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Hello All,
Gonna throw out a scenario, and let's see what you all think.
1. Some wealthy privileged upperclassmen at your daughter's high school committed a crime, and basically got away with it.
2. Those same boys have bullied a friend's daughter, who chose not to press charges.
3. One of the boy's family is throwing a party at their large house and have invited the entire scool. There is even an admission price, so it's basically like a school dance.
4. Your young daughter wants to go. She has nothing to do with the boys in question. Barely even knows who they are.
5. Do you let her go? Is this like saying you're OK with the kid's behavior?
Gonna throw out a scenario, and let's see what you all think.
1. Some wealthy privileged upperclassmen at your daughter's high school committed a crime, and basically got away with it.
2. Those same boys have bullied a friend's daughter, who chose not to press charges.
3. One of the boy's family is throwing a party at their large house and have invited the entire scool. There is even an admission price, so it's basically like a school dance.
4. Your young daughter wants to go. She has nothing to do with the boys in question. Barely even knows who they are.
5. Do you let her go? Is this like saying you're OK with the kid's behavior?
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My first thought is no, she's not going. How old is she?0
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I'd talk to other parents and see what they think - perhaps you can even unite and ruin the party by getting loads of the kids not to go.
But peer pressure being what it is I'd let my daughter go if everyone else is, no point making a stand on your own - sadly life is like this anyway .
But I'd make it clear to her that the behaviour they got away with is not ok by you and explain why.
Actually I'd be dubious about daughter going for other reasons bet its going to be open slather on the booze and/or drugs. So I hope she's well educated on that front!0 -
No, I'm trying to teach my children not to support a$$hats.0
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If it was my daughter, I'd go with her and cause ruin.:laugh:
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No she can't go.0
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Not a chance without the first couple details...let alone with them.0
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She's not going.
It's one party, she'll live if she misses it.0 -
I'd let her go. If she's in high school, she's old enough to start making some of her own decisions about what kind of a person she wants to be.
If you have an issue with how the kids are acting and the related consequences at school, that is something to take up with the principal and school board. Telling your daughter that she can't go to the party won't make one bit of difference to those kids. It could mean a lot to your daughter and it is kind of passive agressively asking her to fight your battles.
I might check with the parents of the kids to make sure there will be no alcohol and adequate supervision however.0 -
Daughter in question is a freshman.0
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No way! I wouldn't want my daughter hanging around with bullies. Especially if the children have bullied others to the point where charges were even considered... I've never had to deal with bullying to the point where the police were involved. (Not around my neck of the woods anyway)0
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I'd say absolutely not...0
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Does your daughter know what these boys have done? I'm not a parent, but if I were, I think I'd give my child all the information (and attempt to do so without bias). Then I'd say she can choose whether or not she wants to go based on the facts.0
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If it was my daughter, I'd go with her and cause ruin.:laugh:
Love this guy ^^^^
Edited to say No, no way, no how.0 -
A big NO to this one.0
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None of that background info even matters.
No, I would not let my child go to a party at someone's house "for the whole school" with an admission price. I can only imagine what is going to happen at that place. Oy.0 -
It might be a way to force the parents to see the behavior of their son's. Let her go with a camera or video recorder. If anything goes wrong sue the pants off the parents. ( Not very nice but it would put a stop to the crap )0
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1. Some wealthy privileged upperclassmen at your daughter's high school committed a crime, and basically got away with it.
2. Those same boys have bullied a friend's daughter, who chose not to press charges.
3. One of the boy's family is throwing a party at their large house and have invited the entire scool. There is even an admission price, so it's basically like a school dance.
4. Your young daughter wants to go. She has nothing to do with the boys in question. Barely even knows who they are.
5. Do you let her go? Is this like saying you're OK with the kid's behavior?
My advice?
1. They've committed one crime that they've gotten away with, what's to say they won't commit others? (with your daughter this time?)
2. I would not put my daughter into a position to be bullied
3. It’s not basically a school dance. The school has no control over this function. The parents of these boys do. And if the boys’ behavior is any indication of their parent’s behavior/morals...that’s scary.
4. I wouldn’t want her to find out who they are or have anything to do with them because of this party.
5. I would not let her go. It’s not about condoning the kid’s behavior or not, it’s about protecting your daughter and not putting her in a situation where she may be exposed to more than she needs to be exposed to.0 -
My first thought is no, she's not going. How old is she?
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A big "No." Have you talked to your daughter about why you are questioning whether to let her go? Take a stand even if you're in the minority. Based on the facts you've given, why would you want your daughter to enter the home (and influence) of those types of kids? Just questions to think about. Good luck! It's extremely challenging to raise good kids these days (mom of five with three being daughters, two grown, one 12).0
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1. Some wealthy privileged upperclassmen at your daughter's high school committed a crime, and basically got away with it.
2. Those same boys have bullied a friend's daughter, who chose not to press charges.
3. One of the boy's family is throwing a party at their large house and have invited the entire scool. There is even an admission price, so it's basically like a school dance.
4. Your young daughter wants to go. She has nothing to do with the boys in question. Barely even knows who they are.
5. Do you let her go? Is this like saying you're OK with the kid's behavior?
My advice?
1. They've committed one crime that they've gotten away with, what's to say they won't commit others? (with your daughter this time?)
2. I would not put my daughter into a position to be bullied
3. It’s not basically a school dance. The school has no control over this function. The parents of these boys do. And if the boys’ behavior is any indication of their parent’s behavior/morals...that’s scary.
4. I wouldn’t want her to find out who they are or have anything to do with them because of this party.
5. I would not let her go. It’s not about condoning the kid’s behavior or not, it’s about protecting your daughter and not putting her in a situation where she may be exposed to more than she needs to be exposed to.0
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