So what it is going to be different this time?

That is a great question. I want to be healthy and feel good in 2014

Hi.....

How about you ditch all your preconceptions, the gimmicks, etc that you have tried before that didn't ultimately work for you. Stop comparing yourself to others.....(I know, easier said than done...but the negative internal dialogue you have going isn't gonna be of any use to you.....as you will change and lose weight according to YOUR body...not someone elses).

Prepare for the honest truth....this is gonna take time...longer probably than you want (hell than all of us want....but you didn't get 65lbs overweight overnight)......remember slow, steady weight loss is the most sustainable and at 40 your skin will thank you a hellova lot more than rapid weight loss (plenty of saggy skin issues to be had as a result of this path).

What about you start at the beginning: Buy a food scale, weigh and log everything using MFP......the good the bad and the ugly. See how much you are actually consuming calorie wise before you implement changes.

Again using any and all resources of MFP - read. There are so many knowledgeable people here.....most who are willing to share there insights. There are also must read threads for any newbies:

Look for the thread of Guide to Sexypants, for example. Read Success Stories....see how they did it and look at the time they took to do it in for a reality check.

Plug in your stats to MFP and work out your calorie allowance.....(just a bit of a tip from me, please resist going gun-ho and aiming for the 2lb a week loss setting......bit resitrictive).

Start off making small changes to your current diet. Knock off the fizzy drinks, drink lots of water, eat more meat, veg and fruit and don't deny yourself a treat of choice when you can fit it in. Maybe start making small changes in your routine, walk more...park your car further away from work, walk to the shop, in ad breaks when watching telly get yourself up and march in place....anything that gets you moving. As you start noticing changes find more taxing exercise that appeals to you and give it a go....please seriously consider lifting too.....so much benefit, especially as we age (I'm 51).

From what you have said.....I get the impression that you are feeling almost defeated before you start. That can happen after multiple unsuccessful weight loss attempts....your self-esteem and self-belief plummets, maybe this thought resonates with you and if so, honey I really entreat you to do all you can to reignite YOUR flame....read affirming stuff on the internet, get positive books.

You Can do this. You are worth this transformation. Motivation comes from within. Outsiders can help....but only so far.

I wish you all the very best.

Add me as a friend. I have been where you are currently....so I do understand. I can support you but I am honest and challenging, if this appeals to you give us a tingle.

Karen :flowerforyou:

This time if I lose 25 lbs by the spring again it will be on top of my already weight loss of 25 lbs lbs minus ten for a current of 15 lbs for a total of 40 lbs. From there in the spring if I continue through I will achieve goal weight some time this year summer or fall.

I will not rely on walking with friends but just working out alone as last year has built up my confidence to workout alone and the friends I had who are no longer available due to working commitments are no longer needed due to getting over my fears anyways and just learning my body's capabilities post injury.

The other thing that will be different is I will be incorporating more eating of real foods and less reliance on shakes since this year I learned how to get to protein goals with foods. I will also fight husbands different but specific eating style less since I've had this whole year to learn how to get the benefits I need out of it and he's accepted my need for a more balanced diet by now.

Hi.....

How about you ditch all your preconceptions, the gimmicks, etc that you have tried before that didn't ultimately work for you. Stop comparing yourself to others.....(I know, easier said than done...but the negative internal dialogue you have going isn't gonna be of any use to you.....as you will change and lose weight according to YOUR body...not someone elses).

Prepare for the honest truth....this is gonna take time...longer probably than you want (hell than all of us want....but you didn't get 65lbs overweight overnight)......remember slow, steady weight loss is the most sustainable and at 40 your skin will thank you a hellova lot more than rapid weight loss (plenty of saggy skin issues to be had as a result of this path).

What about you start at the beginning: Buy a food scale, weigh and log everything using MFP......the good the bad and the ugly. See how much you are actually consuming calorie wise before you implement changes.

Again using any and all resources of MFP - read. There are so many knowledgeable people here.....most who are willing to share there insights. There are also must read threads for any newbies:

Look for the thread of Guide to Sexypants, for example. Read Success Stories....see how they did it and look at the time they took to do it in for a reality check.

Plug in your stats to MFP and work out your calorie allowance.....(just a bit of a tip from me, please resist going gun-ho and aiming for the 2lb a week loss setting......bit resitrictive).

Start off making small changes to your current diet. Knock off the fizzy drinks, drink lots of water, eat more meat, veg and fruit and don't deny yourself a treat of choice when you can fit it in. Maybe start making small changes in your routine, walk more...park your car further away from work, walk to the shop, in ad breaks when watching telly get yourself up and march in place....anything that gets you moving. As you start noticing changes find more taxing exercise that appeals to you and give it a go....please seriously consider lifting too.....so much benefit, especially as we age (I'm 51).

From what you have said.....I get the impression that you are feeling almost defeated before you start. That can happen after multiple unsuccessful weight loss attempts....your self-esteem and self-belief plummets, maybe this thought resonates with you and if so, honey I really entreat you to do all you can to reignite YOUR flame....read affirming stuff on the internet, get positive books.

You Can do this. You are worth this transformation. Motivation comes from within. Outsiders can help....but only so far.

I wish you all the very best.

Add me as a friend. I have been where you are currently....so I do understand. I can support you but I am honest and challenging, if this appeals to you give us a tingle.

Karen :flowerforyou:

^^^^^. Listen to this poster. This is exactly what you need to do.