frustrated with comments and opinions

Therealobi1 · October 2013

You guys are really helpful right now. ...its hard not being supported at home but helpful to find it here!

This place is awesome. Bring it here. You can do this... there are LOADS of success stories. Yours can be next.

Get it!

i agree with this. i dont have anyone around me who really really wants to shed fat or work out, so i find this site amazing. keep logging on everyday and you will do this. Do it for yourself, but it will be a lovely feeling when you wipe the smiles off their faces. good luck. x

mamadon · October 2013

I didnt tell anyone for a really long time. It was a personal thing for me.

l0l0p · October 2013

"I don't feel I need to tell the world I'm losing weight so they can hit me with the " its about time...or yah it wont last" comments. I just feel like I have to keep my weight loss journey a secret bc they will condemn me anyway. I really want this. I want to shut them all up. Mark my words soon as I lose 15 lbs they are gonna say my head is too big. ..Ive lost too much and im on crack.....they will say it all ugh..I feel better for the moment.
I'm strong. I want this. I can do this. Ok. I'm ready to get back to my day. "

I understand how you feel!!!! My family is very discouraging at times too. Just IGNORE what they say...I didnt tell them my weight loss journey at the first place..basically just do it to stop them from condemning and tearing me down.....
And Yes keep the focus on yourself and your journey!:bigsmile: :flowerforyou: "Though some think that negative comments are a way to motivate people to lose weight - little do they know that more often than not, it just makes things worse", as exactly as some mfpals above described.
And Yes We are here to support you!!!:flowerforyou:
Good Luck in your weight loss journey!!! Dont Ever Allow Anybody bring you down, They Aren't Worth It!! So true!!!

Keep your head up.. And I Agree that some MFP friends won't judge you like your family does. I have met Awesome Wonderful people here! :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile:
"We're here to listen and to support you on your journey however you may need us. Don't give up!" WayToGo!!!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :happy: :drinker:

SuperAmie · October 2013

You are right. I need to do this for me and my son. Not for them. Thank you, thank you!

You got it!! xoxo

Brige2269 · October 2013

Thanks for this thread, OP. I had a blow to my spirit this morning that could derail everything, but I can't let it get to me. I'll be taking everyone's advice. MFP is a great place.

dawn72467 · October 2013

There are some people in life (especially in our families) that feel the need to pass judgment all the time. Forget about them and their judgments. Do this for yourself! Share your success (and there will be many) and struggles with whoever is going to help you succeed in reaching YOUR goals. I am fortunate in my family being very supportive, but still find it helpful to be out here everyday talking with people who are sharing in the same journey I am. My son has been absolutely AMAZING in his support of me. He has never commented on how big I was or anything like that, but now whenever I weigh myself and share the loss with him, I get a HI-5 or fist bump, or he will just simply smile and tell me he is proud of me. I had to get to a point in my life where I was doing this for MYSELF not anyone else, because if you don't it just won't work. You will find reasons to give up or backslide. Here on MFP when you have one of those days you can send out a post and your MPF friends will pick you up and get you back on track. We have all been there and know that a few kind words (and sometimes a kick in the butt) goes a long way in motivation. Just log all your food, look at other peoples diary's for different options, and stay HONEST with yourself. Friend me if you want. I am on here almost everyday and I will help where I can. Good Luck to you ~ You can do this!!! Just remember to take it one day at a time.

lesutherl · October 2013

I'm 75 and have had a lifetime of yo-yo dieting. I haven't been thin since I was in my 20's. But I recently decided that I needed to do this for me so I don't end up in a nursing home, I too have a family member that makes comments about my weight. It makes me angry but I am working to let it roll off. I do tell the person to can it. It does help doesn't shut them up but it helps me feel more in control. As others have said keep it to yourself and do it for yourself and your child. good luck and keep posting

Koldnomore · October 2013

I still haven't told people I'm 'losing weight'! of course by now it's blatantly obvious that I have LOST a substantial amount. My family hasn't really commented because they are all grossly overweight and very likely the fact that I do not seem to be joining them anymore on the road to fatness is probably making them uncomfortable..

I don't even mention my weight, I don't point it out, frankly I don't care what they think - I decided to lose weight for myself so that I could be healthier and not have to be one of those old people in a cart because I was no longer able to walk around due to weight.

When people make comments just smile and nod and say 'ok' and just leave it at that.. "you need to lose weight' ..uh huh..ok. "Look at so-and-so they are doing this thing or that thing" ..uh huh..ok.. Just keep doing your thing.. Now a days I just say "yeah I lost a little weight" but I don't even bother to expand on it unless someone seems interested.. My family still insists Dr.Oz knows what he's talking about... I just smile and nod..uh huh..ok and keep doing my thing.

Don't let people who have no idea stop you in your tracks.. As someone said before "Success is the best revenge" Just keep on doing what you're doing.

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