Foods that make you go POOP

Stephanie, your post made me :sad: :sad: :sad: .

First, don't let this evil woman make you think that she can just snatch your child away from you. You are her mother, you have parental rights. Being "outside of the box" and non-traditional in any way does NOT make you a danger or threat to your child. The courts do not want to remove your child from you if she is happy, well cared for, fed, and loved. Don't let that psycho hose beast worry you!! AND, having a mental disorder, past or present, is not necessarily a reason to remove a child from a parent either. If you are taking care of your child and no threat to her or yourself, that is almost irrelevant. Don't let that b*tch get to you!!

Focus on your daughter. (I know you do.) I'm glad you are taking her for a day of fun and relaxation for the two of you. I think you both deserve it.

I remember my mom yelling at me, frustrated, when I couldn't go on the toilet. But even as a kid, I knew she was upset FOR me, not AT me. :flowerforyou: Don't you worry -- all moms make mistakes. Lord knows I do too! But kids are forgiving and loving.

I wish you all the best, you and your little princess :smooched:

i just wanted to thank you all for your time, thoughts and concerns. i got a lot valuable information that i greatly appreciate. i'm so thrilled to know that myfitnesspal is filled with people who are supportive, that give the time of day, and who care about the well being of eachother.

after 5 days of no bowel movement, i had no choice but to give her an enema because when she sat on the toilet i could tell that she really was giving a sincere effort to try and push it out, but the blockage was too solid to pass on her own. when i gave her the enema (by pedia-lax) within minutes she was passing the blockage. i'm not kidding you it was more then a foot long with about 4 inch diameter, it was very painful for her to pass it but the enema was already taking it's effect. i hope i never again have to feel this hopeless as a parent, i just held onto her tight as she was passing it, we both were crying in the bathroom. after the "blockage" was passed a lot of soft bowel came after. so the laxatives we were giving her were taking a positive effect but it was only building up behind the solid blockage of compacted bowel. i know her holding it in was the cause of the solidifying of the bowel, so i really have to pay attention so that i make sure she's not holding it in anymore. i still believe above all that her reasoning for holding it in is purely psychological. i pay too close attention to her diet for it to be that reason. i sometimes wish it were dietary deficiency because it's easier to correct a dietary deficiency then it is to correct a psychological issue in a toddler.

i have to admit, i was so frustrated, i shouted a couple times, and i KNOW doing this only puts pressure on her, but as a desperate parent, i lost it, i never yell at my daughter and this was my first time. and now i'm filled with guilt because i realize she REALLY was trying her best, she was just blocked. it's true what they say about parenting and the hardest job in the world, especially being a young single mother who's working against all odds with no support.

to top everything off her fathers mother blamed me for her issue, *sarcasm* it's always sooo easy to blame the single struggling mother isn't it? that it was "my fault she would hold it in because she's potty training right now and i should leave her over at her home until she's completed potty training" - right now she primarly lives with her father and grandma due to financial issues i'm having (the grandma does more of the parenting then her father) so that when she comes to spend the days with me it "stresses her out and she holds it in". well, that's her theory but my answer to her was "well, if that's really the case then she needs to spend MORE time here and not less so she CAN feel comfortable" especially because she will be moving in with me in october. i get what she might be trying to state (consistency) but she's more then comfortable using the potty at my place as well and doesn't show signs of anxiety, she'll go pee on her own. and to say it's me, is rediculous when i go to pick her up she's already been holding it in for days. there are so many things she does here that she doesn't over there because they literally cater to her, and spoil her which they call "nurturing". i'm affectionate with my daughter and i'm proud of her and i let her know that, but i also know when and how to be stern and she obviously listens to my direction (things like drinking water over juice, eating her veggies and fruits, sleeping in her own bed, getting herself dressed) she's VERY independent and disciplined here.. beside the holding in the bowels, she really is the perfect child, i hope to get to the bottom of her issue. i'm so sorry and i know i'm going on and on, i just had a very hard few days, i just think to myself "this is how we spend our time together? feeling frustrated? tired? sluggish? constipated? upset? angry?" it's so unfair, so i'm keeping her longer then usual because i want to spend a day with her where we aren't addressing and obsessing over poo poo. i know it's a bit extravagant but i'm taking her to disneyland tomorrow to just have a good quality day of family fun. also to show her that i am proud of her for going poo in the toilet.

i'm just so tired of fighting this uphill battle, from the beginning her grandma has always threatened to try and take full custody of her, so i've basically been on best behavior otherwise she'd report every lil mistake to child services . PARENTS MAKE MISTAKES TOO but SOMEHOW that doesnt apply to me (btw, she loves to play the "her mother is a psycho card" since i was once diagnosed as manic depressive, it's awful, i've been off meds for years now! get over it!!) i admit my taste and lifestyle is a bit eccentric but what photographer isn't? yes i love alternative fashion and listen to "weirdo" music but i'm not abusive or manipulative in ANY way my daughter is a very positive, bright top of the class student! but her grandmother basically can't stand that i'm "different from all the other mothers". i'm not a cookie cutter mom at all, but i love my daughter til death and i make damn sure she knows it and i take care of her to the best of my ability, i may not have as much experience as her as a mother because i'm young, i didn't have a strong mother to take after but it's hard to live to someones expectations when theyre just waiting for the other shoe to drop. i just hope SOMEDAY she realizes that she's taken a lot of my joy away because i'm so worried "am i doing it right, is she going to challenge me in court, will i win" i can't wait til the day she can just back off. she has this notion that i'm going to just leave town and she'll never see my daughter again, where this plant was seeded, i have no idea because i myself know what it's like to grow up without the support of family and would NEVER create the same circumstance for my daughter. again, i'm so sorry this is a long rant for all to read (if youre still reading) but i have nobody to talk about this with and it's been sucha trying week. i'm just glad in the end, my daughter came to me and said "thank you mommy, the medicine worked and thank you for helping me go poo poo". of course! i cried!" i just hope her grandmother someday can have as much faith in me as my daughter does.

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.stephanie.

There is nothing worse than someone who thinks they have all of the answers for our lives. None of us are perfect parents and we all do the best we can. Most of us are lucky enough not to have someone standing over us pointing out our faults-or what they perceive to be our faults. Glad that you had good results and hopefully you and your daughter will be able to conquer this. Best wishes to you. :drinker: