Need Extra Motivation and Cheering Up :(

jujaws
jujaws Posts: 190 Member
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I think my boyfriend broke up with me over a plant of all things today. Not only that, it was rough at a family dinner via text message.

There's a long list of things that go along with this...

I'm just disappointed by the same ole let downs especially when I thought I found somebody legit. It definitely throws off my diet since I really hardly eat under times like this.

I hope you all are having a better day than I. <3
How do you guys handle your breakups?
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  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
    In the past, I would have stuffed my face.. Now? I just work out until I am too sore to give a crap. (Within healthy limits of course).

    Yes, the crying comes and goes, but if it's something so stupid as a plant.. I'd have to say, you are better off :|

    BIGGGG HUGGGG to you. I hope you feel better soon, if he did :(
  • musikalmami237
    musikalmami237 Posts: 214 Member
    I hope you feel better soon! Try to focus all your negative feelings/emotions into your work outs, it will be incredible fuel for you!
  • simplycorey
    simplycorey Posts: 721 Member
    I have my ups and downs. Sometimes I can't eat and sometimes I want to eat all the junk I can get my hands on. I try to stay focused and use exercise as a stress reliever but some days I just can't. Do your best but don't beat yourself up over a "bad" day. Keep in mind that this is only temporary and things will get better!
  • DJMIKEY1
    DJMIKEY1 Posts: 523 Member
    1st off you seem to be an incredible young woman, his loss and he will realize it but by then it will be too late because you will have moved on to better things.

    When I got divorced I thought my world had ended but with the help of new and old friends I got thru it.

    Stay positive and focused, we all have bad days or times. If you need help ask for it, don't bottle everything up, let it out.

    You have great things ahead of you in life, this is only a little pebble on the road to happiness.
  • jujaws
    jujaws Posts: 190 Member
    I try to tell myself that I just haven't found the right one if the other person truly acts like this. I think it just gets tiring telling yourself reassuring things, and even moreso being so optimistic and having it taken away like some sort of routine.

    I should definitely try to push out all these bad feelings and go on some long walks and clear my mind. I just wish all of this WASN'T temporary and I had some sort of commitment going on.

    There's an awesome quote I try to go by, "Don't worry about things that are not in your control." It seems to keep me quite positive. I can control how I act in every bad situation.

    Hmph..all because I called a plant ugly.....Must have been some underlying grief somewhere.

    Anyway, thank you guys..all your kind words mean an awful lot to me.
  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
    Well, you are still very young. There's time for the one, and he's out there somewhere :)
  • Kevalicious99
    Kevalicious99 Posts: 1,131 Member
    You are cute. Seems like his loss.
  • Howdoyoufeeltoday
    Howdoyoufeeltoday Posts: 481 Member
    sounds like he was just looking for an excuse to break up with you. and if he had to use an excuse like that then that makes him a coward and you don't need ppl like that in your life, esp. boyfriends. it's this moment where you have to take a step back and say "Im not gonna let his issues make me feel bad about myself." Take this time to give yourself a little love. Not always easy, trust me, but you'll feel better in the long run. I'm still a little guilty of eating when I'm stressed or angry or sad (I love me some raw cookie dough), but I find other ways to let out the emotion too. I'm a big music person so i'll play or write something or just even listen to some great songs. Find something that helps you express yourself. Go out and buy yourself a bamboo plant....it's good luck I hear :tongue:
  • outlandish30
    outlandish30 Posts: 21 Member
    Because you called a plant ugly? Well it probably was. He and his plant can have a happy life out there. (wherever out there is)
  • outlandish30
    outlandish30 Posts: 21 Member
    And you know what? SCREW HIM!!!! For reals yo you don't need someone petty like that in your life. Get off the emotional merry go round
  • raaraa17
    raaraa17 Posts: 1,225 Member
    This guy is obviously a ****, sorry.

    Try to stick to your diet, so when you reach your target and are even hotter than you are now, he will be crying like the little ***** that he is!
  • outlandish30
    outlandish30 Posts: 21 Member
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  • jujaws
    jujaws Posts: 190 Member
    Oh you ladies are a hoot! :)

    I feel like this is a lot of drama for a guy to be bringing into something.

    I guess we are going to go for a walk soon to talk about all of it. Wish me luck!! (at least to keep my sanity!)
  • jujaws
    jujaws Posts: 190 Member
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    That is the plant, by the way!!
  • jujaws
    jujaws Posts: 190 Member
    ...Except for it's in a TEENY pot on the window and the stupid seedlings are practically growing on the floor. Well, not anymore since the cat ate them ;).
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    i sleep a lot, but i sleep a lot in general. God I love sleep.

    And good luck on your walk. Make him hurt, baby make him hurt.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
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    That is the plant, by the way!!

