im so fat and ugly cant wait to lose weight

romzana
romzana Posts: 86 Member
edited September 22 in Motivation and Support
always was an ugly duckling was skinny before though but now ive lost my confidence cant beleive i gained so much weight


has anyone else lost there confidence because of their weight

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  • Yasmine91
    Yasmine91 Posts: 599 Member
    I have, quite a lot but not too much. My confidence was second to none when I was slim, always happy, now....err not so much lol.

    But we'll get there :)
  • gaylet79
    gaylet79 Posts: 1
    I'm there with you. I just started last week and have lost 8 pounds and it is all because of this site. If you would like, we can do it together. My friend helped me get started and I would like to pass it on.
  • vaavamom1
    vaavamom1 Posts: 136 Member
    me me me ,i have lost confidence coz of my weight.... i have lost weight before and had felt wonderful.hoping to do it this time around again ...
  • ginnyroxx
    ginnyroxx Posts: 763
    um. i think you're beautiful :flowerforyou:
  • RedneckWmn
    RedneckWmn Posts: 3,202 Member
    I never had much to begin with. Slowly but sure I'm gaining some. It's a work in progress! Good luck to you.
  • soze
    soze Posts: 604 Member
    I think you're beautiful! Set a goal, lose the weight slowly.

    All the best!
  • Panda86
    Panda86 Posts: 873
    I think we all struggle with self confidence. But losing weight is not going to magically change the way you feel about yourself. It will help, yes, but you need to change the way you view yourself as a whole. Your confidence can't be stuck in how you look, because that is always changing. You need to accept who and what you are- a BEAUTIFUL part of God's creation! :flowerforyou:
  • RedneckWmn
    RedneckWmn Posts: 3,202 Member
    I think we all struggle with self confidence. But losing weight is not going to magically change the way you feel about yourself. It will help, yes, but you need to change the way you view yourself as a whole. Your confidence can't be stuck in how you look, because that is always changing. You need to accept who and what you are- a BEAUTIFUL part of God's creation! :flowerforyou:

    Couldn't agree more!! Many people think losing the weight will solve all their problems. Definitely not the case. This whole journey has been life changing for me. 100% without a doubt I am a different person then the person I was the day I started.
  • SaraTN
    SaraTN Posts: 536 Member
    Remember its your internal beauty that makes you beautiful on the outside too.
  • thenebean9
    thenebean9 Posts: 216
    before i gained weight, i was a very quiet and shy person. i started coming out of my shell, but my weight gain really kept me from coming out of my shell completely. now that i've lost some weight, i feel better about myself in a lot of ways! don't let your weight keep you down - do something great by doing something healthy for yourself! good luck :)
  • txchic_73
    txchic_73 Posts: 139 Member
    I am right there with you! I do not feel like myself. I only have about 20-25lbs to lose but I definitely have a self confidence issue having this much weight on me. It is all in my belly so everything I wear looks bad. I do not feel sexy anymore so that has impacted my love life and my husband is starting to feel neglected. I guess this should be all the reason I need to get my tail off the couch or up out of bed to work out, but for some reason I still procrastinate. Don't feel bad. We have all been there and we can and will get back to where we believe in ourselves again. It is just going to take time.

    Hang in there and good luck. Friend me if you need some support. I know I can use all I can get!
  • nicolepope11
    nicolepope11 Posts: 56
    First of all, you are beautiful! But I know and sometimes think the same way. We are all our own worst critic. You can do this and will feel so much better about yourself when you do. Set yourself small goals and when you reach them, remind yourseld that you did this, no one else. Confidence will come when you prove to yourself that you can achieve something so great.
  • daniellek30
    daniellek30 Posts: 171 Member
    You're not fat, or ugly. You're very beautiful actually. However, that is how I feel everday. ;(

    After my sister died this summer, I gained twenty pounds, so yeah.. i'm feeling the whole fat thing ;/
  • redefiningmyself
    redefiningmyself Posts: 476 Member
    um. i think you're beautiful :flowerforyou:

    me too. YOu have a lot to offer the world, no matter what the scale says
  • preachawoman
    preachawoman Posts: 3 Member
    Don't give in my sister. Be encouraged . Sometimes it takes a while for the weight to move. Sometimes our own minds try to make us feel less than because we have gained weight but we are loved by God ! He wants us healthy but doesn't stop loving us because we are heavy. I'm the biggest I've ever been and sometime my self esteem is in the toliet but I remember that with God all things are possible and I start again.

    Be encouraged >You are beautiful.:smile:
  • 52isit
    52isit Posts: 8 Member
    gaylet79

    8 LBS in a week? WOW, what did you change to make that happen? As a 51 year old with ZERO luck in sticking with a plan I know it gets so hard as we age. I need to lose about 60 lbs and I hate the fact that I have gotten to this point. I feel like I've been on a plateau for years when really I just can't seem to get it. I know what I need to do food and excercise wise but there is just some mental component that I cannot get, the thing that makes me believe I can do it. If I could only commit long enough to start seeing results I think I could be motivated to continue. Thoughts, ideas anyone???
  • Gizmo52
    Gizmo52 Posts: 43
    I have to agree with quite a few of the other posts. Being fat doesn't make you ugly anymore than being slender makes you a super model.

    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You are what you tell yourself you are. Believe in yourself. Some of the skinnest people are the most unattactive people. It like my Mother used to tell us as kids. We didnt' have the stylist clothes, wore hand me downs mostly and she said if you believe you look pretty, then others will see you in the same way. It what you tell yourself and how you treat yourself that others pick up on. Remember Oprah in her heavy years. She still dressed nicely, still took time with make-up and hair and she carried herself confidently. (Ok, she has people that help her with her hair and make-up, but she was still in the limelight and the way she talked and carried herself, you knew she loved herself). You don't have to wait to lose weight to feel good about yourself. Please take some time to get to know yourself - take time to feel good in your own skin - fat or slender - you are still the same person inside.
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