My ex wants to make me jelaous - HELP!
I don't know if I should post this here, so sorry if it's not the place to do it, im new to this whole forum thing... :$
So almost two and a half months ago me and my bf broke up. He was the one who decided to end the relationship, which I didn't want to but I respected his decision. These two months have been really hard for me because I still have feelings for him, but everyday it was getting better... I don't cry over him anymore, I don't find myself thinking about him as much as I used to, etc... But getting over him is not an option right now just yet... we're at the same college, we take the same classes, we have the same friends, and I'm 90% sure we'll end up graduating together.
For the past two weeks I've been noticing something weird in his behavior. He's been complimenting my best friend a lot, like A LOT, especially in front of me. He tells her she looks beautiful, that her hair looks amazing, that he loves the blouse she's wearing, that her makeup looks amazing, he offers her to pick her up to take her to college and stuff like that... Which is making me feel weird/angry/uncomfortable...
Also, he always tries to embarrass me in front of others, like I would say something and he's like: "WHAT? Did you just said "bla bla bla" (Something really really stupid) ?? and I'm like... "yeah sure, that would totally make sense with what I'm trying to explain
" and I just keep talking...
I don't really know if he's IN FACT trying to make me jelaous or what, I just don't understand this behavior... I mean, Im trying to be diplomatic with this situation, and keep it cool... I'm minding my own business (I'm about to get a job, I started going to the gym, I just got my drivers license) and it's like he's annoyed by the fact that I'm moving on or what... I have no idea! So I really need your help because this is driving me insane and I just hate that feeling...
Any advice? What do you guys think?
So almost two and a half months ago me and my bf broke up. He was the one who decided to end the relationship, which I didn't want to but I respected his decision. These two months have been really hard for me because I still have feelings for him, but everyday it was getting better... I don't cry over him anymore, I don't find myself thinking about him as much as I used to, etc... But getting over him is not an option right now just yet... we're at the same college, we take the same classes, we have the same friends, and I'm 90% sure we'll end up graduating together.
For the past two weeks I've been noticing something weird in his behavior. He's been complimenting my best friend a lot, like A LOT, especially in front of me. He tells her she looks beautiful, that her hair looks amazing, that he loves the blouse she's wearing, that her makeup looks amazing, he offers her to pick her up to take her to college and stuff like that... Which is making me feel weird/angry/uncomfortable...
Also, he always tries to embarrass me in front of others, like I would say something and he's like: "WHAT? Did you just said "bla bla bla" (Something really really stupid) ?? and I'm like... "yeah sure, that would totally make sense with what I'm trying to explain
" and I just keep talking...I don't really know if he's IN FACT trying to make me jelaous or what, I just don't understand this behavior... I mean, Im trying to be diplomatic with this situation, and keep it cool... I'm minding my own business (I'm about to get a job, I started going to the gym, I just got my drivers license) and it's like he's annoyed by the fact that I'm moving on or what... I have no idea! So I really need your help because this is driving me insane and I just hate that feeling...
Any advice? What do you guys think?
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Just ignore him and the things he says and move on with your life and make it great! That will just kill him.
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Y are you still hanging out with him?0
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Uhm, you should have broken ties with him right then and there.
That's too much for one person to handle. Remove him from everything, avoid him. You don't need that mess in your life.0 -
Have you talked to him about the way his behavior makes you feel?0
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Why do you even give a *kitten* if it is your EX?0
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As I explained in my post, I'm pretty much forced to see him everyday because we take classes together, so as much as I would like to avoid him I can't :S
I haven't talk about "us as a couple" with him since the day we broke up0 -
As I explained in my post, I'm pretty much forced to see him everyday because we take classes together, so as much as I would like to avoid him I can't :S
I haven't talk about "us as a couple" with him since the day we broke up
Who said "you as a couple"? As two people in the same environment almost constantly, with similar peers, AND a history, have you mentioned to him at all that, "I've been feeling kind of bad when you make those comments about how I talk."0 -
he wants to bang your best friend...0
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I don't know if I should post this here, so sorry if it's not the place to do it, im new to this whole forum thing... :$
So almost two and a half months ago me and my bf broke up. He was the one who decided to end the relationship, which I didn't want to but I respected his decision. These two months have been really hard for me because I still have feelings for him, but everyday it was getting better... I don't cry over him anymore, I don't find myself thinking about him as much as I used to, etc... But getting over him is not an option right now just yet... we're at the same college, we take the same classes, we have the same friends, and I'm 90% sure we'll end up graduating together.
For the past two weeks I've been noticing something weird in his behavior. He's been complimenting my best friend a lot, like A LOT, especially in front of me. He tells her she looks beautiful, that her hair looks amazing, that he loves the blouse she's wearing, that her makeup looks amazing, he offers her to pick her up to take her to college and stuff like that... Which is making me feel weird/angry/uncomfortable...
Also, he always tries to embarrass me in front of others, like I would say something and he's like: "WHAT? Did you just said "bla bla bla" (Something really really stupid) ?? and I'm like... "yeah sure, that would totally make sense with what I'm trying to explain " and I just keep talking...
