Is this some sort of JOKE?!?!?!
MandyyyB
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I have been doing SO AWESOME at this lifestyle change since I started in August, but this has literally been the worst week ever.
Yes, I am throwing myself a pity party so if you don't want to hear it or you have any more negativity to add to my week, go away, I can't take your ****. If any of you know me, you know I am extremely sensitive, and incredibly nice to everyone, even if they don't deserve it. So honestly it is very unlike me to even be posting this right now.
Back to the point... I had finally lost 27 pounds. I have never been able to lose 10 pounds before so this was a HUGE deal for me. I was 3 pounds away from being back in the 100s and my life was MADE. I was still 203 pounds but I was ECSTATIC!
Anyhow, I wasn't doing anything different, I was working so hard to see that 199, but guess what happened when I got up on weigh in day this week? I crossed my fingers and with a big smile on my face saw 204.8!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't give me the "1.8 pounds? It is fine honey, don't worry about it!" speech, it won't help. My jaw hit the floor and the tears started pouring, I couldn't believe that I had gained weight back. I am seriously almost depressed over this. I never go over my calories, I eat what I am supposed to... I don't know what I did wrong.
Then I have to listen to my boyfriend "There is something wrong with the scale, baby. Stop beating yourself up, blah blah blah blah blah blah." ....Well guess what? It is dropping for him, so obviously there is something wrong with me and not the f'ing scale. Then he insists on hugging me and holding me and continuing to tell me its nothing and its going to be okay and that just reminds me that I failed myself. I can't get it through his sweet *kitten* head that he is making it worse. If he would just leave me alone I would be okay.
I am just so scared that I am going to balloon back up to 230 or more and I can't take it. I don't want to be that person anymore.
I am homesick as hell, and I can't go home again until like January... Yea, no family for me on Thanksgiving or Christmas. Just a 500 sq. foot apartment, a college campus down the street, and a crap ton of people I don't even like. But of course I am going to smile and act like I am peachy keen!
FML.
Yes, I am throwing myself a pity party so if you don't want to hear it or you have any more negativity to add to my week, go away, I can't take your ****. If any of you know me, you know I am extremely sensitive, and incredibly nice to everyone, even if they don't deserve it. So honestly it is very unlike me to even be posting this right now.
Back to the point... I had finally lost 27 pounds. I have never been able to lose 10 pounds before so this was a HUGE deal for me. I was 3 pounds away from being back in the 100s and my life was MADE. I was still 203 pounds but I was ECSTATIC!
Anyhow, I wasn't doing anything different, I was working so hard to see that 199, but guess what happened when I got up on weigh in day this week? I crossed my fingers and with a big smile on my face saw 204.8!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't give me the "1.8 pounds? It is fine honey, don't worry about it!" speech, it won't help. My jaw hit the floor and the tears started pouring, I couldn't believe that I had gained weight back. I am seriously almost depressed over this. I never go over my calories, I eat what I am supposed to... I don't know what I did wrong.
Then I have to listen to my boyfriend "There is something wrong with the scale, baby. Stop beating yourself up, blah blah blah blah blah blah." ....Well guess what? It is dropping for him, so obviously there is something wrong with me and not the f'ing scale. Then he insists on hugging me and holding me and continuing to tell me its nothing and its going to be okay and that just reminds me that I failed myself. I can't get it through his sweet *kitten* head that he is making it worse. If he would just leave me alone I would be okay.
I am just so scared that I am going to balloon back up to 230 or more and I can't take it. I don't want to be that person anymore.
I am homesick as hell, and I can't go home again until like January... Yea, no family for me on Thanksgiving or Christmas. Just a 500 sq. foot apartment, a college campus down the street, and a crap ton of people I don't even like. But of course I am going to smile and act like I am peachy keen!
FML.
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Is it possible that it's water retention? That time of the month? Did you eat nearly 7000 calories over maintenance that would cause you to gain fat? If not....you didn't gain 1.8lbs of fat.0
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If Britney Spears got through 2007 OK, you will get through the next eight weeks.
