Sabotage!

I can look at an overweight woman, and make a choice. 1. I can tell her she’s fat, and add a barrage of terrible adjectives to go with it. OR 2. I can choose to tell her that she is lovely. I can focus on her great attributes, and encourage her to continue on her momentary, hourly, daily, and weekly successes toward her goals.

Most of us think it would be terrible to take the first approach with this woman in front of me. Many of us would call the discouragement cruel and mean, and just plain unnecessary. SO MANY of us do that to ourselves though!

It is easy to get addicted and habitually put ourselves down in our inner thoughts. That person in our mirror should be treated as the *dearest friend*, not berated. Yeah, perhaps you are unhappy with where you are at. Maybe your whole life is negative. Let’s twist that focus though. Instead of looking at the muck at the proverbial bottom of the well you’re in, look up at the light and figure out the first step to reaching it, and then start climbing. Tell yourself what you would tell a dear friend.

Spend that energy turning the negative to positive. Here’s how:

When you have a negative thought about yourself, for example, “I’m fat.” IMMEDIATELY correct yourself: “I am capable of getting healthy.” Give yourself credit and keep up your efforts to improve your life. Now take that negative self-talk off of your profile and write about yourself in a positive light.

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