Self Confidence Dropping with the Pounds (Females)

Jessicahanzlik
Jessicahanzlik Posts: 58 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
Don't get me wrong, I've lost 13lbs, went from 157lbs to 143lbs, but my problem is...My boobs have gotten smaller as well. And people have notice. I was a C, now I'm a B. And that's hurting myself confidence a lot. But I want to keep losing weight, I'm just scared I'll be an A cup.

I want your opinion, If this was happening to you, what would you do?

Continue to lose, but possibly lose a cup size?
Or just stop and learn to be happy with what you have now?
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  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Are you at a healthy weight/body fat %?

    Do you like how you look now?
  • Jessicahanzlik
    Jessicahanzlik Posts: 58 Member
    Are you at a healthy weight/body fat %?

    Do you like how you look now?

    I honestly want to lose more, but I'm not sure how I will feel when I have no chest....
  • kbitikofer
    kbitikofer Posts: 43 Member
    That happens to me as well when I lose weight. It would be nice to keep the boobs but lose from everywhere else. But I've decided, after much mental battling, that I would rather sacrifice my cup size to be happy with the rest of my body (I can always add padding for the time being). When I reach my goal weight, and have maintained for an extended period, I might look into getting a boob job.
  • AmyMgetsfit
    AmyMgetsfit Posts: 636 Member
    When I first started trying to lose the weight mine got a lot smaller also. But as I continued to strength train 3x a week they got bigger. They might even be a little bigger than when I first started. Maybe they look bigger because I am smaller. At any rate they did get bigger with the weights. I do a few extra weights to target the arms and chest. I think it has helped.
  • wilsoje74
    wilsoje74 Posts: 1,720 Member
    Get a padded bra
  • Jessicahanzlik
    Jessicahanzlik Posts: 58 Member
    That happens to me as well when I lose weight. It would be nice to keep the boobs but lose from everywhere else. But I've decided, after much mental battling, that I would rather sacrifice my cup size to be happy with the rest of my body (I can always add padding for the time being). When I reach my goal weight, and have maintained for an extended period, I might look into getting a boob job.
    This actually sounds like the same mindset of me, thank you.
  • Willbenchforcupcakes
    Willbenchforcupcakes Posts: 4,955 Member
    Does it really matter what size they are? Are you any less of a woman if you're an A cup versus a C cup? If you're at a healthy weight and body fat percentage and don't want to get any smaller, than don't lose more weight. If you're not, accept that you might lose more to get yourself to a healthy body fat.
  • knowitall3321
    knowitall3321 Posts: 5 Member
    I had the same thing happen to me almost. I started running and dropped two cup sizes, but as I continued to run I think my body just kind of got used to it. They went back to being a normal size for my body, and I think they might for you too. and I saw that someone else said strength training helps, so maybe try that?
  • GiveMeCoffee
    GiveMeCoffee Posts: 3,556 Member
    My confidence isn't in my cup size, maybe it's just me. My confidence comes from being better today than I was yesterday, reaching my goals, making new ones and pushing past those, by liking the person I am.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    You need to learn that chest size isn't the most important thing in the world when it comes to self confidence....
  • JJananii
    JJananii Posts: 30 Member
    When I start to lose weight the same thing happens to me. My body takes the fat from my boobs first, but after awhile of sticking with it anyway, everything does start to even out again by way of proportion. Your chest will be a smaller size of course, but since the rest of your body will also be smaller, the proportion should be about the same :flowerforyou:
  • Mangopickle
    Mangopickle Posts: 1,509 Member
    Having all that excess fat was just putting you at higher risk for breast cancer. If you are so concerned just open a Christmas club acct and start saving for a new set. Or buy a nice set of cutlets to fill your old bras and give you extra lift. Most fashion models are an A -B cup enhanced to a C with cutlets
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    It can do a number on you to see your body change. Part of it is just an adjustment you have to go through. When I first had to downsize to a B cup I was pretty down about it, and about my body in general. But I went out and bought some pretty push-up bras, and I started working on my self-talk. I started making an effort to say nice things about my body. I've got nice shoulders and arms, for example, and that's not something I've ever been able to say before. I also tried to focus more on achievements in the gym.

    Give yourself some time and be patient with yourself. And when you look in the mirror focus on what you like rather than what you'd like to change. Also I don't know what kind of exercise you do but strength training will help you with body composition as you lose weight, which will help ensure you're happy with your body when you do get to goal weight, even if you have smaller boobs than you'd like.
  • kgeyser
    kgeyser Posts: 22,505 Member
    I have the opposite problem, because I want my boobs to get smaller. I can't wear anything that doesn't have an underwire, and that includes sports bras and bath suits. I can't go into a store and just buy a bra, I have to go to a specialty shop or special order it. I am very limited in the types of tops I can wear, because strapless bras at my size are just hilarious and all the straps on my bras are at least an inch thick. I've spent my entire life with people identifying me not by name, but as "the girl with the big boobs in your English class." People treat me like I am stupid or assume that I'm out to sleep with every man I meet. I avoid making eye contact because it hurt too much to constantly see people looking down at my chest.

    My point is, boobs aren't all they're cracked up to be, and they don't define you. My breasts are not an achievement. I didn't do any work to make them this way. Now, a killer set of abs, or really cut arms, or a fantastic butt, those are things that I can change and say "hell yeah, my hard work did this."
  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
    *headdesk*
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    Being upset about a letter changing is the same as just a number on the scale. Are you healthier? Is your chest size the only negative of losing weight.