ETA: When I backslid earlier this year, by 15 pounds, I just put on my old winter coat and looked at how it hung off my frame. That cheered me up. Maybe that will help you.0 -
Seriously, fluctuations like that are normal. There is no way you gained 1.8 pounds of fat that quickly. You could easily retain that much water, or just have more in your bowel than usual (yeah, probably TMI). Did you start any new exercise? Eat anything remotely salty, or maybe not enough potassium to balance out the sodium you had? Good old hormones? Any of those will do it.
Don't be scared you'll gain the weight back - you won't unless you panic and give up.0 -
Is it possible that it's water retention? That time of the month? Did you eat nearly 7000 calories over maintenance that would cause you to gain fat? If not....you didn't gain 1.8lbs of fat.
No PMS, not even close to it. I might go over 1200 calories once every other week, so probably not. It is just heartbreaking b/c I am a spaz!0 -
You do understand that there are natural body weight fluctuations right? Most people can fluctuate 3-5 Lbs day to day given water retention/release, waste, timing of food in/out, hormones, etc. Hell, I drop a deuce and I'll lose more than 1.8 Lbs.
Because of these fluctuations, weight loss isn't linear...you're going to need to think on that long and hard and really wrap your brain around it, otherwise you're going to be in for a very long and ****ty ride. I'd also suggest doing some research into the science of all of this...it will help you actually understand what is going on...that way you won't have to throw a fit every time this happens (and it will happen a lot). And god help you if you don't understand this stuff when you get to maintenance...if you don't understand natural weight fluctuations in maintenance you're in for real mind ****...0 -
I actually did the same thing. I started out at 235 and I had never been able to get below 215lbs. I worked out, ate well, and the weight started to drop. One morning I hit 214 and I was so happy. I kept working and just couldn't wait to see how much more I lost. I weighed in next week - and I was 217. I was like you. I cried and I just couldn't understand how it had happened. I called myself a failure and a bunch of other names, and I almost gave up. Thankfully, I didn't. I stayed at 217 for about two weeks, when suddenly the scaled jumped down to 213 and then below. I did the same thing again when I got down to 204. I 'gained' a few pounds, got stuck for about week, and then suddenly it started to drop again. I always seem to go up a couple of pounds before the weight comes off. Maybe the same is true for you? In any event, don't give up. I know this is stressful, and hopefully things will turn around for you soon.0
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I know how frustrating it is for weight to zigzag up and down. I am big on the salty foods and my weight fluctuates 5lbs at a time. :sad: I found the really cool thread a while back that shows a false plateau, when really the trend is downwards. I think you'll like it, especially if you're a bit of a numbers and charts geek like me, and it should make you feel better. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1098806-newbie-loss-plateaus-and-weight-loss-math-with-graphs?hl=Plateau+graphs&page=1#0
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A quart of water weighs two pounds, so it could be as simple as some extra hydration, or a BM that didn't happen yet.
I don't know what diet regime you are on, but I know that a vegan diet will take you through those last pounds no problem. I started Dr. Dean Ornish's reversal diet to stave off heart disease, and lost twenty pounds unintentionally, though I feel full and satisfied all day. It is easy to get good nutrition, though there are not a lot of comfort foods involved.
Hang in there, stay the course. It is like sailing a boat. The winds and currents make going in a straight line impossible, but boats do arrive at their destinations.
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If you are eating 1200 calories or even a little bit above then there is no way you gained. Yes the damn scale can be frustrating as hell but its very possible its water weight. Put on your big girl panties and keep on pushing forward. You will have many more days like this unfortunately but that's why its important to keep on kicking *kitten* everyday and you will get there.0
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Our bodies don't always behave the way we want them to, but I really don't think you have anything to be depressed over. The progress you've made so far is amazing-- you should be proud of yourself!
