upset & discouraged :(

We all do stuff that makes us feel like we've screwed up everything. The important thing is to get back on track the next day and to know that you can do it

If we are too restrictive with ourselves, our food, etc, it is a recipe for feeling like a failure. "I'm going to eat perfect all day today" is not a realistic goal. If you are doing today better than yesterday, that's a success. If you did better at that party last night than you would have in years past, THAT is a success. Take pride in the good choices, even the smallest steps, and learn from the not so good choices. We will all feel, at times, that we've failed, but real failure doesn't come until you give up.

In working out and in life I have come to realize that the rearview mirror is small for a reason. Don't look back, unless you are learning from what happened. Once in a while I get that "what the hell" attitude and gorge on crappy foods. No biggie, I almost guarantee everyone who diets does it once in while. Generally it results in me kicking my own butt in the next workout to make up for the binge. Like everyone else said... You don't gain or lose it in a day. This is most defintely a marathon and not a sprint. Best of Luck on achieving your goals.

This is ONE DAY. We all make mistakes, in all aspects of our lives. For some reason when we make mistakes with our food we find it unforgivable. We have to stop that mindset.

I had a high calorie day yesterday. I knew I was close when we went to dinner at Wendy's and I could have easily ordered a small chili and been under for the day. Instead I opted for the pretzel chicken pub sandwich with fries. It sounded good and I wanted it. I knew that today I would do better and that one day of bad food will not deter me from my goals.

I eat like this every once in a while and I also incorporate my favorite 'unhealthy' foods (ice cream, chips, crackers, etc) into my normal eating habits and I've managed to lose 60 pounds. It won't stop you from reaching your goals if you make your goals a priority at least 90% of the time. I go to the gym every day M-F and eat sensibly most of the time. You can too!

Been there, done that, bought the tee shirt, returned the tee shirt for a bigger size, then did it again.

Many of us struggle with this. And rarely do we like to admit it to ourselves, let alone others. My problem is that my depression and food cycles are an epic disaster. I start feeling depressed/ crappy and start binging, hiding food, and just wallowing in my pity party. Then I beat myself up because once again I have failed and I equate that to me being a failure, which then leads to more binging, more self loathing, and on and on.

I am constantly trying to avoid this cycle, and it is hard. One of the biggest things for me is positive self talk. Just because I am not there yet doesn't mean I won't get there. A failed day of diet and exercise does not make me a failure. I am smart, sexy, and successful. (Ok... so most of the time I don't believe a positive word I say, but I have been feeding my mind the negative crap for over 20 years, so it may take some time to actually start believing these positive things about myself.)

I have failed and restarted soooooo many times, I've lost count. I've told myself that I would NEVER EVER EVER let myself get to the 200lb + mark again, and yet here I am.

But you know what. In a couple of weeks, when I reach Onederland again, I will tell myself I will NEVER EVER EVER let myself go over 200lb again. As long as I keep working, one of these times I will be right.

In the end, no one cares how many times we fail, everyone will be focused on the success we achieve, because dagnibbit, I WANT TO BE HEALTHY!

You can do this. I can do this. No one every said it would be easy. Sure it is simple (eat less calories, burn more calories), but if it were easy the whole world would be skinny!

::hugs:: don't let this one day ruin your week, your month, your year. Forgive yourself, and start with a positive choice right now. Do something good for yourself and restart the cycle!

The mere fact that you acknowledged what you did is a positive step. Most people, to include myself, live in denial and don't acknowledge when they slip. Be proud of yourself and stay encouraged. We all fall off the wagon, some of us more often than others (talking about myself). Keep moving forward and keep you eye on the prize.

It's possible you went 3,000 calories over your daily amount. It's also possible you are feeling so bad today that you're allowing yourself a little embellishment. What you might try is tallying up, as best you can, how much you *really* ate at the party. It might not be as much as you think. You might be able to adjust your daily totals today and this weekend so that you still end up in a *weekly* deficit, or even just at maintenance. If you step back and get a different perspective, you might find you did much less damage than you think. And that can put you in a MUCH more positive frame of mind, which will help prevent that "well I screwed this week up, might as well go all out for two more days" trap that we can fall into.

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It happens to ALL of us...ALL the time. Cheer up, it's the 1st. Perfect time to start over and refocus on your goals. Don't let one bad day get you down!

As many others have already said, going over your calorie limit for one day isn't the end of the world, just eat healthier and do some exercise the next day. If you're pretty good most of the time then the old splurge isn't going to have a huge impact.

My advice on almost any topic ends with listening to the Rocky themetune. There is no day that cannot be improved by that. Go for a run in a headband. Immediately!

Flipping through the responses to your posts I see many words and phrases I would like to echo....mainly to be kind to yourself. Take ownership and move on. Next Halloween you can look back and remember how Spooooooooked you were by that night. Hopefully you can process the events and understand what about it triggered your binge, I'd say the party but you woke up feeling the ominous signs of a potential binge, tired, run down.....you are already learning so many things about your overheating before that you probably were never aware of, take stock in these little things.....you will get there...be kind to yourself and keep tracking!!! You may have lost the battle but you can still win the war!

When I used to go to slimming world the leader used to say, 1 bad day is just that 1 day - it didn't take only 1 day to put on the weight in the first place so 1 day won't unravel all the good you've done/are doing. Don't panic. At least you can see where you went wrong. Also every now and again a bit of a binge can do you good to prevent your body going into a starvation type mode. Don't worry, you're human and everyone slips up!!

Wow. This is why I love MFP. I would agree with almost everything I read, especially that the tools we're using require consistent use to build up. I'll add one more thing to the list, and this has helped me a lot.

If you were going down the highway and had a flat tire, what would you do? You'd stop, fix it (or get it fixed), and go on with your day after a hiccup. Who would get out and slash the other three tires?? No one would!! So you had a flat. Fix it (by starting over the next day) and get on down the highway.

Lots of good luck to you, and don't be afraid to do a little hard work, too. I'm early on, but this is the most successful I've ever been and my attitude now is, why can't I reach my goal? The longer I do it (I'm on my 116th day), the more a part of my life it becomes rather than a "diet".

Yesterday is over. Today is withing your control. One food choice at a time.