I don't really know if he's IN FACT trying to make me jelaous or what, I just don't understand this behavior... I mean, Im trying to be diplomatic with this situation, and keep it cool... I'm minding my own business (I'm about to get a job, I started going to the gym, I just got my drivers license) and it's like he's annoyed by the fact that I'm moving on or what... I have no idea! So I really need your help because this is driving me insane and I just hate that feeling...
Any advice? What do you guys think?
My take? Try to sit away from him in classes and avoid being in social situations with him. I never have understood the whole "let's be friends" thing. Cut every tie you can...
It's hard to "forget" when someone is always there...0 -
I also tend to think this is probably the case. Guys are somewhat shallow...compliments are usually a subterfuge for "How YOU doin'?"he wants to bang your best friend...0 -
Then get a rebound guy. You'll be fine.As I explained in my post, I'm pretty much forced to see him everyday because we take classes together, so as much as I would like to avoid him I can't :S
I haven't talk about "us as a couple" with him since the day we broke up0 -
Yes, you have to see him in class. But you are the one deciding to still interact with him. You are sitting and listening to him compliment your best friend. If he does something that is upsetting you, remove yourself from the situation. Walk away.
I would think any mutual friends would understand and, if they don't, obviously they picked him in the break up and you need to find new friends.0 -
questioning why your best friend is taking these rides or allowing him to do this in front of you...a good friend would ignore him as well and let him know shes not interested. If she's accepting of it and what not..i wouldn't be surprised if they have something going on behind your back..in which case id drop them both.0
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.. she deactivated?0
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Yes you two do have a lot in common but you don't have to interact. Ignore him and move on.
Also, that girl is not a true friend ..0 -
I'd try and stay as far away from him as possible, and although that may not always be possible keep reminding yourself that you can and will get over him, and he is not the guy for you. In fact his response is pretty pathetic - it sounds to me like he is jealous that you have got good stuff in your life and you are obviously moving on, and so he is trying to knock you back.
I have luckily never been in the position where I've had to see an ex much after breaking up, but I can imagine what is happening right now is heartbreaking. Keep reminding yourself you don't need someone so pathetic in your life, avoid him if you can, and if not then just hang in there until you graduate and you can be completely rid of him.
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questioning why your best friend is taking these rides or allowing him to do this in front of you...a good friend would ignore him as well and let him know shes not interested. If she's accepting of it and what not..i wouldn't be surprised if they have something going on behind your back..in which case id drop them both.
This.0 -
.. she deactivated?
Apparently she didn't like the advice!0 -
I also tend to think this is probably the case. Guys are somewhat shallow...compliments are usually a subterfuge for "How YOU doin'?"he wants to bang your best friend...
Yeah, he wants to do the no pants dance.
Best off sleeping with HIS best friend. Also, tell your best friend up front to shoot him down now, or face your *****y wrath.0 -
Y are you still hanging out with him?
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How is your friend responding to his profuse compliments and offers for rides? How are the others reacting when he ridicules what you say? I already know my good friends would shut him down if someone was being genuinely rude and insulting. If your friends are just standing there supporting his behavior, it might be time to find a better group of friends.0
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Move on honey. Mind games, mind games, mind games. Maybe just watch "he's just not that into you?" I'm sure those kinds of mind games are covered in that movie. He doesn't sound like a particularly kind person, so why would you want that in your life?0
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.. she deactivated?
Apparently she didn't like the advice!
Abandon topic.... She's gone everyone.0 -
.. she deactivated?
Apparently she didn't like the advice!
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He sounds like he is just an a hole, He probably did you a favor by ending your relationship. I'd probably check your friends too! If they are entertaining him and his antics, chances are they aren't true friends. Focus on why you are in college in the first place, and there are "tons of fish in the sea!" You will find someone else!
Ignore him and move on!0 -
As I explained in my post, I'm pretty much forced to see him everyday because we take classes together, so as much as I would like to avoid him I can't :S
I haven't talk about "us as a couple" with him since the day we broke up
i went to a very small college and there were people in my classes I never said a word to ever in my life. you have to see him because he's there, but you don't have to interact with him. when he walks up, walk away if he's making you feel uncomfortable. you don't owe it to him to act like everything is okay when it isn't. you owe it to yourself to get away from him as much as possible.
saying you can't avoid him seems like a way for you to justify being around him hoping he might, some day, think he made a mistake and try to get you back.0 -
Yes, you have to see him in class. But you are the one deciding to still interact with him. You are sitting and listening to him compliment your best friend. If he does something that is upsetting you, remove yourself from the situation. Walk away.
I would think any mutual friends would understand and, if they don't, obviously they picked him in the break up and you need to find new friends.
i didn't read this one until after i posted. but yeah... what she said.0 -
I also tend to think this is probably the case. Guys are somewhat shallow...compliments are usually a subterfuge for "How YOU doin'?"he wants to bang your best friend...
hi there, stereotype. i was wondering if/when you'd show up.0 -
1) He wants to bang your friend.
2) He's being an *kitten* to you to make it clear to your friend that it's over between the two of you and he's available.0 -
.. she deactivated?
son of a biscuit.
i hate giving advice to no one.0
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