Need advice from the ladies (TOTM)

I apologize if I am speaking out of line but you are 19 years old. You are allowed to go ont he pill without your mother's permission. Especially since it is for medical reasons and not because you have an ulterior motive. I had to go on them when I was 15. I was the one that did not want to. I had the misconception that you go on the pill so you can have sex and I was not ready for that. My doctors encouraged me to go on it because I would pass out from the pain every month which is dangerous. My mother urged me to do so as well. I finally did and man was I happy with the results. No more pain, no more passing out, no more throwing up every month, and so on. I would encourage you to speak with your doctor about this. It is your body and your health and you have absolute control over it. Good luck sweetie!

You are Moroccan/Irish, I see from your profile. Leave the (I'm guessing traditional) Moroccan side of you home and take the 19 year old Irish side of you to the Dr.

To quote an old song from the 60's, "You're 18 you can do what you like."

my stepdaughter had the same issue and was told by her dr that she is ovulating more eggs than most women (hence the heavy bleeding and massive pain). The dr told her that us women have only so many eggs to release and then we become infertile. For most of us...no biggie since we release the normal amount. So the Dr put her on bc pills to slow down the release of her eggs. You need to have your dr tell your mom this information (if that is what your dealing with) so that she can fully understand that this is a medical issue, and she could be causing her daughter from giving her any grandbabies in the future! good luck!

I had the same problem. I would bleed through my pants every single month in high school. My mom didn't want me to get on it either. I tried to talk to her about it. It was so embarassing in college.. so I went and did it anyway. I was raised in a family like yours it seems.. my parents had complete control over my life. But they don't have control over my body.. and I needed some help. I had to sleep the first day of my period before. As soon as I got on the pill my periods were so much better.. I have little to no cramps.. and it only lasted 3 days. I would highly suggest not going behind your parents back but maturely explaining to them what you're going to do any why. I even offered to my mom that I would try other natural or herbal methods before going on the pill and it didn't work. She will be much happier if you're honest with her. But do what you need to do.

Well, if you are 19 and in the UK, you *can* go get the pill without your parent's permission, you are legally an adult. Now I'm not saying that's a great idea, because if/when your parents find out, I imagine they would be really mad, imagining you are taking it for sexual reasons. Perhaps you can go to the doctor together with your mother, say, and have the doctor explain to you both the benefits of it for your period pains. When I went to the doctor and told him I wanted it for cramps, and to regulate my period, not to have sex, he was really happy (i thought it was funny, he seemed so surprised!).

I've been on the pill now for nearly 5 months and I wouldn't say I've noticed any significant weight gain. I was a little worried about that, but I haven't seen much. It might also be because a month after I started the pill I decided to start eating better and counting calories. But as long as you are eating healthy and exercising a bit, it shouldn't be an issue.

As another one of these women who had very painful periods, I would definately suggest you go on the pill for it. I'm sorry that your parents don't want you to, because I think it would really help. Could you not get you mother to maybe monitor it for you? Like, she gives you your pill every day? Maybe if she was involved more in it she wouldn't see it as such a negative?

There are a lot of negative side effects from the pill such as a higher risk of blood clotting - which can be fatal. S if you can find a way to cope without it, that would be better for your health.

I've found that if I really cut back on my sodium the week before my period, I don't get cramps or pain when it comes.

Also, a lot of women find that adding Omega 3s into their diet really increase how heavy the flow is along with clots.

Lastly, I've noticed that if you do a search in this forum for things like "TOM" and "PMS" you'll find that most women here find their periods have gotten much much better as they take off weight.

Maybe give those things a try for a couple of months and see how they work for you. Then if you really aren't finding any improvement at all, go have another talk with your doctor or your parents.

I hope that helps.

My periods are TERRIBLE no matter what I weigh. I feel your pain because I also bleed through everything hourly. I have to work from home two days/month because I can't even last my commute in the car without ruining my clothes.

I'm currently trying to regulate my periods with the birth control pill, but am also working with my chiropractor on wholistic solutions. He has me on a daily regimen of supplements. Perhaps you can meet with an herbalist who sells Standard Process Brand Supplements?

Charmagne

When I was about your age, my mother was the same way and my periods were (and still are) super bad. I went to the clinic at my college and started getting them through there.

you shouldn't have to suffer.