Getting tired all the comments

Are people really flipping over 27 pounds or is your counter inaccurate?

27 pounds is pretty significant. At my highest weight, I was only about 20 pounds overweight, yet it made a MAJOR difference in my appearance. Just because some people don't start out "obese" doesn't mean their results don't have a significant impact in their appearance or that they have any less reason to be proud of their accomplishments.

Point taken, but if someone starts at 20 or 30 pounds overweight, no one is going to assume they had surgery to lose it. When someone starts at 100 pounds overweight, surgery is the first assumption.

I am amazed at the way you are belittling the amazing accomplishment the op has made! And how can you say no one would assume surgery, do you know EVERYOnE?

Op there is an adjustment period as others have stated. It takes time for people to see you as you are now and not as you were then.

You are reading WAY into things. I've belittled no one. Good for her on her weight loss. I am saying that if someone loses 27 pounds, I find it hard to believe people are coming out of the woodwork accusing her of surgery and making nasty comments. I guess the exception would be if she started at a healthy weight and is now grossly underweight. Then I could understand concern.

You must look great then,Congrats:flowerforyou:

I just look people up and down, burst out laughing, and walk away.

Why did your boss have to defend you? You can't stand up for yourself? With this kind of work environment, I'd be looking for a new job?

No one is jealous, they are just shocked at the change. There are so many misconceptions about weight loss and nutrition that people assume that unless you're eating salads for 3 years you cannot lose. And when they see someone successfully lose, especially if they are still enjoying food, they feel insecure about their own inability to manage their fitness.

you don't think envy is a common outcome of that insecurity?

Sometimes, but I think it is a bit more complicated than that. I think that it can make them feel bad about themselves and to combat it they decide that the person MUST have "cheated" somehow or are ill, because that is the only way it is possible for a "normal" person.

No one is jealous, they are just shocked at the change. There are so many misconceptions about weight loss and nutrition that people assume that unless you're eating salads for 3 years you cannot lose. And when they see someone successfully lose, especially if they are still enjoying food, they feel insecure about their own inability to manage their fitness.

you don't think envy is a common outcome of that insecurity?

Sometimes, but I think it is a bit more complicated than that. I think that it can make them feel bad about themselves and to combat it they decide that the person MUST have "cheated" somehow or are ill, because that is the only way it is possible for a "normal" person.

agree with that for sure.

Well done with your acheivement. I suspect these comments feel like they are diminishing the hard work you put in. I understand being bothered by the comments.

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What other people say about you reflects on them, not you. Try to take nothing personally as it does no good. They live in their perceptions and filters just like you do. What they say reflects their stuff. How you react reflects your stuff. We all have stuff. We get happier sooner when we stop getting discombobulated by trying to figure out other people's stuff and instead start figuring out our own.

Again, it us about boundaries. Other people's thoughts and comments don't have to sink so deeply into your Psyche. You could develop a thicker skin through the conscious choice repeated over and over that you have a right to peacefulness and happiness and thus bunch of BS is sucking the joy out. So don't let the BS stick. Wipe it off your shoe and leave it behind.