I'm irritated at my family

Welcome. I have been on MFP for almost 4 months. It's the best decision I have made in many years. I have lost weight with diets many times before, but it was never a lifestyle change. This time is different; it's a lifestyle change, not a diet. Good luck on your weight loss journey. Please feel free to add me as a friend; we can help motivate each other.

i know exactly how you feel, my mother, everytime she sees me- "do you want this? do you want that? it won't hurt, one won't hurt"
when i'm almost twice the weight i should be- i'd like some help from my family too!
i can totally sympathise with you here.
chin up and be strong hun
xxx

People can be really frustrating when you change. I'm sure if you asked them point blank if they wanted you to be unhappy and unhealthy they'd say, "No! Of course not!" But if they're used to you taking home extra food, they might pressure you to do it because it's what they're used to. Or they don't want to have extra food in the house (either because they'll eat the cookies or let them go to waste).

Yesterday my sister was annoyed with me because she made popcorn for us and I didn't like that she'd put butter on it. "I only put a little bit on it!" she said. But I'm trying hard to avoid butter. I'm not eating it at all. I'm sorry that I'm a pain, but I need to do what I can to take care of myself.

Maybe next time you can tell your family ahead of time that you don't want to take home leftovers or be pressured to eat unhealthy foods. You can be nice about it, and say something like, "I love your cooking/baking, and I appreciate it when you offer me food, but I'm working really hard to get healthy. It's difficult for me to say no to cookies, so when I say no, please don't try to make me take the food."

I hope that helps...

I agree with catcrazy, you should tell your family (yes, even your mom), that although you appreciate the food offers, that you will appreciate more their support on your journey to a healthier life style.

If they still resist or give you a hard time, well, I suggest that you stay away from visiting them for awhile. Sometimes tough love is the only way to go.

Best of luck to you and don't give up!

I know how you feel but one of the things about most parents is that they like to feed their families. It doesn't matter who you are or what you are doing with your life. I wouldn't be upset with them I think you just need to sit them down and explain your feelings.

Went to Mom's for dinner and it was great. After dinner they wanted to know if I wanted some Jello with marshmellows in it. I said no. Then they wanted to know if I would take some cookies home, "they're only 100 calories in each". I again said no. Do you want to take home some raspberry jelly, again no. We have an extra package of hot dogs, you want them, No no no no no!

I'm morbidly obese and they know I'm watching what I eat. It really got irritating today. I'm also worn out from yesterday's activities.

Can I for the love of God get someone to work with me! I need them on my team.

I can SO relate! My mom is the worst! I actually caught her lying to me once about there being no sugar in something that clearly had sugar in it! I'm doing no sugar, no flour diet which is hard to accomodate, I understand but she'll go so far as to try to tell me it's got none in it or very little. I've just stood my ground, like you did, and eventually she gave up. Now she is very accomadating and informs me when she's made something with an ingredient I've nixed. Just do what you are doing and eventually people will learn that you are dedicated and won't be strayed with temptation. They'll come around. And maybe you'll be the attraction to better living

Are they overweight and jealous that you are changing and they are not. Jealousy is really awful think and I wish people could just deal with it.

I'm the heaviest in my family. Others are just fine.

Maybe they like you being the heaviest. Hang tough and do what is right for you to be healthy.

Pretty much all of us have been there. I have been on both sides of this. My wife did Slim for Life years ago and I was not ready to admit that I needed to lose weight. We ended up eating separate meals but she stood her ground and lost a good amount of weight. Whenever we would visit my Dad(in Michigan, we live in Kansas City area) he would ask me when I was going to lose weight and proceed to serve a huge meal with no healthy options. He was well over 350# and was giving me diet advise. Well I didn't listen until July when I hit 370# and my Dad went back into the hospital with Diabetes issues again. On October 5th I hit 50# lost and was looking forward to letting my Dad and the rest of my family know how I was doing. My sister called that morning to let me know that our Dad had passed away that morning in the nursing home he was in for rehab before going back home. He had been battling Diabetes for years and had lost a leg to the disease several years ago. His father had lost both his legs and his life to Diabetes. Well the rest of the family got to see at the funeral but my Dad did not. I am posting this for 2 reasons. 1 is to express how extremely important this change is for your own personal well being. The second reason is that I have drawn a line in the sand and am stopping this pattern right here and now for me and my family. I do not want to go through the same problems when I get that age.