SAHM 10/25 to 10/31

Hello ladies! I haven't checked in as much as I'd like. I have been really busy---I don't know why, since I don't DO ANYTHING! Welcome to my life-my vent for the day-or my vent for EVER! LOL! Yeah, it's been a very stressful day/past 12 hours or so. So, I come home last night (from a SHORT visit with a family member), and WORK my bottom off getting the housework done-not all of it, but the essentials-laundry, dishes, etc. By the time I get done, it is after midnight, and I am very tired. So, I go to lie down in the bed. My husband starts this stuttering type stuff trying to tell me something...turns out that he is taking half a day off tomorrow to go fishing with his dad... Shouldn't be a problem, right? Well, I will tell you why it is...and you tell me...

* He has NEVER taken a day off to spend with me. I have asked him to every year on our anniversary, his birthday, my birthday...and it's always, "I can't, we need the money." I agree...a family of five on one income...so, I still ask, but always know that the answer will be the same.

* He spent the ENTIRE weekend with his dad... They were together all day Saturday, until supper and sleep time...and all day Sunday...until supper and sleep time.

* He always tells me that we need the money-so, let me tell ya...a HIS truck payment is due tomorrow, electric bill, water bill, rent...and other things that I don't even remember right now because I am so upset...and I tell him that I need some jeans (mine are FALLING OFF-woo hoo!), and he says that we probably won't be able to get them with this paycheck...BUT he has enough money to go out on a boat fishing with his dad...

So, am I being selfish to not want him to go fishing with his dad? I am sorry if this is off topic, but I really needed people to share with... Also, this morning, he was ANGRY with me, didn't kiss me goodbye...because his jeans and work shirt weren't dry... Well, A PARTICULAR pair of jeans and a PARTICULAR work shirt. Why does he have so many clothes (our closet is FULL of HIS stuff) if he only wants to wear particular ones?! So, I washed the clothes last night, practically fell into bed and was asleep before I knew it...so I didn't wake up EARLY this morning...so he LOUDLY puts his own clothes in the dryer (gasp!). A while later when I check them, the dryer isn't even hot because he had it on the wrong setting. So, he gets mad at me telling me that it should have been done yesterday...since I don't do anything else during the day. Hello? Who takes care of and schools our three children? How is your house cleaned? Your supper cooked? Besides that, I ran out of laundry detergent yesterday and couldn't do laundry until I got some...and my 7 yo ds was sick the night before, so some laundry was stuff that had vomit on it...so I thought that was a priority and that it would be best NOT to put his stuff in there with it... My greatest fear- I am going to lose all of the weight that I want and need to, and nothing will change. Our intimacy has been little to none for a long time. He has refused to kiss me several times...and other rude things that he has done/said to me...and when I ask him why, he answers with his own question..."Why aren't you losing weight?" Apparently, my weight is the problem and everything stems from that...I do NOT believe that for one minute. I am doing this for me, my children, and for him...but he is probably my biggest reason...because I want him to treat me like he did in the beginning...but what if I do end up looking like a "HOT mama," and he finds something else...it feels like that is what I am headed for... And now, that I am losing weight, he hasn't said one word...while other family and even people I see @ the stores have noticed and said something...even when I outright ask him...if this has been his PROBLEM with me, then when I am working toward fixing it, why, why, why isn't he saying SOMETHING?!

Sorry for the long vent ladies. I truly have no one else to turn to...

You all have been doing so great!

Val-great on the jogging! 7 miles, really? At once? Looking forward to a day when that doesn't seem so difficult!
Amanda-I have had 3 little babies-5.5, 6.3, and 8.2, so never had that problem, but have had family with your exact story, and they prefer C-sections as well.
Nicole-I have been wanting to cross-stitch for a long time. Any recommendations for a beginner?

