Feeling guilty

aprilflower18232
aprilflower18232 Posts: 205 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
I am feeling guilty...I have been dieting for two months...been doing very very well, have been in a lot of situations when I was at an outing with very good food but I have kept it very healthy...I have even said no to ice cream and cake lots of times, we'll....I just got home from a friends wedding....I was the maid of honor was having a very good time..and..I decided to cave..I had a piece if cake...it is the first dessert or junk I have had....how horrible should I feel...

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  • SuperSexyDork
    SuperSexyDork Posts: 1,669 Member
    You shouldn't feel horrible at all. Food is fuel and shouldn't be a source of guilt.

    This should be about finding a way of eating that is sustainable for life for you. Never eating a piece of cake or having a scoop of ice cream is completely unrealistic.
  • ajlandon
    ajlandon Posts: 115 Member
    No need to feel horrible - you were participating in an important celebration and enjoying yourself :)

    Get back on the wagon tomorrow and proceed as usual. You will be fine.
  • ajlandon
    ajlandon Posts: 115 Member
    This should be about finding a way of eating that is sustainable for life for you. Never eating a piece of cake or having a scoop of ice cream is completely unrealistic.

    QFT
  • MelissaPhippsFeagins
    MelissaPhippsFeagins Posts: 8,063 Member
    Not horrible at all. It was a wedding and you were the Maid of Honor. If ever there was a licensce to eat drink and be merry that's it.
  • AmyRhubarb
    AmyRhubarb Posts: 6,890 Member
    You shouldn't feel horrible at all. Food is fuel and shouldn't be a source of guilt.

    This should be about finding a way of eating that is sustainable for life for you. Never eating a piece of cake or having a scoop of ice cream is completely unrealistic.
    Bingo. It's a wedding, there's cake. There will be more weddings (and birthdays and holidays and vacations and so on) and more cake. This is life. Great job eating healthy most of the time - this is what makes it awesome to enjoy cake the rest of the time. :bigsmile:
  • bkw99508
    bkw99508 Posts: 204 Member
    You know how "they" say that you should dress for the position/job you want? I kind of think along those lines about this whole process. I can't ever see ristricting myself in the long run so I have to learn, am learning, how to incorporate all the foods I love into my new routine. I see my future self eating steak, fried chicken, bacon, ice cream, pasta, cheeseburger, cheeseburger with bacon, did I mention bacon???? I beleive that is why 'this' time I have been more successful.
  • mrsamanda86
    mrsamanda86 Posts: 869 Member
    This should be about finding a way of eating that is sustainable for life for you. Never eating a piece of cake or having a scoop of ice cream is completely unrealistic.

    QFT

    WHAT does QFT mean?? lol I am usually pretty good at figuring all the abbreviations out but this one has me stumped.

    It's only a piece of cake, it's all good. Just go back to normal tomorrow :)
  • LiminalAscendance
    LiminalAscendance Posts: 489 Member
    This should be about finding a way of eating that is sustainable for life for you. Never eating a piece of cake or having a scoop of ice cream is completely unrealistic.

    QFT

    WHAT does QFT mean?? lol I am usually pretty good at figuring all the abbreviations out but this one has me stumped.

    It's only a piece of cake, it's all good. Just go back to normal tomorrow :)

    Quoted For Truth
  • Swiftdogs
    Swiftdogs Posts: 328 Member
    One piece of cake? Log it and be happy for your friend. Now if you had shoved the bride and groom out of the way and gone face-first into the cake, you might need to feel some guilt :tongue:
  • qtgonewild
    qtgonewild Posts: 1,930 Member
    seriously please take a moment and think about what you just posted. a piece of cake. seriously. omg. what are you going to do once you lose the weight. never eat cake again?
  • harleygroomer
    harleygroomer Posts: 373 Member
    YOU ARE NOT DIETING!!!!!!! YOU ARE ON A LIFESTYLE CHANGE!!! People fail at diets everyday BUT when they change their lifestyles they succeed. That being said you need to eat like a skinny person and THEY EAT CAKE. Your new life is not about denial BUT it is about moderation. So rethink yourself---LIFESTYLE CHANGE!! You will always exercise and you will always watch what you eat BUT--you are allowed treats every now and then. Makes your journey so much easier.
  • mrsamanda86
    mrsamanda86 Posts: 869 Member
    One piece of cake? Log it and be happy for your friend. Now if you had shoved the bride and groom out of the way and gone face-first into the cake, you might need to feel some guilt :tongue:
    haha, but that would be the most memorable hilarious moment... someday lol

    Thank you LiminalAscend, it's been driving me crazy every time I see it!
  • becky10rp
    becky10rp Posts: 573 Member
    You shouldn't feel guilty - but I understand why you do.