I can definitely relate to your problem. When I started losing weight back in January, I had this silly dream that I'd be back down to my ideal weight by my anniversary so I could put on my wedding dress just for kicks and giggles. My body, however, had other plans. From June until about the second week of September, I could not lose anything! I gained and lost the same two pounds the whole summer. I made a couple of adjustments (the biggest being I switched over to TDEE -20%) at the beginning of September and since then, the weight has been coming off again.
I'm not saying that you need to switch over to TDEE -20% or anything, but maybe see if there are any adjustments you can make just to see if that helps get things moving again. It sounds like, overall, you're doing all the right things!
Whatever happens, don't give up and don't let it get to you too much. Fluctuations are normal and I'm sure that if you keep doing what you have been, you'll see that scale start to move again.
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I weigh myself every day, and it fluctuates. I would only start to worry if I was up 5 pounds or more. Anything lower doesn't mean much.0
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It isn't linear...get that through your head...0 -
Thank you all for your kind words, I'm truthfully perking up a little bit and it is all thanks to y'all!
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I know stressful weeks do it for me. No matter how good I eat, up the scale goes. This may not be the problem for you, but even stressing over getting to Onederland could do it. New exercise routines have done it to me too. The above listed stuff has done it too.
Its not a happy day, I get it. You want to see the big 199, but getting impatient is not a resolution. You are working hard. Keep at it. Your body unfortunately will not always play by your rules. If it did, none of us would be overweight in the first place. Don't let it beat you.0 -
It isn't linear...get that through your head...
I love this chart. This is a great chart and I personally needed to see it. I'm not as upset as the OP, but I am suffering something similar and had emailed my bootcamp trainer who essentially said something like this chart shows.
I'll give myself more grace and more time and push through!0 -
Well you sound pretty stressed, and long term stress can also cause your body to hold onto kilos. I think it's more likely you've just got fluctuations, and it happened to occur on weigh day! Given that you have done so well with the weight loss to date it's likely to continue, so hang in there.0
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It isn't linear...get that through your head...
THIS x100000000000000
It took me over a year to lose 60 pounds. There were lots of ups and downs and still are. Some days i will wake up 5 pounds heavier then I was before. If you let it get to you, you are setting yourself up for failure. If this was easy, everyone would do it. Why do you think only 10% of people who start a lifestyle change actually stick with it?0 -
I won't be nice and say that you need a hug or people telling you it's ok. At least in my case were those kind of atittudes that got me here.
So what I've been trying to tell myself every time that the scales disppoints me is: Get up and go to the gym! Change your exercise, change your diet, do something and keep moving!"
I know how bad days/weeks/years are like but couch and ice cream is not gonna help.
Well, I have a looong way to go. If you want some support feel free to add me. ^^0 -
I actually did the same thing. I started out at 235 and I had never been able to get below 215lbs. I worked out, ate well, and the weight started to drop. One morning I hit 214 and I was so happy. I kept working and just couldn't wait to see how much more I lost. I weighed in next week - and I was 217. I was like you. I cried and I just couldn't understand how it had happened. I called myself a failure and a bunch of other names, and I almost gave up. Thankfully, I didn't. I stayed at 217 for about two weeks, when suddenly the scaled jumped down to 213 and then below. I did the same thing again when I got down to 204. I 'gained' a few pounds, got stuck for about week, and then suddenly it started to drop again. I always seem to go up a couple of pounds before the weight comes off. Maybe the same is true for you? In any event, don't give up. I know this is stressful, and hopefully things will turn around for you soon.
^ what she said. You had a good vent now.
p.s. Give that boyfriend a big hug and kiss, He is at least being supportive. not everybody gets that.0 -
You do understand that there are natural body weight fluctuations right? Most people can fluctuate 3-5 Lbs day to day given water retention/release, waste, timing of food in/out, hormones, etc. Hell, I drop a deuce and I'll lose more than 1.8 Lbs.