Hope you all have a great rest of the day...and sorry again for my long vent!

whoa, girls. lots to catch up on.

i'm really worn out today, tho, so i'll be quick. boy is asleep in our bed--w/no sheets on it.....and i don't want to put them on. lazy girl.

the trip was great in so many ways---just being w/my friend was awesome. and laughing. and GOOD food. and walking and shopping. it rained most of the time and even snowed while we were sleeping sunday night. but even that was fine. i'm so grateful i had this getaway. i've never left all my kids for an extended amt of time before....(not counting delivering babies or surgeries)...and it was HEAVEN.

pines--sorry for the difficulties. maybe counseling is in order? do you have a pastor you can talk to? i'm glad you're doing this for you, but it sounds like something deeper may be going on. (((hugs)))
but try not to let it take away from your success! you are making incredible progress on getting healthy.

amy--nice job on the running. and it is hard to keep up with the logging. wtg on the scout stuff too.

nicole, thanks for keeping this going each week. so appreciate the effort.

bluerose--clean apt=happiness and clear thinking. good job!

val--welcome back! keep up the running and the rest of the good work. how's the yard now?? are you doing any plantings this month? are you looking to sell, i don't remember. in any case, bet you're enjoying the cooler weather as are we.

welcome newcomers! most understanding, supportive, encouraging group out there, imho.

just to update for the new addns--i am sahm to dd-10, dd-6, and ds--almost 4. i live in las vegas and before that salt lake city and before that denver and grew up in the suburbs of chicago. i've been on this site for awhile and lost up to 12#, only to backslide from march till october. but i'm making a comeback! this is my first year homeschooling--just dd2. dd1 goes to public school, and ds goes to preK 2AM's per week. i've been married 14 yrs and no, we are not military despite the bazillion moves. i love to read, bake and walk. and i dabble in making quilts and purses and needlepoint.
so that's a refresher course on me.

long post--off to sleep. good night all and start your morning strong!!:flowerforyou:

Finished Week 2 of C25K today!!!

LOL~ my mom lives way out in the sticks, and she was shocked last week to see a group of people running by her house, and they continued to do it on a regular basis! She went out one day and asked them what they were running from...they were doing the C25K.:laugh:

Pines~absolutely have a sit-down with your hubby, maybe after venting to us (which is totally acceptable, BTW) and getting most of the anger out, you can sit down a little more rationally with him. Don't misunderstand and think that I am calling you irrational! Sometimes when you let the anger out to someone else, it doesn't come back. Hopefully. In any case, you are definitely in my thoughts and prayers! :flowerforyou: I know how hard it is being on a single income, taking care of the house, and doing EVERYTHING. To echo Stacey~don't let it derail your motivation to get healthy.

Stacey~so glad to hear you enjoyed your girl's weekend! I myself am taking tomorrow off and going to the arts and crafts show. Of course, this is contingent upon DH actually having tomorrow off to watch the kids. Watch, some dumba$% soldier will get arrested tonight and DH will have to go in to work tomorrow...:mad:

Job search is not going so well, I'm afraid, but what are you going to do? I'm going to give my buyer a call and see if she wants some cinnamon chip scones...I just got a shipment of cinnamon chips in and I can make her a good deal.

Hope you guys are having a super day!

Pines - It sounds like the whole fishing trip isn't the real issue, just icing on the cake of a deeper attitude that has been hurting you. As hard as it is, there isn't a whole lot you can do to change the way he behaves. All you can do is pray hard for him, and make sure that your own attitude stays positive. Both about your weight loss and about him. My mom spent 12 years with my dad before he became clean from a drug addiction. It was rough and a long haul for her, but the biggest thing she told me is that he needed to see the need to change for himself. She couldn't make him. All she could do was love him and show him love to the best of her ability and that slowly started to affect his attitude and the way he looked at her. Key things if you do talk to him, don't accuse him saying he did such and such or he shouldn't do this. Instead tell him how his actions make you feel. People accept criticism if it's not accusing but isntead merely clarifying that certain behaviors hurt you, whether he intends them to or not. Hope this helps!

