Lack of family support

delaney056
delaney056 Posts: 475
edited February 10 in Motivation and Support
It's so much harder trying to develop a healthy lifestyle when your family isn't the most supportive. I live with my parents, my dad is at work most of the day, he has a very physically demanding job. He LOVES to bring home chips and coca cola and is obsessed with junk food, but he is normal weight. My mother is a little overweight (10 pounds at the most), and she has seizures and bad knee injuries, so she doesn't really exercise much. She likes to eat out a lot (Olive Garden, Red Lobster, McDonald's). I've tried to get her to work out with me, even encouraged her to do modified versions, and she won't stick with it for very long. There is constantly whipped cream, cookies, chips, diet sodas, all kinds of junk in my house. Her idea of good, clean food is a Lean Cuisine and a diet Pepsi. The only decent food that comes into this house is the food I buy. I love them to death, don't get me wrong, but I feel like I am being (probably unintentionally) sabotaged. I feel like my only support system is you guys.
Does anyone have some advice? I'm sure someone out there has been in a similar situation.

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  • KristinaB83
    KristinaB83 Posts: 440 Member
    Hmmm.... That's rough. I'm not quite sure how it would work with parents, but with my husband I just throw out anything he brings home while he's sleeping. XD Sorry, I know that's not really helpful =(
  • Hmmm.... That's rough. I'm not quite sure how it would work with parents, but with my husband I just throw out anything he brings home while he's sleeping. XD

    Hahaha. That's great!
  • Phaedra2014
    Phaedra2014 Posts: 1,254 Member
    This is your journey and it will require you taking care of yourself in the best way possible. I know it is hard but that's just life. Not everyone is going to be on board with our decisions so don't let it deter you.
  • Mykaelous
    Mykaelous Posts: 231 Member
    The best advice it to not count on others. Don't let anyone be an excuse for your failure. It's up to you to succeed even if its hard.
  • FindingMyPerfection
    FindingMyPerfection Posts: 702 Member
    The only option for food, is to buy your own and cook for your self. Or maybe offer to cook dinner 3-2x a week.
  • The only option for food, is to buy your own and cook for your self. Or maybe offer to cook dinner 3-2x a week.

    Great suggestion!
  • Jkowals123
    Jkowals123 Posts: 133 Member
    I sort of come in between two extremes.
    My oldest has severe food allergies so
    no gluten no eggs no nuts no dairy no
    seeds no safflower oil no sunflower oil.
    My husband is a fabulous cook and it is
    hard to say no to what he makes. We
    usually cook two or three meals , one
    for him, on for my kids, and one for me.
    However I usually give in and eat what he
    Makes for himself - tonight was curry
    chicken and rice with glass of wine.

    Good luck!
  • kinupmud
    kinupmud Posts: 24 Member
    I feel for you. my sweetheart is emotionally supportive, but he is a sugar addict. He LOVES sweets. Its constantly in the house. I buy fruit, yogurt, and freeze fruit juice for ice pops. Helps my sugar cravings. Plus cooking separate helps too.
  • F00LofaT00K
    F00LofaT00K Posts: 688 Member
    It's so much harder trying to develop a healthy lifestyle when your family isn't the most supportive. I live with my parents, my dad is at work most of the day, he has a very physically demanding job. He LOVES to bring home chips and coca cola and is obsessed with junk food, but he is normal weight. My mother is a little overweight (10 pounds at the most), and she has seizures and bad knee injuries, so she doesn't really exercise much. She likes to eat out a lot (Olive Garden, Red Lobster, McDonald's). I've tried to get her to work out with me, even encouraged her to do modified versions, and she won't stick with it for very long. There is constantly whipped cream, cookies, chips, diet sodas, all kinds of junk in my house. Her idea of good, clean food is a Lean Cuisine and a diet Pepsi. The only decent food that comes into this house is the food I buy. I love them to death, don't get me wrong, but I feel like I am being (probably unintentionally) sabotaged. I feel like my only support system is you guys.
    Does anyone have some advice? I'm sure someone out there has been in a similar situation.

    You're in a tough situation since you live in their home. You may just have to deal with it until you get a place of your own. You can't expect them to change their lifestyles just to make your choice easier on you. It seems like you may be mistaking that for a lack of support. It's excellent that you want to be healthy and there are many ways that they can support you: not offering you junk food when they eat it, avoid bringing in your favorite junk foods, keeping junk food stashes in their bedroom and out of sight, not inviting you when they dine out. For anything to change, you would have to talk to them about how you feel but this really falls on your shoulders more than anything. Keep buying food for yourself and make sure your parents know that it's meant for you specifically. Prepare your own meals and just don't eat their food. I don't think they are being un-supportive unless they start giving you a hard time about eating differently or scoff at your meals or something. I'm doing this alone. My boyfriend has chips, beer, cookies, etc. in the house constantly. It would be nice if those things weren't around (god, I love cookies!) but the fact is, it's not his responsibility to make my choice to get in shape easier. It's MY responsibility to make the right choices to get where I want to be regardless of the temptations around me.


    ETA: The suggestion of one of the other posters to cook meals is an excellent suggestion. I cook for myself and my boyfriend so he just has to deal with what I make. Thankfully, he thinks I'm an amazing cook. Some nights, we eat leftovers or just snack all night and then he does what he wants. Most nights though, he just gets a larger portion of the same dinner I'm eating.
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