Is your weight loss journey being kept under wraps?

My husband only knows what my goal weight is. He doesn't know how much I currently weigh or want to lose. He's naturally slim and really can eat pretty much what he wants. I mean he hasn't worked out in 2 years and still has a six pack. I just had a baby this summer and feel a lot of pressure to lose weight as quickly as possible. I think he's part of the reason I feel so much pressure. I'm afraid people look at the two of us together and wonder why he's with me. I know it's probably crazy to feel like that and I know that he's a man and has a different metabolism, more muscle, blah blah blah and I've had three kids and it's going to be harder for me than for him. I'm just really hard on myself and it's not fair! Geez, I've gone through 3 labor/deliveries...can't a girl get a break?! Lol. My husband is kinda supportive, but I try not to talk about it too much. He doesn't really know what to say to encourage me - I think he's afraid of saying the wrong thing and hurting my feelings. Other than him, my Mom and Mommom know I'm trying to lose, but I don't say too much to them either because they are overweight and I don't want them to feel bad about themselves. Friends and other relatives don't know and I'd rather not talk about it with them. Usually, I'm uncomfortable talking about weight whether it's mine or someone else's. I'm so glad I'm on MFP! I have only recently started posting, but it's a good place to talk about fitness/weight etc. without all the awkwardness. It's been a God-send so far!

Other than my MFP pals, nobody else knows. My family lives thousands of miles away, and people where I live don't really notice (I tend to lose from head to toe, proportionately, so I just get overall a bit smaller).

I actually like it that nobody around me knows, because people sometimes have a tendency to become food pushers if they think someone is cutting back on certain kinds of foods. With me, people think that I'm just busy (don't spend a lot of time at breaks with the foodie crowd).

I haven't told anyone that I'm dieting and trying to lose a specific amount of weight but when friends and family comment on my weight loss I usually reply that I've been trying quite hard to exercise and eat more healthily and that's what works for me where I am now If I need support I have MFP members to keep me motivated! But I like being the one who gets to control my weightloss because it means that there's no one to disappoint or judge my progress. I've been thinking about telling everyone close to me recently though as it may make it easier for them to know that I'm staying away from certain foods and for their general support as well.

Haven't told anyone outside my house, and no one has noticed so far (at least no one has said anything), but I changed jobs in June....
I only see family at holidays, so I'm looking forward to seeing how observant they are this Christmas.

After losing almost 40 pounds, I saw my husband's family. You would have had to be blind not to notice, but not a single person commented.

Well hell they must be blind then! As someone who's lost a good amount of weight I can tell you that it's nice to be acknowledged! I would have told you that you looked great!

Unfortunately I have to keep my weight loss journey under wraps. I come across a lot of resistance from others especially my family. Only my husband is supportive because he is starting to understand how important it is to be healthy as a lifestyle.

His family isn't so supportive. They use a lot of butter and dairy in their cooking and don't cook from scratch. In fact, even when I have offered to make them a meal I can't because they don't even have a lot of core ingredients to cook a decent meal from scratch! I avoid doing that because it causes frustration and I don't want to be rude. I also have to keep my weight loss journey under wraps because I have had people tell me I don't need to lose weight (not true) I look great (not true) and I am going overboard (not true!).

Here is what I have learned:
1. People who want to be healthy as a lifestyle for life are perceived as being intimidating.
2. People who want to eat healthily as a lifestyle and eat "bad" foods in moderation (or sparingly) are perceived as picky and hard to please.
3. People who want to be more active as a lifestyle are seen as busy-bodies who should just learn to relax and sit down at home and watch tv, or you are spendthrifty because there's no way you can be an active person and life inexpensively. (facepalms)

It's because of that stuff why I don't really talk about it. I learned years ago it's not wise to talk about it. People will always have something negative or judgmental to say, assume YOU are the judgmental one, or worse yet think you are just experiencing a phase like a teenager or something.

The only person who knows I've made changes to my diet/exercise routine are my fiance and my roommate. I'm the same way. I'm nervous that if I tell too many people that if I fall off the wagon, or don't reach my goal as quickly as others expect, that I'll be judged.

Plus, it is such a personal experience that I don't think that others really need to be concerned with the decisions I make for my body. The only reason I told my two closest friends is because everyone needs support sometimes. Building a healthy lifestyle is FOR YOU and YOU ONLY.

When I started my weight loss over the summer, only my family, best friend, and boyfriend knew. I felt like the whole world didn't need to know my business. :B

When I started school in August, I got many comments from old professors and former classmates about how I've lost weight, and it really made me feel great about myself. I just recently reached my goal, so I'm pretty excited to see what my family says when they see me for Thanksgiving.

I tell, because it helps to hold me accountable. People notice now, and ask about it. Right now I'm dealing with missing my first goal by a few pounds/weeks and I have the support of the people who have been with me so far in my corner telling me not to focus on missing that goal by a little, but to focus on the 36 pounds GONE. It helps, but everyone is different.

I'm being totally out there and open this go around.... complete with a blog with weekly weigh-ins.
I want the accountability. I don't bring it up in person much, but it's there if anyone is interested. I really enjoy the interaction with MFP friends and those in the blogosphere. http://jenbsjourney.blogspot.com/

I'm in a similar boat, actually. My friends know that I'm going to the gym more but they don't know that I'm using MFP and that I'm working with a personal trainer I just kind of want to let the results speak for themselves, I guess. So I totally understand where you're coming from!

Since joining just over 50 days ago, I have turned everything I eat into a game.
I am buzzing with enthusiasm, and have probably told every other random person, about MFP, including the chemist, my gp, the nurse, and my dentist. If I loose weight, that'll be a bonus. I am not doing a 'diet', I am making a life change, to be the healthiest, that I can be, and enjoy myself in the process. To learn to value what I am, and to work a little bit every day towards getting my 'life' back.
Last week I received compliments from a friend who I've not seen in six months, on how well I looked, and today I jogged outdoors on the tarmac!