    I feel guilty on the 'day' I don't work out..........I work out 6 days a week............if I have even one day where I see that red # that you've gone over your calorie allotment - it makes me feel ill..

    Yeah, I know that's not healthy.....
  • darvin1023
    darvin1023 Posts: 52 Member
    (Imitating a voice of passive-aggressive mother): "YOU DO.... WHATEVAH YOU WANT!"

    LOL. Nah for real though, Harleygroomer just said it.
  • gsdz4me
    gsdz4me Posts: 66 Member
    YOU ARE NOT DIETING!!!!!!! YOU ARE ON A LIFESTYLE CHANGE!!! People fail at diets everyday BUT when they change their lifestyles they succeed. That being said you need to eat like a skinny person and THEY EAT CAKE. Your new life is not about denial BUT it is about moderation. So rethink yourself---LIFESTYLE CHANGE!! You will always exercise and you will always watch what you eat BUT--you are allowed treats every now and then. Makes your journey so much easier.
    Agree with this. So well said.
  • kowajenn
    kowajenn Posts: 274 Member
    Why feel guilty? There's room for all food, as long as you don't go nuts all of the time.

    Confession - I had a piece of cornbread a couple of weeks ago.
  • jcmrax5
    jcmrax5 Posts: 133
    its a piece of cake. if your going to get all upset about one piece of cake then i dont think you have a healthy relationship with food. everything in moderation.
  • maggie16sweetxoxo
    maggie16sweetxoxo Posts: 314 Member
    It's not the 5th drink that bothers the alcoholic, it's the 1st. Don't be guilty. Just get back on track and don't let this mess you up.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Why do you think you should feel guilty about this?
  • JenniTheVeggie
    JenniTheVeggie Posts: 2,474 Member
    You should feel 0% guilty. It was one piece!
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1105036-article-on-flexible-dieting-by-armi-legge?page=1#posts-17068746
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    It's not the 5th drink that bothers the alcoholic, it's the 1st. Don't be guilty. Just get back on track and don't let this mess you up.

    ????
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    Depends.

    If you continue to eat to your plan on most days and continue to make overall progress, then you should feel ZERO guilt whatsoever. In fact, I would suggest you make something like this a planned part of your overall plan (to eliminate that failure feeling).

    If you use this as an excuse to go back to your old habits and stop eating to your plan, then I suppose you can feel some guilt...or at least some remorse...but even then it's not particularly useful.

    I suggest the former scenario.
  • aprilflower18232
    aprilflower18232 Posts: 205 Member
    I guess I feel guilty because 3 months ago I saw the scale at the doctors office say 325...I actually felt sick in my stomach when I saw that...I mean I knew I was obese...I'm not stupid but actually seeing the numbers freaked me out..-47 later I am doing the best I ever have...I am eating right, working out 3 times a week and hopeful the scale will keep going down...but I never ever want to be that big again...I am afraid eating desserts and junk is being weak and I won't be strong enough to achieve my goal...
  • ShellyBell999
    ShellyBell999 Posts: 1,482 Member
    No need to feel horrible.
    You have been doing very well. By allowing yourself to enjoy some of the things you like at such an awesome event is perfectly healthy and normal.
    Congrats on your early success and may your dedication to yourself stay strong!
  • Nicolee_2014
    Nicolee_2014 Posts: 1,572 Member
    Pffft, don't feel guilty at all! 1 piece of cake isn't going to tip you over the edge & undo all the other hard work.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    I guess I feel guilty because 3 months ago I saw the scale at the doctors office say 325...I actually felt sick in my stomach when I saw that...I mean I knew I was obese...I'm not stupid but actually seeing the numbers freaked me out..-47 later I am doing the best I ever have...I am eating right, working out 3 times a week and hopeful the scale will keep going down...but I never ever want to be that big again...I am afraid eating desserts and junk is being weak and I won't be strong enough to achieve my goal...

    To sum up what I posted earlier...

    ...eating that cake will not keep your from reaching your goal...

    ...but your reaction to it very possibly could, if you let it. As long as you continue to stick to your overall plan, you will succeed (assuming, of course, your plan is sound).

    And if "breaking/craving" is a problem for you, consider scheduling a treat into your plan.
  • Swiftdogs
    Swiftdogs Posts: 328 Member
    You ARE strong! Look how well you've done so far. But as others have said, you now need to learn to work a few splurges into your plan and still make it work for the long haul. You've proven you can do that - you had one piece of cake, not three plus a quart of punch. You'll even have some days where you go way over your calories. In the long run, it doesn't matter. Just get back on track and keep going.

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