How to deal with an Unsupportive spouse?

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  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    Could it be that he was just having a really bad day? You said he was supportive previously. Maybe it was one of those things that was nagging at him each day until he finally blew up.

    How about trying to start a conversation with him when cooler heads are prevailing and see if he will be more willing to compromise at that point.
  • SteveStedge1
    SteveStedge1 Posts: 149 Member
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    don't rationalize someone being thoughtless by thinking it's 'typical.'
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    I was thinking the same thing. Painting all men as thoughtless? What sort of sexist, ignorant, bigoted, misandrous garbage is that?

    Or is it ok to stereotype some groups and not others?
  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
    Other than dealing with whatever the real underlying issue is there.... Why not move the stuff out of the way, then move it back when you are done?


    what a novel idea....

    winner winner, chicken dinner.
  • hedgiie
    hedgiie Posts: 1,226 Member
    you have to be patient, i was on the same boat when i was starting. i suggest don't get too affected by it. my approach was to make myself a laughing thing when i was doing it. never argue as this will only result to pointless discussion. after 2 years, my wife actually supports me and now guiding her to home workout too. but i know every couple are different, hope you can fix this together with your husband.
    all the best
  • jwdieter
    jwdieter Posts: 2,582 Member
    There's a lot of missing context here. Project, space limitations, timeframes. What did she move? Why was it there? Why can't it be moved? What's the actual problem people are having? The whole interaction sounds irrational. Most likely deeper issues spilling over into some nonsense in the basement.
  • SteveStedge1
    SteveStedge1 Posts: 149 Member
    There's a lot of missing context here. Project, space limitations, timeframes. What did she move? Why was it there? Why can't it be moved? What's the actual problem people are having? The whole interaction sounds irrational. Most likely deeper issues spilling over into some nonsense in the basement.

    This
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
    God help my husband if he ever told me I "couldn't" do anything.

    Asking nicely and coming to a resolution or a compromise is one thing, telling me what I can't and can do will earn him a one-way ticket to sleeping on the couch.
  • VelveteenArabian
    VelveteenArabian Posts: 758 Member
    Could you move his stuff then move it back when you're done?

    What about moving the weights elsewhere?
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    I'd move it anyways let him do his little temper tantrum and use it as fuel for your workout
  • gojodster
    gojodster Posts: 38 Member
    I cant move the weights there really isn't anywhere for them to go. I use a wide range of weights so I cant just take them up the stairs to the living room.

    the stuff isn't just tools, its Lots of crap, storage, books, whatever. (on a side note he is always saying we have way to much stuff, but all that stuff has to be organized my him so its sitting there, granted he does work a lot so I understand he hasn't gotten to it yet)

    The space isn't being fixed into a workout space or yes I would be more patient.

    I'm going to talk to him tonight and see if we can work it out for me to still work out at home or I'm going to start a free trial tomorrow to prove the point that I'm still going to make it work and go from there.

    Thank you for all the help, I needed to get it out. :)
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
    Wow he is being pretty damned selfish isn't he? I like your plan hope it works out.
  • ktsimons
    ktsimons Posts: 294 Member
    God help my husband if he ever told me I "couldn't" do anything.

    Asking nicely and coming to a resolution or a compromise is one thing, telling me what I can't and can do will earn him a one-way ticket to sleeping on the couch.

    Ummm, sleeping on the couch in his new apartment that he doesn't share with ME!

    Seriously, it sounds like he filpped becasue he feels like the OP is pressuring hin to finish a project that he doesn't want to finish or worse, he has hit a wall and can't finish due to lack of skill or knowledge. Slippery slope.

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