upset & discouraged :(

Been there! Done that! More often than I care to admit. :ohwell: I'm sorry that you had a bad day - BUT that's all that it was. One bad day. Stop stressing. You still have that yummy salad that you can have for lunch/dinner today. Just because you over ate yesterday doesn't mean that you have to today. Get back on track today with your diet and drink lots of water. The only way that one day will derail your path is if you allow it too. You'll be fine! Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, get back at it.

It happens. Last night I had too many pieces of halloween candy that didn't leave me feeling satisfied so I had two sandwiches. Those put me over my calories. I began to feel terrible as well until I let go and realized tomorrow (today) is a new day and start back at zero. What's done is done.

Forward. Ever forward. The salad will make a great lunch. We can't spend the energy beating ourselves up. Beat a punching bag instead or exercise extra hard. Parties are notorious for doing this and it will probably not be the last party you attend. Drink lots of water and have a great November 1st.

I find it very hard to resist junk food, high calorie food, and sweets (stuff that tastes good....). Meal planning is essential for me, plus facing the fact that I'm a food addict.

The salad wasn't enough for you. You probably also needed a mental treat to survive the night. Next time eat a regular meal so you are absolutely full before you head to a party. That's the one thing that has saved me during social occasions because my self control is so poor. Once you're there, there are several things you can do, like drink water and eat something small on a small plate and take forever to eat it.

But don't beat yourself up! Richard Branson, the billionaire executive, said this about being a leader: "Make a decision, make a mistake, move on."

We have all had moments like that.....over and over and over again.....that is why many of us are have been on MFP for at least a year and really haven't lost weight. There are so many aspects of this weight loss thing and we tend to try to just tackle one of them....FOOD. We obviously have learned what we should eat and what we shouldn't eat but until we get into our own minds, we will never fix the problem. I have tried to give myself reassurance after 4 days of good and then chomping down 4 pieces of pizza and several glasses of sweet tea. The sad thing is that I hear myself tell people that I have been "trying" to lose this weight for 4 years and it won't budge. Hell, it isn't going to budge at the rate I was going. We all have a button inside of us that can empower us to do anything we want.....we just have to figure out what it going to push that button. For me, I had to take a hard look at myself and acknowledge that it isn't my age, it is beig perimenopausal, it isn't because my thyroid must be broke....it is because I haven't loved myself enough to make it happen. Would you ever consider talking a dieting friend into nacho cheese, chips and dip.....candy? No, not because you don't want her to enjoy herself but because you care about her. So does it make sense to you that if you care about yourself, I mean truly care about yourself, that you would want what is best for yourself? I say a poster last week. It had a fat, out of shape woman against a wall with a very fit woman standing in front of her pointing her finger in her face saying "what else are you half assing in your life". That poster slapped me in the face because I realized that was exactly how I was living my life....half assing everything, especially my weight loss and fitness efforts. I made my own little poster and laminated and hung it on my bathroom mirror and everyday I tell myself I will not half *kitten* the day away...that I will give it my all. Since then, I have not even been tempted to indulge myself or make excuses. I am not going to half *kitten* the care I have for myself nor half *kitten* my love.

Dry off your face and tonight find some time to really think about what it is you want and what it is going to take to get it. Instead of talking negatively to yourself, convince yourself that you ARE worth every bit of effort and every sacrifice it is going to take. Convince yourself that there is no more half assing!!!!!

We have all had moments like that.....over and over and over again.....that is why many of us are have been on MFP for at least a year and really haven't lost weight. There are so many aspects of this weight loss thing and we tend to try to just tackle one of them....FOOD. We obviously have learned what we should eat and what we shouldn't eat but until we get into our own minds, we will never fix the problem. I have tried to give myself reassurance after 4 days of good and then chomping down 4 pieces of pizza and several glasses of sweet tea. The sad thing is that I hear myself tell people that I have been "trying" to lose this weight for 4 years and it won't budge. Hell, it isn't going to budge at the rate I was going. We all have a button inside of us that can empower us to do anything we want.....we just have to figure out what it going to push that button. For me, I had to take a hard look at myself and acknowledge that it isn't my age, it is beig perimenopausal, it isn't because my thyroid must be broke....it is because I haven't loved myself enough to make it happen. Would you ever consider talking a dieting friend into nacho cheese, chips and dip.....candy? No, not because you don't want her to enjoy herself but because you care about her. So does it make sense to you that if you care about yourself, I mean truly care about yourself, that you would want what is best for yourself? I say a poster last week. It had a fat, out of shape woman against a wall with a very fit woman standing in front of her pointing her finger in her face saying "what else are you half assing in your life". That poster slapped me in the face because I realized that was exactly how I was living my life....half assing everything, especially my weight loss and fitness efforts. I made my own little poster and laminated and hung it on my bathroom mirror and everyday I tell myself I will not half *kitten* the day away...that I will give it my all. Since then, I have not even been tempted to indulge myself or make excuses. I am not going to half *kitten* the care I have for myself nor half *kitten* my love.

