Having a really bad day..

If a complete stranger was on a diet, and had told you all their hopes and fears about it - would you offer them a chocolate bar or a Caramel Iced Latte with whipped cream? Of course not! Why do it to yourself then? You're the best person you know. You're already winning when you come on here instead of just going for it at that stupid vending machine. When I'm down, I always feel like eating too...and I can understand your frustration. When there's a lot of weight to lose, you get feeling like nothing that you're doing is working. It is WORKING. I can see it in your photo.

I can tell you this. Do NOT ruin your AMAZING weight loss of 40 lbs with a binge. It'll feel great for 5 minutes - how long to burn off the calories tomorrow? Do something wonderful for yourself. Have a hot soapy bubble bath and think about all the wonderful things in your life.

You're an awesome amazing person who has made great strides. You may think you want those things now, but you won't when it comes time to burn them off. What a vicious cycle we're on. Food will not make you happy, I promise. Only you can do that.

You're doing this - and you can talk yourself out of this mood - I promise. You're gorgeous, and your before and after photos are amazing! That's the point. Don't feel gross - you've GOT THIS! You're not going to win - you ALREADY HAVE!

Good luck my friend...there are going to be hard times, and don't think that you can never have those things you love, just have them for the right reasons, and at the right time.

XO :flowerforyou:

hi there, spend a few minutes writing down what you like about yourself. Realize that being down is often physical. I agree with the other person, having a snack is probably what you do need right now. Is there any protien/fruit around? For tomorrow plan on this low time and be armed with something you like. I just love diet hot chocolate frothed up, even with a little Cool Whip on top. Drink it slowly and savor, relax and breathe deep. You can stop a cycle of negative thinking. You (and every human) are worth much more than verbal abuse. Be as kind to yourself as you are to your best friend. You can do this, just think about the 40 lbs gone! whooo hooo you go girl!!! and are a strong hero in my book. take care of yourself. with love, your friend who has only lost 4 lbs.

sorry did it sound like i was suggesting binging? i apologise if it sounded that way. I wouldnt have thought a bite of your fave choc bar would be classed as binging... oops!

sorry did it sound like i was suggesting binging? i apologise if it sounded that way. I wouldnt have thought a bite of your fave choc bar would be classed as binging... oops!

No I believe the OP mentions it...not you. Your suggestion was lovely. No worries. :happy:

Thank you all for the lovely support everyone. I'm just so scared because I feel myself slipping back into the mindset that got me here to begin with.. I'm tired of hating myself no matter what I do. I have been doing this for months and it's still so hard. When does the difficulty end. When can I look in the mirror and not hate who I see? When does that chocolate bar stop being so damn tempting every time I sink? I am not near the vending machine anymore so I got that under control but when does this stop?

I stopped being so tempted by the things I love (like chocolate) by telling myself that it's okay to have one every now and then. I'm not "giving up" on anything. We need food. What I needed to rethink was my relationship with food. That is - it's a fuel for my body, not my feelings. More often than not, I don't feel the need for one. But if I do, I have some.

As far as when you'll look in the mirror and love what you see...fake it till you make it! Think of what you'd tell someone who has done what you have. If I told you that I'd just lost 40 pounds, you'd be all, congratulations and WOW! Give yourself permission to compliment yourself the same way. Look at yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself something that may feel untrue to you at first (you'll come to believe it's true if you work at it) Even smile at yourself in the mirror. I so get where you're at with this, I was there too and I still have days where I feel overwhelmed, I just don't see the changes, I'm working so hard and to not see it sometimes can be really frustrating. EVERYONE has those days...fit or not.

This is a new lifestyle, and it's hard work. And oobmonster is right, this is just a shell...who you are is not your body, but can you love it anyway? You're you, all the perfection of you.

And bud, if you want a treat, have it, don't punish yourself for it. You're awesome!

40 pounds is AMAZING! You're doing so great! We all have bad days, just make sure you don't give in and make it into a failure for yourself. I don't tell myself something is totally off limits--that just makes me obsess about it. If you need a piece of chocolate to boost your feelings, do it. But don't allow it to turn into a binge. Allow one. Make sure you savor it--make it last. Don't feel guilty. Feel good about staying away from an excessive amount. And while you're feeling so good, go for a walk. Get outside in the sun. Then congratulate yourself that you didn't fail. Start fresh tomorrow.