Lapse in motivation-please remind me what I'm doing here

I know where youre coming from as Hubby and I are both 'Loveable n large' and both like each other on the larger side - fairly active and happy being slightly bigger.

But my main reason was my constant migraines - and now I begin to recognise how awful the fatty foods actually make me feel and effect my body.

Its hard to say what your motivation is - but mine is just to feel better in my own skin.
Keep at it xxxx

I would say you are the only one that can answer that question. No matter how much I encourage or try to motivate you, it must come from you. If you are happy where you are and feel content there is not amount of words I can say to make you want to do something.

I feel that way sometimes too, I don't want to get up an exercise especially after I see the work out I am about to do, but then I remind myself what I want to be in a year. We are taking a trip to Disney and I want to be able to wear a bikini with out being unconscious of how I look. I want to be toned and well defined in my arms and legs and eventually get to my abs. I guess what I am saying is, get some goals and write them down, little ones and you will get there!

physical appearance and fitting into some arbitrary size, etc are all pretty piss poor motivators in the end. Ultimately, you need to have reasons beyond the superficial for being healthy and getting your fitness and nutrition on. For me, it is my health and well being and wanting to live past 60 and wanting to be around for my kids and watching them grow up, etc.

Two years ago I was heading down a path to disaster from a health perspective. I had some really bad blood work and was quickly making my way to full on metabolic syndrome just like my dad. I didn't want that and knew that I presumed I would be cutting my life pretty short if I didn't pull it together...I was right...my awesome dad just passed away Wednesday night at the ripe old age of 61 because he never bothered to really take care of himself or even try until it was too late and all of the damage was done. I'm just trying to outrun that ****....I could give a **** what arbitrary number shows up on the scale or what size pants I wear...I want to be healthy and fit and alive...

Like many of our peers here said, none of us can "remind" you why you're here without knowing you and your initial reasons for starting this journey. However, what we can tell you is that losing weight--or striving to be more healthy and conscious of how you treat your body--is ALWAYS a positive thing. And doing something that is great for your temple HAS to resonate deep down inside you. Knowing you are improving your health should be motivation enough for anyone. Our health is our most precious physical gift...perhaps you should meditate to capture your most precious emotional/spiritual gifts--self-love, high self-esteem, and thankfulness. Perhaps then...you will re-discover why you are really here. Head up, eyes forward!

I lost my dad last month. He was obese, morbidly obese and had many medical issues as a result. I do this because he was concerned about my health. I want to honor my dad by honoring his last wish for me. That's what motivates me. Be healthy my friend and keep at it.

I'm having a lapse in motivation. I am realizing that I really don't know why I'm trying to do this. I'm fairly content at size 16--most of the time. I love my husband and he loves me. I'm average fitness. I don't look better as I lose weight due to genetically bad skin (thanks mom and dad). I was a size 22 in high school, and my skin's never recovered from that. As a result of that, I tend to look worse as I lose weight, and I have a jiggle when I move(what plastic surgeons call a delay) that no amount of exercise is ever going to fix. It's tough to keep working at it. I need some reminders of what I'm trying to do here please? :ohwell:

Maybe your health and mobility don't suffer at your current weight, so those don't feel like motivators to you now, but as the years go by, it will get harder to maintain your health at that size. In fact, it will likely be harder to maintain that size as well, as our metabolism does slow with age. Your best defense against having weight related issues later is to deal with it now. Two years ago, I had difficulty putting on and tying my shoes if I wasn't sitting down. Walking even a quarter mile was a struggle. I would get out of breath just bringing in the groceries from the car. I refused to live like that any more, or subject future-me to that kind of life.

as for loose skin and vanity...i have VERY loose skin and a hanging belly (and thighs) that will jiggle until the time comes when/if I can have surgery, and I've still got at least 30-40 pounds to go and no plans on giving up. I don't have a husband/boyfriend who already loves me for who I am, and sometimes I get self-conscious getting naked in front of someone new...but in my most recent naked adventure...the guy had his hand on my belly and said "it's obvious you've been working hard, I'm proud of you." He actually grabbed my belly when he said it, and I didn't feel the least bit unattractive. He was proud of my loose belly because it was a sign of my strength and dedication to myself...a different kind of beauty. A tall, attractive, funny, strong, smart guy, who runs his own business, owns his own home, a "good catch" you could say...found beauty in that jiggly belly. and that's what I am going to remind myself when i see myself naked in the mirror.

Don't let your jiggle stop you from seeing the whole picture.

I'm having a lapse in motivation. I am realizing that I really don't know why I'm trying to do this. I'm fairly content at size 16--most of the time. I love my husband and he loves me. I'm average fitness. I don't look better as I lose weight due to genetically bad skin (thanks mom and dad). I was a size 22 in high school, and my skin's never recovered from that. As a result of that, I tend to look worse as I lose weight, and I have a jiggle when I move(what plastic surgeons call a delay) that no amount of exercise is ever going to fix. It's tough to keep working at it. I need some reminders of what I'm trying to do here please? :ohwell:

Maybe your health and mobility don't suffer at your current weight, so those don't feel like motivators to you now, but as the years go by, it will get harder to maintain your health at that size. In fact, it will likely be harder to maintain that size as well, as our metabolism does slow with age. Your best defense against having weight related issues later is to deal with it now. Two years ago, I had difficulty putting on and tying my shoes if I wasn't sitting down. Walking even a quarter mile was a struggle. I would get out of breath just bringing in the groceries from the car. I refused to live like that any more, or subject future-me to that kind of life.

as for loose skin and vanity...i have VERY loose skin and a hanging belly (and thighs) that will jiggle until the time comes when/if I can have surgery, and I've still got at least 30-40 pounds to go and no plans on giving up. I don't have a husband/boyfriend who already loves me for who I am, and sometimes I get self-conscious getting naked in front of someone new...but in my most recent naked adventure...the guy had his hand on my belly and said "it's obvious you've been working hard, I'm proud of you." He actually grabbed my belly when he said it, and I didn't feel the least bit unattractive. He was proud of my loose belly because it was a sign of my strength and dedication to myself...a different kind of beauty. A tall, attractive, funny, strong, smart guy, who runs his own business, owns his own home, a "good catch" you could say...found beauty in that jiggly belly. and that's what I am going to remind myself when i see myself naked in the mirror.

Don't let your jiggle stop you from seeing the whole picture.

Can I just say I love you???