Im in need of some serious help

You don't need a workout in a gymn you need a club. Sometimes to stay motivated means to be social when working out. Sometimes it also means spending money.
For example, if you belong to a gymn, then go for a zumba class (or yoga) even if there is an extra cost. Make friends and in casual conversation make a committment statement that you will see them (other exercise classmates) next week. You can then do your other workout on another day, Possibly, use the swim pool another time. In essence don't do the same routine 3 days a week at your gymn, vary it. Maybe make plans to do something with your new friends at the gymn.
Next, try walking. I know somebody that walks the boardwalk at the beach. Always enjoyable on a nice day and then you will see regulars that are doing the same. Add the day you walk into your planned gymn days during the week. No beach? Walk the mall without buying anything. maybe you and a neighbor can do a planned neighborhood walk?
Cycling? Same plan. join a club, buy an expensive bicycle then make sure you use it cause it cost a lot. Club members can keep you motivated and then there are club rides to anywhere.. Maybe a little friendly competition won't hurt either.
Good luck!

Similar to Pink Coconut, figuring out the "why" helped me out as well. I had some really unflattering pictures as motivation, and that helped for a while. And I also read the Beck Diet Solution. which challenges you to write down the reasons you want to lose weight and review them every day (among a lot of other helpful advice). Beck also talks about the value of writing down what you eat every day as a critical step - you're on the right track if you're doing that much at least.

And if you're starving on the 1200 a day or whatever they suggest, try upping your target to what your maintenance calories would be - your rate of loss will be slower, but you may be able to stick with it better. You may also want to open your diary for a little while and see if you can get some suggestions on how to make some swaps so you can be more satisfied and less likely to binge.

The social aspect has helped me with exercise. I have a few friends that I have been signing up for things like 5Ks with, and without gym dates and scheduled races, I would be exercising far less often. Reading the fitness board here has also been inspiration for me to try some new things - I actually don't like running all that much (despite doing it out of peer pressure!), but I found I really like lifting weights. Go figure.

Good luck to you, and just take it a week at a time.

As far as exercise- find something you can do with your kids. It was a big motivator for me. We would go to the park and I would run around with them or use them as weights or take Karate classes with them. I also coached soccer. Now that they are older I still take long walks with them and my son is pushing me to start running now since he wants a running partner. I don't think I will be running 8 miles with him yet but maybe in a year or 2. I also take water aerobics classes at the local pool. I like switching things up so I don't get bored.

I need help 2. I need someone to push, support and encourage me.

I am struggling cause I don't have friends where we just moved and no one to workout with. but I did do some digging and printed some 30 day challenges out and im going to do a walking dvd and soon get a exercise bike or treadmill. thanks everyone for your help.

I'm in the same boat, recently moved and no friends here. I workout with DVDs at home when the kids sleep long enough for me to do so. It's hard to stay motivated when you're on your own, but people here at MFP are helpful. There are lots of groups here where you're expected to check in every day with your workout, you might want to look into one of those to help you stay accountable.

As far as your efforts derailing, you may want to review you calorie count to make sure you're eating enough to stave off hunger, and examine why you seem to drop your efforts after a certain amount of time. Do you feel like the changes are getting in the way of other aspects in your life? Do you have a hard time getting started again after slip-ups like binges or missed workouts? Do you get discouraged by the results or lack thereof after working hard for a certain amount of time? Identifying what it is that knocks you off your rhythm might help you to beat it this time.

It's really hard to stay motivated when you think of this as a "diet". I found when I decided to just change my life I was much more successful. Now I look at the big picture, and just know this is how I WANT to live my life.

Good luck to you!

Don't think of it as a diet. Think of it as a permanent nutrition change. Focus on eating whole foods and getting most of your calories from meat and veggies.

When setting a calorie amount, do not create more than a 500 calorie decicit.

Add more protein. If you eat lots of carbs and sugars your blood sugar will spike and crash all day. Protein and fats are the key to satiety.

Step 1) Identify and state your goal(s). I simply mean to yourself - you don't need to tell anyone else. This is for you.

Step 2) Find programs (fitness and dietary) that will help you get to your goals. Make sure to do some research, so that you don't waste time on a plan full of BroScience. You want real, honest, effective plan(s).

Step 3) Decide on the plan(s) you find. Pick one of each (fitness and dietary) that you think you'll like and can do.

Step 4) Make small changes, and only a few at a time - until you're fully immersed in the plan(s) you decided to follow in Step 3. The more drastic your changes are, the more difficult it will likely be to sustain those changes.

Step 5) Succeed.