    OMG I kill those plants all the time. Those things are fudgin' hard to keep alive.
  • GardeningZombie
    GardeningZombie Posts: 55 Member
    Whoa, you were insulting a spider plant? Hmm... Ok. this gardening zombie approves. Now if you called these plants ugly.. well then I can understand the issue

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    These are my current zombie loving babies that I'm still keeping in the hoop house!
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
    I'm sure it runs deeper than that ugly plant. lol Maybe he's just looking for an excuse - guys do that sometimes.
  • helpfit101
    helpfit101 Posts: 347 Member
    People don't break up about plants.

    But plants (and cars and tv and .. anything really) are good objects to start a fight about where you will then proceed to break up.
  • MANDallasTX
    MANDallasTX Posts: 36
    I don't like spiders! There I said it. I'm talking about arachnoids. You are talking about the Spider Plant (Chlorophytum Comosum). Look here for how to maintain them http://plantcaretoday.com/how-to-care-for-the-spider-plant-chlorophytum.html

    My Spidey senses tell me the damaged plant was just the Triggering event. Other smaller issues built up over time and just like that last straw, it broke the relationship's back.

    I follow the normal stages of grief. Denial and Isolation or what I call cry me a river. Anger or break objects into bits. Bargaining the If Only I had done... Depression, the I'll never find my one and only! And finally Acceptance. The I'm over them because I've found someone new. After you have been through this enough times it gets less hard. It will never get easy, just less hard. Just take the time to go through the stages. Keep your good friends and family near.

    You are young and strong, YOU WILL OVERCOME.

    Now go buy another Spider plant and tear it to shreds with your cat!!! :devil: <<Evil Laugh>>
  • outlandish30
    outlandish30 Posts: 21 Member
    That is an ugly plant.
  • hollyberry2012
    hollyberry2012 Posts: 239 Member
    A guy that even CARES what a plant looks like (as in pretty or ugly) is such a sexual turn off for me. Real men think, is this good for food? Is this good for shade? Is this good for making her smile and give me sex? Can i build something with it?

    Give it a few years gf, you will get the diff between high and low maintenance men ;)
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    So, you're free this weekend?

    I'll buy you a new plant:
    http://www.lonelyplanet.com/angola/travel-tips-and-articles/76930
  • jennalennafur
    jennalennafur Posts: 80 Member
    Yeah, if he's going to break up with you over a plant....Maybe you belong with someone who is less...Um, passionate about plants. :p

    I'm sure it's hard, just hang in there! :)
  • toutle1221
    toutle1221 Posts: 79 Member
    If it helps any, I was once with a guy for 10 months, and found out he was cheating on me the whole time when his fiancee posted their engagement photos/announcement online.
    So I'm proof that us women can survive what ever crap in life men cause us. lol (no offense gentlemen!)

    I slept a lot for the first month or so because I was depressed. Then I literally just forced myself to go threw the motions of my normal everyday life. After awhile I didn't have to try so hard. And a few more weeks after that I realized I wasn't even thinking about it much any more.
    Keep your chin up! I have faith that you're going to be just fine.
  • theopenforum
    theopenforum Posts: 280 Member
    MMM back in the day I would play some Dru Hill or anything sad, cry, and move on. Now I just go workout instead. I think this way is is less destructive but I do miss crying and Dru Hill. That thong song was pretty good lol

    But yeh real talk. You are better off without him and he will one day realize the mistake he made. You seem like a nice person and you definitely aren't hurting in the looks department so I wouldn't stress over it too much :)

    Cheers,

    Tof
  • capriqueen
    capriqueen Posts: 976 Member
    I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with a plant and he just has issues of his own. As cliche as it sounds, his loss. He doesn't deserve you.
    Like someone here said, a setback would mean to me stuffing my face till my stomach yowls in protest. Erm, not today though.
    Maybe get out the hurt for awhile, but believe there's someone better waiting out for you out there?
  • nikilis
    nikilis Posts: 2,305 Member
    well... from a little creeping, you have a snake, a baby crocodile and a hand gun at your disposal.

    so. you have a few choices. personally, I'd go for something like this.

    first, go and buy a bane mask and some face paint. second get the snake nice and hot. third, put the baby cayman in your pocket and load your gun with rubber bullets.

    first disguise yourself, then under the cover of darkness, go to his house and throw the snake on him when he's sleeping. at this point he will probably jump out of bed and turn the light on. Take aim on his testicles and pop a rubber cap in his nuts. Whilst hes in the fetal position grab the snake, make your way home whilst stroking the cayman. yes.... who's a cute cayman.

    you should also have an airtight alibi, have a friend come over and "watch a movie" and make sure you have seen it so you can talk about what happened in the movie. that should be enough. you might want to stash the gun somewhere also. just for a while.

    truth is, your 23, you have a snake, a cayman and a hand gun, these are all excellent qualities that a good man will appreciate. you're young, have fun, and forget that dumb-*kitten*.
  • djeffreys10
    djeffreys10 Posts: 2,312 Member
    Not really sure what is this "break up" thing of which you speak. Is that one of those things that happens to people who aren't in a perpetual and eternal state of singleness?

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