Has losing weight changed you?

I just became more of the person I was before. Whereas before I was too shy and had too low self-esteem to allow myself to be me, now I feel freer to be myself. I discovered through my journey more of myself and I gained confidence not through the numbers dropping but through the determination, persistence and constant challenge I had to go through to achieve my goal. My personality is the same, I'm just happier because I'm proud of what I was able to accomplish. But I didn't just work on my fitness and eating throughout the journey, I had a lot of mindset work to get through as well and it was doing that more than working out and eating right that's gotten me to where I am today!

In more ways than one....I know realize my value and no one will ever mistreat me again. I also hated shopping before but now I love to shop and buy all the cute size small clothes.

I'm exactly the same. I was a b____ before too. :laugh:

You're hilarious. I'm glad we're pals. :laugh:

I'm very different. I negotiate much better and don't tolerate poor treatment. I set boundaries with family members where before, I had virtually no boundaries.

I'm also very picky when it comes to clothes now. Before, I wore whatever fit, albeit, poorly. Now, I make sure things look good.

I'm an uppity b*tch now and find I am too good for just about everyone; I also have to stop and check out every mirror.











But really, I am much happier and more open than I was before and I have a better sense of self and more love for myself and others now. (Okay, and I do flex in mirrors sometimes.)

I've completely changed this year. I went from not wanting to go out, hating my body, not fitting in clothes, etc to a happier and more confident person. I wrote on my personal blog every single day this year and completely see the difference in my attitude and lifestyle from January to December. It's amazing!

not really.
perhaps a little bump in the self esteem department, but i blame that on my wonderful FL 110%.

But really, I am much happier and more open than I was before and I have a better sense of self and more love for myself and others now.

I feel this way too!!

I also notice that I'm a lot more open to making new female friends, and they seem much more interested in befriending me (I'm talking about in "real life", not just on this website). At first it kind of bugged me because I felt like people who may have written me off for being fatter are starting to see me as more of a "normal" chubby woman instead and feel that I'm acceptable size wise. But now as time goes on, I think it's probably 1 part that and 5 parts me being friendlier and more open!

I'm lighter.

I care more about myself than ever.

I'm healthier and more confident. I'm now the one who uses the steps instead of the elevator and parks in the farthest spot from the mall entrance. I have to admit shopping is much harder. Too many choices!

My wife and kids say I'm grumpier more - maybe it was the "hangry period" when I was trying to lose weight. I would always say back "oh you liked me fat, 'cause fat men are jolly." Now that I've been at target for a year I hope I'm normalizing to a "happier" place. Like others have said I do look at myself in the mirror more so my vanity is up. My biggest hobby now is my health (watching what I eat, running and now trying lifting) so my wife will tell you I am out of the house more. She has told me she gets tired of me asking "where are the wrappers from X or how much of Y is in this so I can log the calories." Maybe my hobby is really just calorie counting.

I can answer this. I've been as high as 350 lbs and as little as 140 lbs. I'm the same person.

What's changed is how people treat me.

At 350 lbs, I was invisible. Which was preferrable to being made fun of openly but total strangers. One guy yelled acorss at a Denny's to me that I was Goodyear blimp. Will never forget that.

At 140 lbs, I was getting more attention from men. It was flattering but unnerved me, because it validated how shallow people can be. And yet I started to crave that attention to validate ME. Oh, the irony.

At 350 lbs., I worried about going ANYWHERE. Why? Didn't know if I would fit in the: movie seat, amusement park ride, airplane seat. This was before seat belt extenders were really available. I once had a cross-country flight where I couldn't buckle my seat belt and kept a jacket on my lap to cover it up so I wouldn't be called on it or hassled b the flight attendants. I used to book window seats so that I would only have to worry about hanging over on one side of the seat.

At 140 lbs, I didn't think twice about going or doing anything. Chairs were no problem. It was about living my life, not worrying about wedging myself into a chair.

At 350 lbs, I was suicidal. My fertility was threatened. I felt my career path was bleak because of such outrageous and obvious bias.

At 140 lbs, I got promoted three times in 5 years.

At 350 lbs, I berated myself all day long for allowing things to get to that point. I avoided mirrors. Photos. I missed out on life.

At 140 lbs., I didn't care who had a camera. I looked forward to shopping for clothes. I was always surprised when I could look for clothes that I LIKED versus what would fit me.

Throughout all of it, I never changed at all. The world changed how they treated me. And it sucked to realize that. I also realized I spent so much of my life missing, well, life. I always wondered about the things I could have done, the people I could have met, the achievements that I might have had. The trajectory of my life might be very different.

But I will tell you one thing.

Being fat and obese for most of my young adult life DID help. It made me more empathetic. It made me give a crap about others, because I certainly didn't care about myself. It made me work harder in my career. It made me develop an awesome personality and wicked sense of humor (okay, as a form of self-defense but also to charm people before they had the chance to realize that I could topple over and crush them at any given moment).

Now, at age 41, I see that I will never change. And people don't really change, actually. But the world will judge, and that is just a fact. This time around, I'm trying to lose 25 pounds to be healthy and to live what I have left of my life in as healthfully of a way as I can. I have two awesome kids depending on me, and that's what counts most of all.

I feel healthier and fitter. Love to dress and go out!Love to look at my pics,earlier i hated that. Other than the looks part, rest stays the same.

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