Why can't I just do it?

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  • Mswife09
    Mswife09 Posts: 81 Member
    The hard thing is motivation comes from within so until you find something that is important to you, you won't have it. My motivation had nothing to do with losing weight or getting healthy. I used to be on anti-depressants which didn't make me feel good at all. My therapist wanted me to be around people so I would go to this cheap local gym because it was the only place I could think of where I would be around people but have an excuse not to really interact with them much. Instead I discovered that working out made me feel better than any pills could. I started working out regularly after that because I loved how good I felt afterwards.

    And when I started on here it was tough and frustrating, but as I progressed, I got more and more excited to reach the next milestone. I did lose my motivation last summer and ended up gaining back some of the weight I lost, but I've been working on the issues that caused that and am getting back on tracking.

    You aren't going to be motivated all the time. But when you find the thing that works for you it will feel great. And often the best way to find it is just to do a lot of internal work and deal with what is eating you.

    yes i use to be on anti-depressents to, but they were making me weird so i stop them four months ago...and back in april i lost 20 pounds in a month but lost hope and quit and i am now back in the beginning.
  • NRSPAM
    NRSPAM Posts: 961 Member
    I have a hard time getting motivated too. That's why I lake doing scheduled exercise classes at the gym. I'm too much of a procrastinator. I'll say I'm going to workout all day long, and sometimes I never do it. Other times I wait until it's super late to do it. If I know there's a scheduled time I have to be there, that's the only way I'll get off my butt most of the time. Lol.
  • prattiger65
    prattiger65 Posts: 1,657 Member
    Based on what I have read in this thread, you are seeking help in the very wrong place. You need medical/psychological help. If you really love your workouts and the healthy way you cook, yet you can't get motivated to do it, I wonder what other things in your life that are good and healthy that you are neglecting? Please get some real medical help, not advice from some random internet posters.
  • Sreneesa
    Sreneesa Posts: 1,170 Member
    I too feel the same way.

    Ive been working out for three months and it still is a chore each and everyday.

    You are not alone in this. I have found switching up workouts and doing strength training stuff is helping.

    But, I am waiting on it to become a habit like showering. lol

    For some of us it takes longer. But trust me girl its a chore and I just try not to allow myself to think too much and do more action.

    Fitness blender has helped me to be a little more motivated. Try going on youtube and looking at different routines.

    And remember, U GOT THIS!

    I do all my workouts at home as well.

    Treadmill
    mini stepper
    dumbbells
    barbell
    shred
    Youtube
    exercise ball
    resistant bands
  • Aedon2
    Aedon2 Posts: 11 Member
    Sometimes I don't always workout because I'm tired or just don't feel like it. I found that when I use some apps (runtastic, fitbit) I got more motivated than by doing it alone. Even though my Mom is doing it with me we need outside motivation to keep it up! Sometimes though you just need a break from working out and eating right. I find that having one day each week where I can eat anything I want and not feel guilty about it helps. Although I still try to log it to remind myself why I don't do that everyday :wink: I usually workout in front of my TV watching Netflix....
  • seeingthelight
    seeingthelight Posts: 78 Member
    It sounds to me like you ARE doing it! I loved all the posts and got a lot of information, but the bottom line is you say you ARE exercising, you ARE cooking and eating healthy and you HAVE lost 8#s. The only thing I haven't seen is why you want to lose weight??? That's something to keep focused on. Personally I want to get stronger and lose some weight because I am 65 and want to enjoy the rest of my life. It has been fairly easy for me, I admit, -raising kids, keeping house, while working full-time kept me active and kept me from gaining too much weight. Now I just keep house and visit my kids and grandkids and I have gained weight and lost strength and if I want to keep up with the kids and enjoy the outdoors I have to do something about it. So even though lots of days I want to eat chocolate and lots of wine and jelly donuts I don't -most of the time. I think about those grandkids and how they can outrun me and I go to the basement and put on a video.-LOL. Luckily, like alot of the people posting the exercise keeps me up - as it has all my life and when it fails, my grandkids do and when nothing else does these people do. So hang in there- you CAN and ARE doing it.

    PS: Keep going to your doctor - you may need medicine, many people do and it is not a weakness, just a fact of life.
  • Mswife09
    Mswife09 Posts: 81 Member
    Based on what I have read in this thread, you are seeking help in the very wrong place. You need medical/psychological help. If you really love your workouts and the healthy way you cook, yet you can't get motivated to do it, I wonder what other things in your life that are good and healthy that you are neglecting? Please get some real medical help, not advice from some random internet posters.

    I do get help and believe it or not this helps me too
  • Mswife09
    Mswife09 Posts: 81 Member
    I too feel the same way.

    Ive been working out for three months and it still is a chore each and everyday.

    You are not alone in this. I have found switching up workouts and doing strength training stuff is helping.

    But, I am waiting on it to become a habit like showering. lol

    For some of us it takes longer. But trust me girl its a chore and I just try not to allow myself to think too much and do more action.

    Fitness blender has helped me to be a little more motivated. Try going on youtube and looking at different routines.

    And remember, U GOT THIS!

    I do all my workouts at home as well.

