Maybe I dont want this.....

I think you do want this why else would you put yourself out there in this post? You just need some support. You can do it.

If you wait for life to sort itself out you'll never start because life never seems to get easier.

The key is just making that decision in your head that you want to do this and then just doing it. You don't wake up suddenly one day and gain 50lbs and you won't wake up suddenly one day and be 50lbs lighter. There is a journey that takes you to both of those places. The decisions you make everyday determine which way you end up going.

So just start today and decide that you do want this and then take 1 step in the right direction. If you repeat that same decision everyday one day you will wake up and weigh less and then maybe you'll realize you really wanted it all along you just had to start!

Or maybe you just haven't figured out a good enough reason to change...

I was obese for most of my adult life - from age 18 to age 37 - and I tried a whole bunch of different ways to lose weight but they never worked long term. Reason #1 was that I didn't have a good enough reason to lose weight. I wanted to be "skinny" and wear cute clothes or look better for a reunion or a wedding - and honestly those just aren't good enough reasons, in fact they could even be called shallow. Reason # 2 was because I thought I had to live on "diet" food like salads and shakes and all that crap I hated.

Solution to reason # 1 was realizing that I had to change for my health and for longevity. I didn't want to go on cholesterol meds and I didn't want to lose my mobility. I had been on vacation with some friends shortly before finally decided to lose the weight once and for all and I was huffing and puffing so bad just from walking around it was shameful. I knew I had to change in order to live the life I wanted to live.

Solution to reason # 2 was realizing that I could eat the foods I loved, within reason (portion control) and with some minor tweaks. And I didn't have to make separate food for me and Hubs, who has very minimal interest in eating healthier. i still have pizza or chinese every week and enjoy all the foods I eat.

If you exercise at all, think of it as a way to earn the treats you want to have. If you walk a mile, that's worth a chocolate chip cookie. If you walk two miles, that's worth a serving of ice cream. If you walk three miles, that's a donut.
Thinking this way can also deter you from eating these things. Like - holy cow, I'd have to walk three miles to earn that donut, is it really worth it?

I also find thinking about how food makes me feel can deter me from eating treats. I may really "want" that cookie but is it going to really satisfy me as well as some yogurt and fruit would? Nope...it sure won't.

I'll be honest, sometimes these tricks work and sometimes they don't but the point is, you have to start retraining the way you think about food. You can do this - trust me.

It's your life, your choice....

Thanks everyone...I'm just so embarrassed at what I've become.....tomorrow is another start....

Start now. this minute. NOW is another start.
Be conscious of you choices, your actions, your thoughts. You can do it !!

I've been there. The task seems overwhelming, so you get frustrated and binge. I've done it, and do it again. Break down the overwhelming task into smaller more achievable tasks. Set small goals, like no ordering pizza for a month. See how you do. Then add donuts to the list and so on. The tasks seem a lot more achievable when they are small.

If you weren't ready, you would have just shrugged at the weight gain and kept doing and never would have made it here. You're ready to lose weight. It's just a matter of what you're willing to do to get there. Some advice I find helpful to curb hunger/cravings:

1. Drink you water. 64oz every day. Chug it.
2. When you crave something sweet, eat some fruit. If you store all of your weight in the middle, then it's likely your body cannot process carbs and sugar. Go down to whole grain carbs once a day and cut out sugar. It's hard for a week then gets better.
3. Go work out. It helps curb your hunger and you won't want to eat back what you just burned off.
4. Do some meal planning and grocery shop once a week. Make sure you have breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the week and budget your calories early (e.g. 300 for breakfast, 300 for lunch, 500 for dinner, and 200 for snacks).

Give it some serious effort now and you'll feel better and want to keep going!

I may get crucified for saying this, but I think there are times when we just have to admit that we are not ready to deal with something. We change when we are ready, not before.

You are absolutely correct.

I have sticky notes I put on the bathroom mirror to help my motivation.

Do you want to lose the weight or are you just saying you want to, decide. Now is a good time.

Just DO IT!

If not now, when?

Love yourself enough to do what is right for you.

Make it so.

Feel free to borrow any of those :bigsmile:

When I first joined I had someone on here tell me I was not ready. It was a slap in the face and I hated it. So I wanted to show her I was ready. That was well over 2 years ago. The only reason I am not at my goal weight is that I had some health issues and brain surgery that followed. I don't really care about the number anymore. My clothes fit well (actually most of them are getting to be too big again) and I am happy with the way I look. Don't let yourself get in the way. You can stop making excuses anytime.

Tommorow is a new day............

I can definitely relate! I've been where you are; having the best intentions, but then having them go to the wayside with emotional eating! But you can do this! I've had an account here for well over 2 years, with many starts and stops (and a baby), and I think what has made the difference this time around is not setting myself up with goals that were unrealistic at the beginning.

I wanted to do it all at once. Boom! Diet changed, exercising 5 days a week, in the morning, after work. I was basically setting myself up for failure, with goals and intentions that weren't realistic for me. I recommend starting small, with manageable goals. Just get active doing anything, walking, running, anything. Slowly begin to change your diet with healthier choices. This is not to say eliminate everything you love, but try and portion it out, and make it work into your calorie goal.

But you CAN DO IT! Good Luck, and stay persistent!

So sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. I was like this when it came to weight loss for many years. I saw a couple of different dieticians even and they both gave me sound advice, but I didn't want to hear it at the time. I felt like people were breathing down my back to lose weight. It was overwhelming for me and I blew it off.
I have to ask though... Why have you started to binge eat after being slim for so many years??? What is it that has brought about this change in your life? I have struggled with weight issues since I was in junior high and didn't feel like it was important enough for me to put time into me, but I have found that if I don't take care of myself I can't be there to help others. When my grandson was born in December of last year, I really decided that it was time for a change so I could be a "cool, fun grandma"! He's my motivation!
So I would say to you, it's time to figure out why you have changed and then figure out what your motivation is. Good luck!

I have found that once I am "good" for a few days, I feel like i can do it and then i keep going. Starting for me is tough but once i get going, i'm gone. Maybe it's a confidence thing, but tomorrow IS another day. Try logging everything ahead of time, or log as you go. You might be more reluctant to eat that 2nd or 3rd donut once you see how many calories they take up!