Stacy - Good for you on going on a mini-vacation! I think too often we as Mom's think our kids' worlds will stop revolving if we were to leave them for even a day. Yet a small trip can do WONDERS for our attitude towards them and our mental (and physical) well being. I'm glad it was such a success for you. About a year ago we had been trying to sell our house, but instead we rented it out and bought another one in a nice neighborhood. We love our new house and are looking forward to trick-or-treating and meeting more of our neighbors. It was a short sale so the yard was scraggly, but we've gotten it mostly under control. Right now is continuing to shape up the back yard. We planted some new bushes in the front yard, but are taking a break to work on the back yard. Good memory!

Amanda - I take our girls trick-or-treating just cause I love to see them all dressed up and so cute. And I love to show them off. But I don't grab a lot of candy, none for the baby, and I figure one night of fun is perfectly acceptable. If I don't get treats every once in a while, I'll fall off the bandwagon and go nuts! :P

We went on our 7 mile walk/jog today. On average our pace was a 15 min mile so we kept up at a pretty good pace. It actually ultimately ended up being 8 miles. My legs are jello tonight, but I still feel good! Now we get the weekend off until monday before we run again. In celebration we went to a family pizzeria just down the street that I have wanted to go to for a while. It was super family casual and the food was fantastic. There was a small bar there, but the whole place reminded me of a modern day Cheers. Everyone seemed to know each other and were friendly and sweet. We're gonna go back every week after our long run as a reward for hard work. Now I'm excited about these long runs instead of finding excuses not to go! :P Hubby starts his work week tomorrow. We're so backwards....he works Fri - Monday and our weekend is really Tues - Thurs. :P Having my friends and family over for halloween, it should be fun! Have a great end to your week everyone!

Is anyone dressing up with their kids? If so, what are you going as? We are!! :happy:

I can't wait for Halloween, my 6 yr old daughter is going as Jessie from Toy Story 2, my 6 month old son is going as a football, my hubby is a football player, and I'm a witch, lol. Will post pics.

Saturday hubby and I are going to go see Saw 3D, thanks to my mother in law for watching the kids!:happy:

bluerose - I'm not dressing up as anything this year....my daughter's first b-day was a week and a half ago so I didn't feel up for trying to come up with and then create a costume for myself. :P

Not a lot going on over here. Recovering from all my running, and helped out my bible study with a garage sale they put on. It was quite successful which was great, and had a lot of fun. They bought me lunch which turned out to be chipotle. I managed to keep myself to only half a burrito and saved the other half for dinner so I only went over in calories by a smidgen. I'm just proud of myself that I was able to eat only half, and that eating fast food has finally become a rare occurrence. I have every intention of enjoying myself tomorrow. No counting calories for the one day, just relaxing with my family. Not planning on going completely overboard, I am making pulled pork sandwiches instead of ordering out, and plan on having dinner before we trick or treat to prevent a desire to fill up on candy and chocolate instead. But if I want this to be a lifestyle change, then I give myself each holiday day to relax and enjoy food, and celebrate my success. :P

My almost 3 year old is going as Cinderella and my 1 year old is going to be an angel. I'm super excited. I'm not dressing up this year, merely because my daughter's first birthday party was just a couple of weeks ago so I didn't feel up to assembling a costume for myself. Hoping next year a great creative wave will hit me.

I hope you all have a fantastic Halloween with whatever you do, and stay safe!

Val-that's ok. I totally understand, 1st bday parties are big ones to deal with

Kaite-I'm going as a witch too, hehe, but I like yours, I'm not doing the green, kinda doing a different kind of witch, will pics...

Happy Halloween everyone!! Stay safe and have fun!!!!

Hi Girls! Can I join your group? I am a SAHM to a beautiful soon to be 13 month old baby boy. Happy Halloween to all of you!

Thanks for having me girls!

I wanted to share....

I lost 4 pounds this week!! Woo hOOO!!

That makes 9.5 pounds in the last 2 weeks. I'm so pumped.

Thanks for letting me share..

Did everyone have fun trick-or treating with your kids? Eli was soo cute. (he just turned 1.. Well..he will be 13 months tomorrow)
He was a robot! SOoo cute! He even held his candy bag by himself when we went up to the door. We only went to about 5 houses. I know he can't eat much candy, but it was for pictures and mommy/daddy memories!