Im Daryl and im hurting...

Sorry you are so down. Many of us have been our own version of where you are, those who have or have had a long way to go.

You want to feel healthy. First make sure you have your MFP setting right, be honest with yourself. If your calories etc are set too low you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Go gently with yourself, give yourself the right to be pleased with even a small achievement, the next will be greater till you have made it to where you want to be. Most of all be objective about your goals, bite sized pieces, try not to see everything as what the scales tell you. Notice the things which come easier to do, or clothes which fit better. Take measurements of neck, arms, what ever about every month.

Most of all stick with the honesty, you will have bad days and still log those and say good by to it, tomorrow you will have the same number of calories at the start of the day, I hope this will be a good support for you. Today is today now is now. Remember it will be a long war but celebrate each battle you win. Cheat days do not exist, well I can never delude myself. Plan your treats within your allocation. Go for it, Good fortune, Good Health

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Iv been using MFP for a long time its worked but fallen off the wagon a couple of times and maybe don't deserve to be asking for this help , last night I lost a very good friendship and I feel like im broken, iv decided to sort my miserable life out because I deserve better, maybe if I sort my mind/weight/life out everything will fall in to place (wishful thinking I know) so I guess im asking for help, because I cant to this alone and cant trust the people in my life, I have at minimum 70 lbs/ 5 st to lose.

Open to new people, happy to chat in general. give and take advice, thanks guys/

posotive is the attitude, negative is not the mood buddy!

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Chin up dude

Gawd i fall off and climb back on 'the fitness wagon' all the time, im sure most of us do to a certain extent ~ holidays, school days off, weekends away, daily grind getting in the way, its not Monday?!?.....i could go on.....the most important thing, and you said it yourself Daryl, is that you have been off and ON, so you clearly have the determination as you are still going.
You are going through a difficult time and you are doing the right thing by asking for support and motivation to keep you moving forward and on the wagon.....its a bumpy ride but you will get there :happy:
Im not entirely sure in what context you lost a close friend, but having gone through losing a very dear and close friend, to depression, and also losing what i thought was a good friend (which was also painful but necessary).
Both of these loses made me look at life from different perspectives and take notice of whats important. I had to start with my own mental/physical health and well being and then everything else comes along with that.
Im not the most chatty on here but im sure there are many people who can speak up and help you with words of support and encouragment on a more regular basis.
Keep plugging away......all good things come to those who.....work hard for it :bigsmile:

Hi Daryl.

Why do you keep falling off the wagon? What's your approach and why do you stop?

If it's happened multiple times, especially if for the same/similar reasons each time, we should tweak your approach, yes?

Hey Daryl,

I think just admitting this to total stragners is a huge step forward. You can add me, I am new and I need help too. I can not seem to get myself motivated to do what I know I need to be doing because I have failed so many times before. I do not want to fail, so if I never start, I can't fail. But, not starting is failure before even beginning. So, as you can see, I need help too. Maybe we can encourage each other.

Thanks!

I would think many people (including myself) have fallen off the wagon more than once. Everyone deserves to be here and so do you. Add me if you like. You can do it and we can all help each other.

Daryl I am so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, grief can be a great motivator. I have started and restarted my diet so many times that I literally cannot count. I really need to make changes too! I am here for you! To motivate or just to listen! We can do this together!!!!!!!!!! We deserve the best!

Sorry to hear this,, big hugs

sorry you're having a tough time.

think about what made you fall off the wagon in the past and make allowances for those issues so that they wont knock you down in the future.

feel free to add me