Because of these fluctuations, weight loss isn't linear...you're going to need to think on that long and hard and really wrap your brain around it, otherwise you're going to be in for a very long and ****ty ride. I'd also suggest doing some research into the science of all of this...it will help you actually understand what is going on...that way you won't have to throw a fit every time this happens (and it will happen a lot). And god help you if you don't understand this stuff when you get to maintenance...if you don't understand natural weight fluctuations in maintenance you're in for real mind ****...
This saved me a lot of typing and I agree. Just keep at it and you will get there. Good luck to you. And try not to get so upset, that is not going to help you. Cheer up.0 -
I've skimmed through the other posts and seen pretty much everything that I would say, so I won't say it again.
Instead, I'll just send you an internet hugh :flowerforyou: I've had the same frustration with the scale from time to time (and with other things in life). I know that emotions happen, sometimes beyond logic. So just breathe, hug, and when you are ready you can step back into the game ready to kick butt even more than before 
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I had several points of weight where I got hung up and fluctuated before I finally went below. 200 was one of them. 180 and 160 were my other two. I don't know if it's something mental we do to ourselves out of some sort of fear or if it's just our bodies resisting change but I do know how frustrating it can be.
Keep moving, keep eating in moderation and keep the faith. This is a temporary set back. It is most likely not a gain but a fluctuation. Don't let it get you down and most of all don't let it take your eyes off of your goals for one second.0 -
I have been doing SO AWESOME at this lifestyle change since I started in August, but this has literally been the worst week ever.
Also, really think about that word you are using..."lifestyle". The first part of that word is "life"...as in for life...as in forever. this isn't about today or tomorrow or next week or next month or even next year or the next decade. Health, nutrition, and fitness are lifetime endeavors. There is no finish line...you are never "done".
You are going to have bad days and good days and bad weeks and good weeks and hell, you're even going to have bad months...it happens...but when you're truly living a "lifestyle" of proper nutrition and fitness, these bad days and weeks are just meaningless blips in what is otherwise pure and unadulterated awesomeness.
This week was just one out of about 4,000 that the average person has over their lifetime...0 -
Ovulation always caused the scale to go up two for me.Is it possible that it's water retention? That time of the month? Did you eat nearly 7000 calories over maintenance that would cause you to gain fat? If not....you didn't gain 1.8lbs of fat.
No PMS, not even close to it. I might go over 1200 calories once every other week, so probably not. It is just heartbreaking b/c I am a spaz!0 -
I have been doing SO AWESOME at this lifestyle change since I started in August, but this has literally been the worst week ever.
Yes, I am throwing myself a pity party so if you don't want to hear it or you have any more negativity to add to my week, go away, I can't take your ****. If any of you know me, you know I am extremely sensitive, and incredibly nice to everyone, even if they don't deserve it. So honestly it is very unlike me to even be posting this right now.
Back to the point... I had finally lost 27 pounds. I have never been able to lose 10 pounds before so this was a HUGE deal for me. I was 3 pounds away from being back in the 100s and my life was MADE. I was still 203 pounds but I was ECSTATIC!
Anyhow, I wasn't doing anything different, I was working so hard to see that 199, but guess what happened when I got up on weigh in day this week? I crossed my fingers and with a big smile on my face saw 204.8!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't give me the "1.8 pounds? It is fine honey, don't worry about it!" speech, it won't help. My jaw hit the floor and the tears started pouring, I couldn't believe that I had gained weight back. I am seriously almost depressed over this. I never go over my calories, I eat what I am supposed to... I don't know what I did wrong.
Then I have to listen to my boyfriend "There is something wrong with the scale, baby. Stop beating yourself up, blah blah blah blah blah blah." ....Well guess what? It is dropping for him, so obviously there is something wrong with me and not the f'ing scale. Then he insists on hugging me and holding me and continuing to tell me its nothing and its going to be okay and that just reminds me that I failed myself. I can't get it through his sweet *kitten* head that he is making it worse. If he would just leave me alone I would be okay.
