wed is because I knew he was "the one". I knew we would be married, so it wasn't really a concern.

See, now you're throwing me for a loop. :laugh: If you don't have a religious objection against it, then where do you derive your anti-porn stance from?

I am a little confused also. is this a feminist standpoint? just "morality" is a little odd of a reason, as I know a lot of very moral, respectful men who happen to watch porn.

Now, now. Don't we have anything better to do than harassing a 19 year old? Most people between the ages of 18 and 24 know everything. Let her be, at this point it's just unkind.

OP: I agree with the general sentiment that no one particularly looks at magazines anymore and when they did it was still kind of understood that Playgirl wasn't really primarily for girls. If your friend is going to do this he probably has to get over the idea that he can control who will see it. If it really bothers him it's probably not a good idea. He should also give some thought to what he wants to do in the future and whether or not it could prove problematic.

Who the hell still looks at magazines is what I wanna know.

I am a little confused also. is this a feminist standpoint? just "morality" is a little odd of a reason, as I know a lot of very moral, respectful men who happen to watch porn.

I hadn't considered a feminist viewpoint. Hmm. But ultimately does it matter if the woman is choosing to do it?

My morality is strongly based in O'ism, so I have actual reasons for my moral stances.

See, now you're throwing me for a loop. :laugh: If you don't have a religious objection against it, then where do you derive your anti-porn stance from?

It's all just based on personal thought, reflection, and my opinion of what should be common decency.

Which is incredibly vague. Morality is typically very concrete.

See, now you're throwing me for a loop. :laugh: If you don't have a religious objection against it, then where do you derive your anti-porn stance from?

It's all just based on personal thought, reflection, and my opinion of what should be common decency.

Which is incredibly vague. Morality is typically very concrete.

It is what I believe, and as such it is part of what I define as my "morals" or "ethics". Just because I don't have a religion to refer to doesn't undermine my beliefs.