Not feeling to hot right now

Gotta change that inner dialogue and I KNOW it's tough. I didn't have weight issues until very recently, but I had a horrifying, transient, abusive and neglectful childhood. I've spent YEARS in therapy changing that inner dialogue learned from my parents that I wasn't " " enough (insert any word you choose - pretty, smart, funny, friendly, quiet). I was actually berated by my mother for getting good grades and going to college (on my own dime) b/c I "thought I was better than my family," for going.

So, the inner dialogue creeps in more than I'd like to admit, but you know what? :noway: I literally shake my head and say out loud "get out of my head." Luckily this doesn't happen at work :embarassed: but my husband has told me I regularly say it in my sleep (which is where this happens MOST often). I've also been known to swing a few punches in my sleep to get them out of my head. After I shake that dialogue loose I visualize all the good I've had in my life since leaving my family. Married 30 years - same guy. Healthy, smart PhD son. A series of high paying, sometime nice jobs, although the one I have now is BEYOND blissful. Adequate health and insurance to cover when it is not. 3 beautiful houses (not at the same time). Cars of my dreams and vacations around the world. I've even sent money to my siblings in need. As soon as I start visualizing these positives, that inner dialogue just melts away.

Finally, small changes. drink 1 less soda today. walk the stairs at work. eat a piece of fruit instead of candy bar. When I started my new job in June I could barely make it around the block w/o heavy breathing and sweating. I just got back from a 2.5 mile walk I finished in 32 minutes. NO heavy breathing and minimal sweating. Little steps at a time and be proud of each one.:flowerforyou:

I am sorry that you are not feeling great right now, but believe me everyone has those moments. You can and are a pretty girl even if you don't feel that way right now.

Making a huge lifestyle change for you may need to come in hindsight - meaning you may need to just concentrate on making small changes one at a time. Maybe start with limiting the number of sodas you have daily and them just cutting out one type of junk food, think of each change as a step. If you step backwards that's okay – that is what life is all about! You are not messing things up, you may just be taking on too much, be easier on yourself! It will pay off.

Self esteem changes will come, try not to dwell on the past and look at your good points

You have to like yourself. I know it sounds corny but it's true.

Fill your soul. What do you enjoy (besides food)? I had stopped doing things i enjoyed when i was down on myself. Try new things, you'll meet people and may find a new hobby you love.

On those days you feel like Jabba the Hut those are the days you need to do something nice for yourself or for someone else. You cant wallow in the fat and ugly pitty party.

I've done it for years and the only one who it hurts is me. Hiding is never any fun and you can catch it now before you regret not doing anything in your 20's. First, no one cares. Sorry to say this but no one will give any sort of notice to how you feel. The only one who is being hurt by this is you. Second, by getting out of there doing something minimum for yourself take a long bath or buy that expensive perfume you can change that mindset.

Compliment someone...I dont know why but this works for me. Then you turn it around and even if you feel like it's a total lie say I'm a damn sexy woman today.

Age will help too the more experiences you make and the more things you accomplish it helps that self esteem so much. Dont hide girly push forward even though some days youll feel like burying yourself...dont do it. It's painful like exercise hurts, but in the end serves you more than anything.

As you are just 19 you wont see it yet...but if it makes you feel better I promise you nearly all those people who bullied you and were popular "peaked" in high school and their lives wont amount to ****. I'm 38 and through the wonders of facebook I've got to see all the "popular" kids find out that life doesn't let you just slide by. The karmic wheels of justice grind slowly but exceedingly fine.

Time to work on you now.

You are your biggest enemy... Just take it one day at a time and don't let yourself get overwhelmed. I am also off pop (soda as you call it) today is day 17 and every day seems to get easier but there are hard moments! Just know we are all here for you! Feel free to add me

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There's an old saying:
"Inch by inch, anything's a cinch (easy).
Yard by yard, it's HARD!"

Take small steps, day by day, and week by week.
You could take inventory of the dietary habits you need to change:
fast food dinners
sugary drinks
foods with High Fructose Corn Syrup
Foods that make you crazy to binge, such as
bread, potatoes, cheese, etc.

After conquering one problem food or habit,
move on to the next.


Baby steps.
Inch by inch.
You are worthy of success:
health,
fitness,
improved self-image,
and all the adventures you could ever attempt.

One day at a time.
If one day is difficult, log in your foods, anyway.
Start fresh the following day.

Read the forums about Success and Maintenance
for inspiration along the way.
Best wishes!

uhh yeh I'd just watch the movie; does a snack need to be involved? I don't really know your body type or goals or caloric intake so it would be hard to say but I think most will agree to just skip the snack and enjoy the movie

With that being said, can I go? lol ^_^

Cheers

I'm just starting again and this is my first post. I started in January of last year and stopped because I didn't think it was feasible to watch calories while feeding my family. I have since found this to be false.

I started tracking again September 30th. I've learned through reading posts. I track all my food, but include indulgences within my allowed intake (usually muddie buddies and greek yogurt). Don't feel down on yourself. YOU are here. YOU want to make a change and that's a big step.

I also agree with doing something good for yourself. I lost five pounds last month and I was elated. (I only weigh once a month because otherwise I focus too much on the scale.)

To help stay in a good frame of mind, I've rearranged my work office, started getting food from Community Supported Agriculture and went to a Mary Kay facial.

Rearranging the work office made me feel good because of all the work I accomplished.

Getting food from local farmers is a good thing because it supports the community I live in and because it reminds me of my grandfather's garden.

The Mary Kay facial was superb and I felt pretty again afterwards. I've even started wearing a little more color with my make up.

As others have said, take it step by step. Take delight in small victories.

It's a new skirt, a stuffed animal, a CD... it's finding I'm happier preparing my own food than eating out... it's learning to spend time with friends and family preparing food, shopping and talking.

Every journey begins with a single step. YOU are worth the journey.