Unsolicited advice....

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  • ttippie2000
    ttippie2000 Posts: 412 Member
    The last piece of unsolicited advice I got came at the end of a session in which I was training my son in some Thai Boxing fundamentals. Some prancing-pony body builder-type bro came up to me and said, "Martial arts will mess up your strength."

    I nodded, smiled and said, "Oh. Okay, so how much do you deadlift and bench?"

    "185 lb bench and 300 deadlift," he retorted.

    At this point my 12-year old son busted up laughing, "Dude, have you ever seen Brock Loessner or Mike Tyson fight?"

    This guy looks a bit irritated and I attempted to explain. "Um, son, those are weights that my wife warms up with. In any case, strength training is great. But you may want to google the Dunning-Krueger effect sometime." [That's the psychological phenomenon that describes when ignorance begets confidence.]

    And with that he went back to his bicep curls.
  • frommetobetterme
    frommetobetterme Posts: 124 Member
    What drives me nuts are the conversations that go like this:

    "Hey, you look great! How much have you lost?"
    "About 65 pounds."
    "That's awesome! Hey, have you heard about South Beach / Atkins / cabbage soup / XYZ cleanse? It's supposed to be great, you can drop like 57 pounds in 3 days! You should do that! bla, bla, bla"

    Uh, yeah, first you acknowledge that what I am doing is working, then you immediately try to tell me how to lose weight? What? Look, of course I've heard of all those and fine if that's what works for some people, but this is working for me, so why would I want to mess with that? (I won't even get into how unhealthy a lot of those fads can be!)

    Yup, it's like they're saying. 'great job, you're getting results, but you're doing it all wrong'. Hmmm... little conflicting pieces of info in that conversation. How am I doing it all wrong if I'm getting results?
    The last piece of unsolicited advice I got came at the end of a session in which I was training my son in some Thai Boxing fundamentals. Some prancing-pony body builder-type bro came up to me and said, "Martial arts will mess up your strength."
    ...

    Still trying to figure out what would have him thinking that martial arts will mess up your strength... how does becoming more flexible, faster, and developing your analytical skills and reflex time undermine your strength?... obviously though I am asking the wrong person, as you know that it doesn't... I'd feel like telling him to go back to practising counting to 10. :)
  • mikeykhan2003
    mikeykhan2003 Posts: 177
    Kibitz!!!
  • rednose83
    rednose83 Posts: 20 Member
    Honestly, I just say okay and go about my business.

    FTR, I eat the whole egg and have no idea what's people's beef with the whole egg. An egg is like 80 calories max- people aren't overweight from eating too many eggs so I don't know what the deal is. Also, the obsession with cauliflower recipes on MFP astounds me.
  • frommetobetterme
    frommetobetterme Posts: 124 Member
    Honestly, I just say okay and go about my business.

    FTR, I eat the whole egg and have no idea what's people's beef with the whole egg. An egg is like 80 calories max- people aren't overweight from eating too many eggs so I don't know what the deal is. Also, the obsession with cauliflower recipes on MFP astounds me.

    Cauliflower.... barf :p

    You can if you eat your eggs cooked in bacon fat, with a side of bacon, with syrup and with buttered toast, and peanut butter an jam. :)... but yeah, a couple of eggs, no biggie.
  • conniemaxwell5
    conniemaxwell5 Posts: 943 Member
    For the unsolicited advice, I just say something like, 'That's interesting but what I'm doing now works really well so I'm just going to stick with it. Thank you though."

    For the egg yolks, I eat 3 egg whites every morning before I work out and I toss my yolks with the shells into the garbage disposal. I've bought the cartoned egg whites before but they're more expensive than eggs so I figure throwing away the yolks is better.
  • TX_Rhon
    TX_Rhon Posts: 1,549 Member
    I have perfected the "eye roll" when I hear "advice" coming my way. I still enjoy a white chocolate mocha every now and again and have to hear how "it shouldn't be on my diet" or "oh are you not dieting today?" **Note, I do not diet. I just choose to eat healthier now. And yes, Starbucks contains calcium, protein and 2 servings of dairy. (no need to correct me, I'm justifying these coffees no matter what!!) Ha!

    I am Vitamin D deficient so the yolks help as there are not many natural foods with Vitamin D. However, it is usually 1 egg with yolk and one egg white.

    Ignore the nay-sayers and rock on!! :flowerforyou:
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    Honestly, I just say okay and go about my business.

    FTR, I eat the whole egg and have no idea what's people's beef with the whole egg. An egg is like 80 calories max- people aren't overweight from eating too many eggs so I don't know what the deal is. Also, the obsession with cauliflower recipes on MFP astounds me.

    Cauliflower.... barf :p

    You can if you eat your eggs cooked in bacon fat, with a side of bacon, with syrup and with buttered toast, and peanut butter an jam. :)... but yeah, a couple of eggs, no biggie.
    Cauliflower, eggs and bacon, YUM.
  • jen_zz
    jen_zz Posts: 1,011 Member
    I eat the whole egg. Love it.
    (I love eggs in avocados, baked)

    YES.
  • Fivepts
    Fivepts Posts: 517 Member
    I've been working out and eating clean since April and have made great progress doing things on my own. My boyfriend just started bulking 3 weeks ago and now thinks he knows everything about everything fitness and health related.

    When he starts his "do this/do that" speech, I usually tell him to shut up and go make me a sandwich... with extra bacon.



    but seriously it used to really bother me hearing it from others and now I don't even try to object, I smile and nod and pretend I'm listening but I'm really I'm just thinking about food.

    heeehehee. Great answer.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    Results shut people up. My Asian family couldn't comprehend how I was trying to lose weight while eating everything. Including ice cream. They used to say "You eat SOOO much! and you're trying to lose weight?" and "You're trying to lose weight and eat ice cream?"

    Now that they've seen results, they don't say anything. I mean, they still say things but now they shut up when I ignore them. People will always say things. Its their job. Ignoring them is yours.

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