Feeling Guilty

Yes, you need to shake it off and not be so hard on yourself. We are always our own biggest critic. What would you say to a friend in the same situation? You wouldn't be hard on her, you would give her support and tell her she deserves happiness and kindness in her life. Whatever you would tell your friend, tell yourself right now. You can get through it and you can turn it around.

Just keep going. It is ok to mess up but don't give up.

Shake it off and just make a change.

Guilt is the least productive emotion.

You can always recommit. I also find that this is a benefit to weighing every day. There's no dreading any one particular day. That seems like it could set me off track if I then skip that one day.

It's really easy to feel guilty about food, and I think an important aspect of this journey is to learn how to moderate those feelings or understand that eating is, in general, a good thing!

Something that really helps me is to repeat to myself that any food I put in my mouth is a choice that I am making consciously - so, for example, I had a Fun Size bag of Peanut Butter M&Ms after lunch, and it was delicious! And I savored every bite, and logged it and I'm moving on.

Instead of saying 'I couldn't help myself' or 'I can't control myself', you can take control of your eating. You had a day where that didn't happen, so just do better next time! That's all any of us can do. Feel free to add me as a friend for support

Tomorrow is another day. It may take many tomorrows to get to where you want to be eventually. Take it a day or a week at a time give yourself credit for what you have achieved so far. If you haven't been logging properly over the last 10 days or so. Put it all behind you. When you first open your page in the morning you will see a clean sheet, every new day is a clean sheet. Some days will go better than others.

You will get there

toughen up
conquer everything HEAD ON/
WILLPOWER!

Totally agree with everyone here that tomorrow is another day to start again (though I'd take it one step further and say the next MOMENT is another moment - i.e., don't wait until tomorrow...start over NOW).

In addition, it is important to realize (or admit, if you've already realized it but not absorbed it) that life-change of this magnitude is going to require a lot more out of you than just "eating right". It's going to require you go WAY deeper with yourself than just picking yourself up and starting again tomorrow.

See folks like us (i.e., people with eating problems) quit, give up easily, and get easily discouraged for a reason. We are very "young" and immature in our character, in this part of our lives. The reasons are part nature and part nurture - some of us have addictive personalities, some of us are more laid-back (lazy) than others, some of us have esteem issues due to family life, some of us were indulged and spoiled and got whatever we wanted whenever we wanted....the reasons are innumberable.

We require a "growing up" of sorts, to succeed in being healthy.

One thing we all have in common: we do not like pain and we soothe our pain by eating. Right away, this causes is a HUGE problem for us during our weight-loss efforts because...hello...giving up things we love *hurts*. Even if we choose to just eat less of the things we love...it hurts. We want what we want...and we want it NOW. This is how we've been grooming ourselves to live for a looooooong time.

Thus, when things get too "painful" (i.e., I miss my trigger foods, I miss my daily morning Coca-Cola, I'm feeling hungry this afternoon because I didn't eat enough at lunch, I'm angry that I'm fat and I have to do this in the first place, I'm hopeless that this will even work, Why do I even bother?, and blah blah blah blah blah)....we go back to the eating. Because eating is what comforts us during times of pain.

More than that, the behavior/action of giving in to the desire to eat feels REEEAAALLY good in the moment - it relieves the horrible tension between holding ourselves back from eating too much, and wanting to eat too much. The tension messes us up. The action of physically putting the food into our mouths and savoring the taste, the texture, the sweetness, the saltiness, whatever...relieves it (temporarily).

I believe weight loss is 10% biological and 90% psychological (which includes the emotions). We try to fix the biological stuff by dieting or whatever, but we never *really* deal with what's going on inside. Until we stop turning to food to take care of us, we will never lose the weight nor become healthy.

True health starts in the mind and filters out to the body. Start trying to figure out what's going on inside your head, start trying to resolve those negative emotions, start deciding that this is your time to grow up, to develop good character traits of patience and loyalty and self-love and self-control, and watch yourself start to change.

Almost two years ago now, I switched my thinking from, "I'm so fat! I've just GOT to lose these 70 lbs!" to "I need to become a better and more healthy person. If I don't lose a pound, I don't care right now. It's more important for me to learn how to stop stuffing cookies into my face every time I feel like it. It's more important for me to learn how to live without food as an emotional crutch. It's more important for me to learn to love myself and treat myself with extreme care, as a mother would a child. I need to rid myself of the constant cycle of guilt and indulgence and self-loathing. I need to be FREE."

FREEDOM is the REAL goal. Not being thin. That is a lovely side-effect of having freedom of mind. Seek the freedom, and watch the weight begin to fall off. It works.

Don't give up. Kickstart yourself again with the actions you know work for you and it will come back to you.

I have also had a bad couple days with my eating and I am feeling pretty bad about it this evening. You have to remember that tomorrow is a new and you can start over. Keep your head up...your human. Just get right back into it.