    Treadmill
    mini stepper
    dumbbells
    barbell
    shred
    Youtube
    exercise ball
    resistant bands

    Wow but your ticker tells me you did great.
  • Mswife09
    Mswife09 Posts: 81 Member
    It sounds to me like you ARE doing it! I loved all the posts and got a lot of information, but the bottom line is you say you ARE exercising, you ARE cooking and eating healthy and you HAVE lost 8#s. The only thing I haven't seen is why you want to lose weight??? That's something to keep focused on. Personally I want to get stronger and lose some weight because I am 65 and want to enjoy the rest of my life. It has been fairly easy for me, I admit, -raising kids, keeping house, while working full-time kept me active and kept me from gaining too much weight. Now I just keep house and visit my kids and grandkids and I have gained weight and lost strength and if I want to keep up with the kids and enjoy the outdoors I have to do something about it. So even though lots of days I want to eat chocolate and lots of wine and jelly donuts I don't -most of the time. I think about those grandkids and how they can outrun me and I go to the basement and put on a video.-LOL. Luckily, like alot of the people posting the exercise keeps me up - as it has all my life and when it fails, my grandkids do and when nothing else does these people do. So hang in there- you CAN and ARE doing it.

    PS: Keep going to your doctor - you may need medicine, many people do and it is not a weakness, just a fact of life.

    I want to lose weight to be healthy, to feel sexy because I feel disgusting, and be able to shop anywhere but plus size department. Feel good in my skin I feel like I am in the wrong body.
  • gsc560
    gsc560 Posts: 11
    I don't think you should be depressed about things. Be patient and kind with yourself, and take credit for the things you ARE doing. Think about the path you want to take long term - and remember each day is a small step. Find people who will help you along the way (which, since you are here, you already have some). Good luck!
  • Mswife09
    Mswife09 Posts: 81 Member
    I don't think you should be depressed about things. Be patient and kind with yourself, and take credit for the things you ARE doing. Think about the path you want to take long term - and remember each day is a small step. Find people who will help you along the way (which, since you are here, you already have some). Good luck!

    Thank You gsc560
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    cus you dont want it bad enough... yet. nothing wrong with that.

    once you've reached your absolute worst moment with being overweight then you'll find your motivation because at that point you'll be committed to making your lifestyle change.

    and like other people have said, you dont have to motivated. i do many things in my life i dont want to do and am not motivated to do, but i do them because they allow me to do other things i really want to do.
  • seeingthelight
    seeingthelight Posts: 78 Member
    You will lose weight. I know you will. You may feel your body is disgusting but It's really not. It's an amazing creation that can do wonderful things- you just need to mold it a little and you CAN do it. I can tell you are a smart, thoughtful woman. Treat yourself well. Get your hair or your nails done, get a massage or cuddle up in front of a fire and read a book. What are your hobbies??? Do some charity work, help someone in need, anything that makes you feel good. What do you do for fun- find something to make you feel good and do it. I hope MFP gets their recipe sharing app up and running and then you can share your recipes with us! And believe me you are doing a good thing with this thread because we are all involved and learning.
  • DamePiglet
    DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
    Hi OP,

    Well, your diary isn't open, so I can't really tell, but is it possible that the calorie goal you set for yourself is too low and therefore, you're tired? Maybe the depressed version of "hangry"?
    Do you think you'd feel better if you ate a bit more?

    Weightless is mostly about calorie deficit, and exercise helps with that and in many other ways, too.
    Maybe just do the stuff you actually love right now. As you progress, then you might actually WANT to tackle the rest.

    Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Pretty soon, the walk gets easier.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    All of the above, unless you are clinically depressed, in which case you might benefit from a visit to your doc, or therapy, or a combination thereof? I know when I am depressed it feels almost impossible to work on any goals (career, home, self-care, etc.). This time of the year is bad for those of us who battle depression. Good luck to you!


    Yes i am clinically depressed and i do see a doctor and i know that is what makes it so much harder.

    If you want to lose the weight you will....it's that simple really.

    If you enjoy your exercise and the food then your depression will not be that big of a factor.

    I suffer from it as well esp in the winter but exercise and being healthy is proven to help with depression.

    Not to be mean (and this will come off as mean) but I am being blunt actually..

    You either want it bad enough or you don't.
  • ChristineOlivarri
    ChristineOlivarri Posts: 62 Member
    I think it's about changing your thoughts about food, at least that's what I have had to do since starting. I'm not thinking of food as comfort anymore but something you need to survive and that's it. I have also started a new side business that has completely been consuming most of my day so my mind isn't on food like it was before.

    Also when I feel like I want to eat everything in my fridge or pig out on junk food I follow a few steps first #1 stop and think why I want this. #2. Drink water #3 work out for an hour. If after all those steps I still feel like I need extra food out of my regular diet I eat a small healthy meal. I really think 99% of overeating (at least for myself) is due to my mind set at that moment. Being aware of that and what to do about it is the first step, once you figure that out, dieting and changing your life for the better isn't so hard.

    Wish you the best of luck !
  • Jezebel9
    Jezebel9 Posts: 396 Member
    People who have not been depressed (Major Depression) often have difficulty understanding what it is like... the struggle to do the simplest things. I have been diagnosed for many years. I have tried all the medications. They kept me alive, but not living. I now use cannabis sativa to help boost my mood and motivation. I know it is counter to what everyone has been told. If you smoke marijuana, you are supposed to get munchies and get fat and lazy. I use medical grade cannabis sativa for depression, and it is the only thing that has worked. I have a few tools: motivational videos, green tea, cannabis sativa, my dog, I make bargains with myself, tiny tiny goals: 'I'm just going to walk from here to there", music that motivates me. I wish you the very best.

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