Dry off your face and tonight find some time to really think about what it is you want and what it is going to take to get it. Instead of talking negatively to yourself, convince yourself that you ARE worth every bit of effort and every sacrifice it is going to take. Convince yourself that there is no more half assing!!!!!

Love every word of this!

Start again tomorrow!! We've all been there. It's the worst feeling ever and nothing I say will make you not have it but please know you can just start again and keep going!! Good for you being open about it here and reaching out for support. Keep going, you will be so glad that you did. Maybe just avoid those social situations for now until you feel a bit stronger. You're doing great, keep going. A little slip up won't matter a few months from now.

You're aware. That's good. Here's a great rule of thumb I tell my clients.

You can have a bad day, a bad week and even a bad month, but if you stay pretty consistent, you'll never have a bad year. It happens.
Lots of people have great intentions when it comes to certain events, but sometimes you have to let loose. Don't have negative feelings towards food. When one does, they fight temptation every day. Always better to figure out how you can fit those foods in that you like within reason.

Just chalk it up to one bad day then get back on track.

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I am presuming that you stayed longer than you planned because you were having fun. Don't spoil it, feel happy! Give yourself a bit of lea-way to let go every now and again. I would highly recommend these links:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/817188-iifym
http://impruvism.com/flexible-dieting-basics/

Essentially, they advocate a flexible approach to dieting so that the post-party guilt doesn't happen. You need to set yourself up for a permanant healthy lifestyle, not just while you are trying to lose weight. That will involve the odd unhealthy day, so psychologically you need to teach yourself it's ok, every now and again.

Seems like you're being too strict on yourself and not planning a lifestyle you can live with - do you want to spend a lifetime taking salads to parties? Er no.

So on days where you have something fun planned... eat well in the day [as you did] and squeeze in some exercise [which you did] and enjoy the party [which you did]... instead of having a massive blow out you could say I'm allowed this much of everything or more of just two things [your favourites] etc. That way you permitted yourself and you don't have to spend the next day/week punching yourself round the head.... you just get back on with eating healthy at home/work and exercising until the next party.... just make sure you're life isn't one long party :P

Better to lose the weight at a slower realistic pace in a lifestyle you can stick to, than lose it fast, and then put it back on as you didn't learn any habits for life.

Just my two-penneth worth.

You had a good time at the party didn't you? You won't be going to parties every night. Be glad you had a good time, move on. Its so easy to get into bad habits and that's what we have all done when we binge. If we just try to break the habit we can, it just takes a few days of being strong and doing what we know is good for us. I know every time I crave something and eat it I think to myself did I really enjoy it...no, and I try and remember that for next time I want the candy, chocolate, whatever I'm planning to binge on.
Don't beat yourself up, you can see by all the other comments the support you have on here. Move on tomorrow is another day

Poop happens.... move on. Dust yourself on and try again. Not the end of the world just a lesson learned. Probably wont be the last time you "fall off the wagon" you just got to figure out if you are going to let it define you or if you are going to be strong enough to move past it and not let it overpower you. First and foremost you have to change the way you view your downfalls. You have to stop letting it get you down like this... just say "oh well! Gotta do better today!" What is done is done. Can't change it all you can do is MOVE FORWARD!!!! Everyday is a New Beginning!!!! :flowerforyou:

I'm the exact same weight and looking for the same loss. I'll send you a FR.

I need some motivation as well to keep going!