She F***ing Hates Me

I ran into this crap when I got a new job as a produce clerk in a big name store. O.O at first they were all friendly ladeda to me then about after a month when I started getting praises from our new boss and the store director for how clean and full I keep the floor things got NASTY they left me L-carts FULL of trash, ect ect,

I believe you are right when you say it's a jealousy thing. Sorry you have to deal with it, that sucks

Personally, I would stop trying to be friends with her, she obviously doesn't want to know, so why continue trying? Treat her with basic respect, do not be rude to her, only communicate with her when you have to during work and unless she initiates the first move, stay away from her. If you don't, she could well find a way to report you for harrassment or bullying (stupid I know, but she may be looking for any excuse).

In my opinion and from what you have said, she is being unfair, but who knows what is going through her mind. It could be anything from jealousy to something you inadvertently said and she took offence to.

If you stop trying, after a few weks, she may eventually begin to come round and try to strike up a friendship with you (whether you would actually want to know by that time is another matter), but until that happens, ignore her.

Whatever happens, do NOT let her ruin your work or your time at work, you have to spend enough time there without it being like torture. Get to know the others where you work instead, maybe that will be enough to get her to come round xxx

Listen to Lotus...she is wise just like her name.

Tho I did have to laugh at the guy who suggested all the deliciously passive aggressive things you can do to annoy her. I once had an older coworker who was a completely combative pain in the butt, and was totally computer illiterate. So when he was away from his desk I'd change his desktop around. Just one little thing like delete a shortcut, and he wouldn't know how to get it back or open the program any other way. Or change a shortcut name to something rude and he couldn't change it back. Teehee :laugh:

But really, I am recommending the high road.....unless she leaves her desk for a long period....:bigsmile:

That stinks that she is being so nasty. I think she is jealous and or threatened for some reason. I would stop any commnuication with her unless it is totally necessary for the job. No good mornings, no have a good night...nothing. I would also unfriend her in facebook. You don't want her to have any personal information about you. And I wouldn't care if she noticed right away. If she happened to say something about it when she does notice I would politely respond "From the way you treat me here at work I was under the impression that you didn't wish to get to know me or become my friend". Then just leave it at that and go about your business. She sounds toxic and people like that don't change. I would just go to work and be yourself and strike up friendships with other people in the office. Eventually her actions will end up biting her in the *kitten*!
Good luck

I know she is your co-worker and this may be hard to do, but just ignore her. Don't talk to her unless you absolutely need to because of your job. Forget about saying hello or goodbye or even acknowledging that she exists. I usually get along with people well, but every once in a while I will run into the occasional b*tch, who for no reason or explanation, enjoys being cruel. I know a lot of people have said this, but seriously, it is most likely jealousy. She was probably used to being the "queen bee" so to speak, and now she feels threatened by you. In the past, I have done exactly what I mentioned above and completely ignored her. There is no reason for you to be friends with her on Facebook, so I would just go ahead and delete her. It's better not to mix Facebook and work. It's only a recipe for disaster! It's one thing if you are close friends with the people you work with, but clearly, that is not the case! If she confronts you about it, just say you were taking out the trash. Haha, I kid. But seriously, if she does ask you, just tell her you prefer to separate your work like from your personal life, plain and simple. She obviously does not want to be your friends and does not want to make the transition to your new job easier for you.

By going out of your way to be nice with her, it's only giving her more satisfaction in being a b*tch to you, because she knows you care too much about the whole situation. Don't let one person make you feel bad. I know it's hard; it can be that way for me too, because I really do go out of my way to be nice to everyone! I hope things get better for you soon

Man I hate working with women....I have finally found a job where it's all men in the office, and they keep to themselves...you aren't there to make BFF's...you're there to do a job to the best of your ability. Your success will show through the dramatic desperate housewives bullsh!t...Just give her the fuzzy eyeball, tell her you tried your best to be civil, but it is time to leave you alone and brush up on her teamwork skills...don't give her an inch...it sounds like you already tried to ask politely, smile and be civil, now just let it go and realize that not everyone can be your friend...i agree, the cell phone thing was a dumb move, just because it gives her amo and because you haven't been there long enough to start bending the rules...competence equals deviance...blow their socks off and then you can use the cell phone when you want...but remember, other people are watching every move you make because you're new, you're beautiful and you're nice...all things women hate. start acting like you don't care...negative attention is better than no attention...and under no circumstances should you talk about her behind her back, she has more friends there than you do...just walk in there, do your job and go home. I had to learn that the hard way

That is super uncomfortable! Sorry that's your work enviornment!

Personally, I would mostly ignore her unless it's work related. Take the high road and don't let her get to you! You're there to work.

Also, delete her from facebook. If she's not someone you consider a friend, she shouldn't have access to your outside life. Keep it profesh in the workplace.

Whatever you do - unfriend her from facebook. Lots of good advise here. I personally would keep everything business professional. I you have no business to discuss with her, don't talk to her, she's just waited to make you look bad. As far a cell phone activity, keep it to the bare minimum. Tell your mom to leave a message and then go somewhere private on your break. Do this and your work will speak to itself.

Oh, and you do know she only friended you on FB so that she could make nasty status updates and be sure you're seeing them. Talk about immature. Cut her loose on there, ASAP. Someone that immature will most likely not have the cajones to ask you why you did it anyway, they don't deal with the straightforward, only game playing.

This will also make it much, much easier for you to dismiss her from your mind, if you're not reading her hateful remarks.

I stand by my theory, as a former addict, that facebook is the devil! :devil: It allows people to be passive aggressive, insensitive and nasty on whole new levels and it will mess with your head if you let it. So defriend, block and don't speak to her unless it's genuinely professional.

Hang in there!

See, now THAT is a good answer. Sorry if I sounded cranky, I have not had my full cup of coffee yet.

Sometimes people are just going to look for reasons not to like you. First take her off your Facebook, she doesn't deserve to see inside your personal life. Step 2, ignore her except for politeness when required to do your job. Nothing you do will please her and she is bad mouthing you to the supervisor. You need to appear to be the one of perfect calmness and gentleness and let her be the complaining, dramatic person.

She will not change, it is up to you to let her problem, be her problem. This solely resides with her, leave it there and continue the way you were. If you are on the cell phone too much, you need to correct it because your supervisor will now be looking for all the things she pointed out. Loud typing is not fixable, lol. Good luck and remember -- HER PROBLEM not yours!!!!