    Have you been professionally fitted by somewhere other than Victoria's Secret? Just recently my "B-cup" sister finally got fitted at Nordstrom. 36D.

    If you're hung up on sizing, first make sure you're actually even the size you think you are. Might change your perception.
  • WalkingAlong
    WalkingAlong Posts: 4,926 Member
    I don't mean this to belittle the OP's fears but our culture's fascination with breast size, particularly from the women themselves, never ceases to amaze me. Ancient Chinese used to bind women's feet to try to keep them from growing, because they valued small feet. I wonder what body part we'll be in pain over trying to maximize or minimize in 500 years.
  • a_stronger_me13
    a_stronger_me13 Posts: 812 Member
    Why are you scared of being an A cup?

    Erin Simmons could be the president of the IBTC and she (most males and females would probably agree) is hot as... because she's physically attractive and also the hard work, consistency and determination required to get that body is very admirable and attractive as well.

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    OP, as an always AA... AAA cup-er, I get it. For the longest time I defined my femininity or lack thereof based on my boobs then I realized how superficial and childish that is. I've never received any complaints from any guy I've been with which used to be my justification for my small boobs being "okay." Now I think they're more than okay, because they're mine and my body is capable of so many other awesome things than just being something to carry around a big, perky set of tatas.

    Don't let stupid numbers define you or belittle you as a female. If you want big ones, get 'em redone when you've got the rest of your body figured out.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I'm going to quote myself from another post...

    Boobs are overrated. I'm not sure why they are so important to people. 50% of the population have them in one form or another, and the other 50% of the population like them in pretty much all of the different forms they come in. They come from hormones, genetics, body fat, and silicone. You don't get them with hard work, discipline, or effort (maybe the fake ones since you have to earn the money for them). They don't improve your healthy, or represent imporved health. They don't make you stronger, or run faster, or jump higher (in fact they can do just the opposite). They are pretty I guess, and ultimately they DO feed infants but they can do that no matter the size, sagginess, or symmetry. But really, they are just boobs.
  • albayin
    albayin Posts: 2,524 Member
    I have always been flat all my life. It's those giant thighs that drag me down all the time...Guess really to each her own. :)
  • HollisGrant
    HollisGrant Posts: 2,022 Member
    Having all that excess fat was just putting you at higher risk for breast cancer. If you are so concerned just open a Christmas club acct and start saving for a new set. Or buy a nice set of cutlets to fill your old bras and give you extra lift. Most fashion models are an A -B cup enhanced to a C with cutlets

    This is right about breast cancer. Being overweight is a risk factor. The body makes more estrogen to cover the excess weight.
  • MagicalLeopleurodon
    MagicalLeopleurodon Posts: 623 Member
    Im an A :) worse things have happened
  • twixlepennie
    twixlepennie Posts: 1,074 Member
    Don't get me wrong, I've lost 13lbs, went from 157lbs to 143lbs, but my problem is...My boobs have gotten smaller as well. And people have notice. I was a C, now I'm a B. And that's hurting myself confidence a lot. But I want to keep losing weight, I'm just scared I'll be an A cup.

    I want your opinion, If this was happening to you, what would you do?

    Continue to lose, but possibly lose a cup size?
    Or just stop and learn to be happy with what you have now?

    I went from a B to a small A. My *kitten* also went from a size 14 to a size 2 jean, so I'll take the trade off :tongue:
  • WSG88
    WSG88 Posts: 13
    This happened to me as well. When I started this in August 2012 I was 177 pounds and a C cup, now I am 144 pounds and a B cup. I second the padded bra, I use one and I love it though I know this does nothing for you when your naked. I am ok loosing my boobs as long as i'm losing everywhere else as well, it's just how the cookie crumbles.
    OP this is a normal feeling, boobs are overrated imo and I do believe we focus too much on what size we think our boobs should be instead of realizing that were becoming healthier, but that still doesn't change the fact that after we've had them and lost them we feel a little less like ourselves. After you've reached your goal and your body looks amazing, and it will, you wont even care that you went down a cup size or two. Good luck with your goals love!
  • supplemama
    supplemama Posts: 1,956 Member
    What are you good at? What do you like to do? What skills do you have? In what way do you practice your creativity? Are there things you like to ponder? What do you think about, read about? Are you confident when you speak, or are you hesitant with expressing your ideas to other people when out in public?

    Once you begin to develop yourself mentally, intellectually, and creatively, you won't rely on your breasts to give you feelings of confidence. Thus it won't matter what size they are because you will become confident in yourself.
  • astrampe
    astrampe Posts: 2,169 Member
    My confidence isn't in my cup size, maybe it's just me. My confidence comes from being better today than I was yesterday, reaching my goals, making new ones and pushing past those, by liking the person I am.

    You win!!!:flowerforyou:
  • mamma_nee
    mamma_nee Posts: 809 Member
    Wear a padded bra??? ;)
  • kaneaap
    kaneaap Posts: 13 Member
    Healthy attitude! Same happens to me, but I'd much rather where pretty, smaller clothes!
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    Eh. I haven't had anyone talk trash about my small chest yet, except maybe me. Apparently I make up for it with good legs and arms.
  • TX_Rhon
    TX_Rhon Posts: 1,549 Member
    My confidence isn't in my cup size, maybe it's just me. My confidence comes from being better today than I was yesterday, reaching my goals, making new ones and pushing past those, by liking the person I am.

    You win!!!:flowerforyou:

    ^^^^Agreed!

    Your self confidence should not be attached to your cup size. Find the things you like about you and concentrate on those. :flowerforyou:

    Edited for grammar

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