I am just so scared that I am going to balloon back up to 230 or more and I can't take it. I don't want to be that person anymore.
I am homesick as hell, and I can't go home again until like January... Yea, no family for me on Thanksgiving or Christmas. Just a 500 sq. foot apartment, a college campus down the street, and a crap ton of people I don't even like. But of course I am going to smile and act like I am peachy keen!
FML.
From reading what you wrote, seems as if you have too much anger in you. Take a long walk and try to look at things differently if you can. Not being able to go home for Thanksgiving and Christmas may be a sad time, but stop thinking about yourself and do something for someone whose needs may be greater than yours - help out at a homeless shelter over the holidays, go to the local hospital and read to someone, do something that would make someone happy for the holidays. Someone we get so caught up in ourselves and forget the world around us.
On gaining weight, I know how you feel, because you are finally seeing a change in your body, only to be gaining once again. Spend some time going over your meals, did you enter everything into the diary, were they days when you were overeating. Check out your diary for the last two weeks and see what can be changed and how. It is not the end of the world, and being stressed out is not going to make the situation nay easier. This is a long journey you have undertaken, you did not become fat overnight and you will not become slim overnight. Spend some time pampering yourself, you deserve it.0 -
Well, I can't see your diary or your goals but would suggest you do what has worked for my wife and I. carbohydrate restriction.
start by visiting the keto calculator and reset your MFP goals to the goals it suggests. drop your carbs to under 100 a day maximum and work towards a basic level of 50 grams of carbs per day over the next 6 weeks. START eating a HIGH FAT Moderate Protein low carb diet and you'll see how quickly you are at 135lbs and wonder what was so hard about that.
I mean it. need help, reach out to me. taken a lot of folks through this now, and they all agree that it worked.
yes, I said HIGH FAT.0 -
It sounds like you've gotten a lot of encouragement but let me add mine. After every loss, I gain a little back. I'd dropped 3 lbs at the beginning of the week (after a 2 lb gain that showed on a Biggest Loser Challenge at work weigh-in), only to gain back 1.6 lbs due to not sleeping enough, or drinking enough water (lips are showing signs of dehydration for me, which means either my sodium intake is up or right now 1 gallon of water is not enough for me daily) or something like that.
I know how it feels as I've been bad and weighing myself daily (you shouldn't, it can get discouraging with how our bodies change daily). But there are going to be these ups and downs. It's always something stupid too like not getting enough sleep (my body needs 8 hours or it'll hold onto every ounce it can) or not drinking enough water but doing everything else right to include tracking and keeping in my calorie range.
You're making the right changes and the scale will reflect it. I've got a better guideline for weight loss, how are your clothes fitting? I'm able to fit into a pair of jeans that I was given and could not zip up two weeks ago. That's a better indication for me than a # on the scale. I've always said that the scale could say that I weigh 400 lbs as long as I look like I weigh 145 lbs.
Keep up the good work.0 -
::hugs::
This sounds like me the last 2 years. Scale going all over the place even when I am counting EVERY SINGLE F****** calorie and working my butt off.
Plus the missing family and friends is really hard (I lived in another state for 2 years and had to go an entire year without seeing anyone from home. Talk about homesick and depressed.)
It is hard, but you will do it. Hopefully next week you will have a "whoosh" of weight loss and you won't hate the scale (as much)!0 -
1.8.........hate to be blunt but when was the last time you took a good dump ???0
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I totally get this! There is a psychological component of this lifestyle that is hard to ignore. That first number on a scale is really a big frakking deal when you haven't seen it in years! Seeing it change to a 1 from a 2 (or 2 from 3, etc. as many awesome people here have done) feels like a huge win. To be so close and then to see the scale go the "wrong" direction is rough. I've been dealing with the same thing for months now, and just recently made it to onederland.
But, like others have said, unless you binged or ate extra salt or whatever, its just a blip that will go away. Stress can also play a part, and it sounds like missing family might be the culprit.
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